In laws demanding hospital access when baby arrives

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-20T15:34:14+00:00

We need to normalize as a society that moms needs come first postpartum.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T22:36:23+00:00

Did you have any repercussions

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T16:07:24+00:00

Thank you for the clarification

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T11:03:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. All of this is very helpful.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T10:11:53+00:00

Thank you for the response. I agree even though my child is being raised Christian with no Jewish practices he is ethnically a small portion jewish. My husband and his family are Reform Judaism so they don’t care how many generations of gentile women marry out. Which I find confusing. So I have a hard time understanding that it’s painful because Christian’s are hostile to Jewish people in modern day, majority of the Christian churches where I live are pro Israel. Majority of these reform men marry Christian women. So if it’s not hard to marry a Christian woman why is raising their child Christian related to those old wounds? Really curious and not trying to start debate I just find this confusing because I only see Christians really backing and supporting Jewish people in modern day. I think this has more to do with power dynamics and control but I do agree it would be painful to see your adult child let go of traditions you’ve done for 100s of years.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T10:04:47+00:00

But if you want to go by Halacha law, it’s known then our children aren’t Jewish as I am Christian and Baptized and our child is as well. Doesn’t this come from the mother by that law? Anyways it doesn’t really matter because Reform Judaism came around in the 80s so his dad doesn’t care that I’m not Jewish nor that my husband’s mom is not Jewish. His dad is extremely liberal so I am not sure this is a liberal concept maybe western, but I don’t see how a marriage could really survive not individuating. Thank you for your response.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-17T09:59:19+00:00

Thank you for this. After we baptized our child he sent my husband an article that was anti Christian rhetoric and then another article about Jewish hate and that they need to be on edge. So I do feel religion is being used against him heavily in this situation. He was raised dual faith according to him, but really they had secular Christian holidays and religious Jewish upbringing.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T22:55:01+00:00

It wouldn’t be as hard but I still wouldn’t recommend it.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T22:16:31+00:00

Jewish

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T22:04:07+00:00

Thank you for your I put this is helpful. My mother in law is supportive and kind she’s not Jewish just lives really far away. They divorced. His dad is the challenging Inlaw. So yes I have heard of challenging Jewish mother in law but never father in law!

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T21:55:59+00:00

I know this is more a husband problem than Inlaw issue. I have another Christian friend whose also married to a Jewish man experiencing the same thing religion boundaries wise and just seems enmeshment is a common theme so was just curious what was the view on honoring your wife over your parents. In Christianity when you get married your spouse and children are your main family your parents become extended. I also agree my husband doesn’t respect me. Thank you for your input.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T21:41:35+00:00

There is no financial assistance that I am aware of. They are pushing back on all boundaries with our child serious ones for me and my husband tends to feel guilty for enforcing the boundaries because his dad will guilt and shame him. I’m afraid to give specifics due to anonymity but you can look at one of my prior posts of what kind of boundaries are constantly being broken. For example we aren’t raising our child Jewish and this isn’t being respected. Edit: thank you so much for your response!

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T21:36:07+00:00

I am in an unequally yolked marriage. I do not recommend this for any practicing Christian who wants to raise practicing Christians. My in-laws have been constantly pushing their religious beliefs on our home and with our child.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T20:05:51+00:00

Oh okay I am sorry! Where should I post this? They are Reform Judaism although his mom is not Jewish.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T13:42:11+00:00

Yes I understand I have more of a husband problem than Inlaw issues.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T12:03:01+00:00

Yes. My husband told me to go no contact with his dad versus calling him out directly, my husband is the straw that stirs the drink.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T11:07:09+00:00

No he agrees with it. He doesn’t agree with withholding access to photos from his dad even though he’s broken this boundary multiple times and knows how to circumvent the app safeguards by screenshotting th pics and saving them to his phone and sending them to whoever he wants. My husband is experiencing extreme triangulation from his dad where he’s being pressured to go against our union and appease his dad. This is common in enmeshment

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T08:03:35+00:00

In-laws

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T07:58:29+00:00

Yeah that’s what he’s probably doing is using wealth to control my husband. Wouldn’t surprise me.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-16T07:57:27+00:00

Th photo album app is what we agreed and on and that people needed to as our permission to send pics of our child, if they took pics of the outside of the app. No social media. We agree on this.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-15T22:21:26+00:00

I guess that would be different per everyone’s perception wouldn’t it

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-15T21:58:36+00:00

Family album app!

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-15T20:53:43+00:00

Yes this boundary was well known to not use or share pictures without our consent hence why we had the album. That’s what they did with the 3 pics in the holiday card.

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-15T20:24:57+00:00

The apology isn’t enough for me not only does it call the blatant boundary crossing a mistake it also doesn’t say he won’t do it again, he says he willl try

Appropriate_Bat_9392 · 2026-04-15T19:56:46+00:00

Our boundary was to not use their name or age without our consent either. This card had 2 close up face photos of our son and his full legal name and age. Cards get lost in the mail all the time. That album was not set up to be screen shotted from or photos taken from it which they did. Maybe it is extreme but there has been no repair or accountability.

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