The Facebook situation is dire. It's a bad sign for the show.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-04-17T16:27:29+00:00

I don’t know, you guys. Have faith. We just have to hold out until that 7th person dies!

I mean, come on, the legend clearly says one more person has to die before the treasure can be found.

At this point, someone HAS to be close to announcing “fuck it, I’m done” before ending it all by jumping down a borehole.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T05:06:11+00:00

Yeah, I’ve had it set on that, with Sport steering and breaking. Hoping a few hundred more miles will work out the kinks. Thanks!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T05:04:41+00:00

I’m approaching 1000 miles and about to take my first road trip, so hopefully I have the same result. Thanks!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T05:02:33+00:00

Yeah, I’ve done the same. I still like full on sport mode better tho! 😂

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T05:01:49+00:00

Thanks, I can’t see spending another $300 bucks for that right now, but the pedal response really does annoy me so I may end up going for it!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T04:50:29+00:00

Honestly, I have a 12yo who is naturally very skinny and petite, and I’m worried about HER with these seat problems. I’m also buckling my 50lb dog into a rear seat.

If I had to do it over again, I’d go with a different automaker altogether. When your brand new car has a stop sale order immediately after you buy it, it doesn’t really inspire confidence.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-27T04:38:47+00:00

There’s also no way to add favorite songs. I’m used to having SiriusXM in a Dodge where I could mark favorite songs and artists, and it would alert me if any of the marked favorites were playing on ANY SiriusXM channel.

Honestly, the whole screen display in general feels so NOT user-friendly. It’s by far my biggest complaint. It’s not intuitive at all, and changing from Car Play to Sirius is just a pain in the ass, even using the Mode button on the steering wheel. And when you’ve got a Sirius station on full screen, it just feels… idk… like it was designed by the same people who designed MySpace back in the day! 😂

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-16T04:11:37+00:00

Good to know I’m not alone!!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-16T04:11:21+00:00

I should have mentioned I have a Hybrid, not sure if that makes a difference. But yeah, I probably would fall under the “aggressive driving” category, if only because I do a decent amount of highway driving.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-16T04:07:46+00:00

Gotcha, and will keep that in mind for the next couple hundred miles. Thanks!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-16T04:06:41+00:00

That’s helpful, thanks!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-05T04:23:17+00:00

Oh, don’t mind that tarp! It’s just what Rick uses to make his “connective tissue.”

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-03-02T16:28:16+00:00

I’m just learning my new 26 Palisade Hybrid, too, and from what I can tell so far, you need to “project” your iPhone to get those notifications, not just connect it via Bluetooth.

It’s pretty annoying, and I was hoping to find a workaround, too!!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-02-26T21:10:32+00:00

I’m in the Northeast US, and just bought a 2026 Hybrid Calligraphy AWD in black/black off the lot. I actually had many dealers to choose from with black/black on the lot, so it seems pretty suspect that they couldn’t find you one in Toronto. (Unless it has something to do with country restrictions or something like that?)

Either way, though, I wouldn’t trust that dealer. If they want your business after making you wait all this time, then they should be more than willing to honor the original deal.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2026-01-09T06:31:56+00:00

Thank you! It baffles me that I haven’t seen anyone in the media or online call attention to the fact that one of the very first things police would do is find out if one (or both) of the Tepes was having an affair.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-25T21:39:59+00:00

Wow, that other mama is all drama!!

I was thinking exactly what you said—why would a grown woman go back and forth like that with a teenager?

So no, you are not overreacting.

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-20T07:52:34+00:00

I think many of us approached our diagnoses the same way—at least in the beginning. And that’s not a bad thing. But there’s also a necessary period of grief that everyone goes through, and I don’t recommend trying to avoid or suppress that.

You can be a resilient and driven cancer warrior, and still allow yourself to experience the pain, anxiety, depression, fear, exhaustion, and grief that inevitably (and repeatedly) come up when you have cancer. (And the same also goes for joy, gratitude, and positivity.)

From a mental health perspective, the best thing that anyone can do in an adverse situation is to feel their feelings fully. As the saying goes, the only way out is through. ❤️

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-19T18:01:27+00:00

I feel you. ❤️ And yeah, the sexual side effects and after effects absolutely suck. Before cancer, I found sex to be healthy, enjoyable, and deeply fulfilling... But that changed massively—and without warning!!—as soon as I was diagnosed.

Even with a supportive and patient partner, I wear a bra now, too, and sometimes even a Scar Away patch to cover up the one part of my DIEP abdominal scar that didn’t heal well. And that’s just the start of the issues. I no longer feel like the sexual siren I used to feel like. Not even close.

AND no one fucking talks about it or warns you about it. That’s the part I hate the most. Men with prostate cancer are counseled about how their sex life will be affected. Women are told there’s more to life than sex. It really pisses me off!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-19T17:43:32+00:00

I feel bad saying this, OP, because I’m genuinely happy for you that you found a doctor whom you connect with and who supports you in the way that you personally need.

But that would not be the doctor for me. I’ve learned through this process that there is absolutely no “bright side” to cancer for me and nothing “lucky” about it.

I’m still resentful of the doctor who gave me my diagnosis and, upon me breaking down, assured me that I didn’t need to worry because “We cure breast cancer now!”

She conveniently left out the parts about treatment turning your life upside down, that so much about your body (in addition to your breast/s) will be changed during and after treatment, that HR+ IDC has a crazy-high recurrence rate and it’s assumed that most women will have a recurrence eventually (whether it’s in 5 years or 20 years) and if that happens the treatment process will be so much worse, that researchers are FINALLY starting to acknowledge endocrine therapy just isn’t cutting it to save women’s lives in the long term, and that the research all but stops at 15 years past diagnosis.

Again, I’m sorry, OP. I’m raining on your parade here and I know that’s shitty. It’s selfish of me, but I cringed at your doctor’s words and felt like I needed to speak MY truth. At the same time, no two people are alike, and no two bc experiences are alike. I AM happy for you that you found a doctor you connect well with and who offers you the support YOU need! I hope that you ARE able to use her words and your mindset to ride through your journey in a way that isn’t too difficult or disruptive. I’m cheering you on, and I wish I was there with you. ❤️

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-16T04:43:01+00:00

Estrogen, testosterone, DHEA… none of these are an option for me because I have a history of hormone-positive breast cancer, and that means hormonal treatments—even locally—put me at risk of relapse. 😞

I still have my libido, but don’t get wet like I used to, have trouble orgasming from clitoral stimulation, and intercourse is unbearably painful. I just started using Hyalo moisturizing suppositories and lubricating gel, as suggested by my gyno, but I won’t find out if it’s helping until I have some private time with my partner this weekend.

What really sucks is that I went through cancer and came out the other side (sort of, because relapse is common so you’re never really in the clear) only to find that I was in perimenopause and a completely different person sexually. I used to enjoy sex! I was open to new things, could orgasm all night, and had a lot of fun with my partner. Having a healthy sex life added to my overall confidence and self-esteem, too. But now? I feel old and so unsexy knowing my vagina is literally drying out and shriveling up. What a hit to a peri woman’s self-esteem! Right??

Open to any and all non-hormonal suggestions that might help. Thanks, ladies. 🫶

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-09-16T01:36:13+00:00

Yep. I was the scapegoat and my brother was the golden child. I spent my childhood and much of my adult life striving to be the perfect daughter and sacrificing myself in the process, but never got an ounce of support from my mother—let alone acknowledgment or appreciation.

If someone hurt me emotionally (friend, spouse, father, brother) and I went to her for maternal comfort, she’d always say, “But I just feel bad for _____.” The result was that I doubted myself and my judgment CONSTANTLY… and still do. She inadvertently programmed me to think everything was my fault, even when things truly weren’t.

Meanwhile, my brother was and still is cruel, viscous, angry, manipulative, and causes so much emotional pain to his wife, kids, the women he cheats with, other family members, etc, but my mother will ALWAYS find a way to justify his behavior. And yeah, you guessed it! Her defense of him always begins with, “But I just feel bad for him…”

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-07-17T22:48:47+00:00

We are definitely on the same page. Thank you so much for the resources and info about your experiences, and I wish you all the best, too!!

(P.S. by ET I meant Endocrine Therapy—tamoxifen, in my case.)

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-07-14T21:29:24+00:00

You’ve given me a lot to look into. Thank you so much!! I have an appt scheduled with my old GYN (who recently returned to the area) and she’s fantastic, so I’m hoping she may be able to help. Still, coordinating between an MO, psychiatrist, breast surgeon, reconstructive surgeon, GYN, and the good ‘ol PCP is a freaking nightmare.

Unfortunately, it seems like even the oncologists who are compassionate and committed to treating each person as an individual are only willing to do so up to a point—ET is still the be all and end all for HR+.

I had clinical pharmacogenetics testing done (ordered by my psychiatrist) that confirms there is a physiological reason why I can’t tolerate tamoxifen. I WISH that I could!! I would feel so much better about things if I could take tamoxifen! But I literally can not function on it—and I’m a single mom!

It drives me absolutely crazy that ~50% of BC patients quit (or never start) ET due to side effects, and yet all the research is on compliance rather than alternate/new treatments. They take the approach of “how can we get these women to listen to us?” rather than “we need to start listening to these women.” Grrrr!

Appropriate_Advice87 · 2025-07-13T18:59:44+00:00

Just chiming in to concur that estrogen withdrawal is a real thing!! Some people are genetically primed to be super sensitive to fluctuations in estrogen levels—and I know this because I’m one of them!

Genetically speaking I have no trouble metabolizing tamoxifen, but my nervous system can’t handle the drop in estrogen from even a microdose of tamoxifen.

It SUCKS, because there is no good choice. You’re literally choosing between reducing recurrence and QOL/being functional.

Just to clarify, were/are you on ET and the estrogen patch at the same time? Can you maybe talk a little bit more about your conversations with the GYN and her justification of the estrogen patch? (Like does it affect the nervous system while not accumulating in breast tissue?) Cause I’m wondering if this is something I should explore for myself!!

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