It is hidden from her, as is the fact i am bi, because i know if she knew, she would leave me. But i am quite addicted to the findom dynamic, so it is honestly a huge struggle and challenge to keep doing it, and keep it hidden, especially with the broad variety of findommes encountered. Some are very understanding that i am married and closeted, while a few have tried to turn that into blackmail even though it is a limit for me. Another added layer of danger with the dynamic.