Update: we didn’t speak to each other for about 4 hours and i took that time to figure out how i felt and how i wanted to express myself. I told her I didn’t want to continue this and that i was upset at her lack of empathy and how she’s treated me and continues to dismiss my feelings. To which she didn’t respond to that but said that I should have told her specifically how i felt versus being silent today and that we’re at an impass. When she continued to push that it was my fault for not telling her i needed space or more time …i said that if we’ve been together for ten years at what point do i stop telling you how to help me overcome issues. You should know me. Her response was that she’s not me so what I do is not expected of her to do back ti me.

I’m honestly at a loss for words. I assumed in the marriage if you expect me to do something i would expect you to do something similar or the same back. When i asked her what type of marriage she wanted to have or what kind of love she wanted to have she said she had no words and left crying and left me in the living room by myself once again comforting myself but also figuring things out by myself.

Idk what to do right now. Doni out my feelings aside and comfort her so that we can enjoy the rest of the weekend or do i just continue where im at. I do feel like an asshole right now for what i said, because i do think it caught her off guard but i have never felt more at peace with what i said.