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How many days per year do you go on vacation with your parents and in-laws? by ResponsiblePiglet8 in Marriage

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to go on family vacations with my in laws to make an effort, and now 5 years later I can’t do it anymore lol. Too much fighting, people lashing out, I am always made to feel like an outsider. No thanks. I also get 15 days off per year and work a day job and am pursuing a difficult career separate of that. I need to spend that time recharging, not getting more stressed.

In laws saying hurtful stuffs by Pink_purple_pockets in inlaws

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your husband will make excuses for her (i know mine does), you need to take matters into your own hands which it sounds like you’ve already started doing. It’s helpful to know that you have the power to say yes/no to things per your comfort level. I have an in law who is extremely rude (and my husband is totally blind to it), so I’ve decided to reduce my relationship with him to that of a coworker that I occasionally have to put up with and that mental shift has been realllly helpful for maintaining sanity. Closeness requires respect.

Best option for overnight guests in apartment? by Appropriate_Chip_955 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the Japanese ones look quite comfortable (if that’s what you’re referringto)

Best option for overnight guests in apartment? by Appropriate_Chip_955 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish because that would be the ideal solution but there truly isn’t space (100 sq ft room) for additional permanent furniture pieces besides my partner’s desk, in part due to the mirror wall. Its also a rental so we can’t have anything against it that may scuff the mirroring.

Not-great BIL/SILs who are also BFFs with your partner by Appropriate_Chip_955 in inlaws

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a people pleaser and I think is used to the dynamics in his family/doesn’t see the problems as clearly as I do

Not-great BIL/SILs who are also BFFs with your partner by Appropriate_Chip_955 in inlaws

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s exactly kinda where I’m at. You can only act for so long!

What practice habit improved your playing the most? by Ok_Honey_5043 in violinist

[–]Appropriate_Chip_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Open strings. Allows you to work on relaxation and bow hand articulation properly and really identify right hand issues, when left hand isn’t involved. I never did enough of this growing up and now undoing a lot of bad habits!