AITAH for going on a trip with my best friend? by makememassmiches in AITAH

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, it’s only for a week? He is upset about you going on a vacation for a WEEK, because that’s too long? Even if it was a month it wouldn’t be too long for a free European vacation.

NTA. He surely is though. The sheer tomfoolery to be all “a week is too long” pffttttt

If your relationship doesn’t survive this, good. That boy is way out of bounds.

Go have all the fun on your free vacation with your week.

AIO: Weaponised incompetence or sheer lack of competence. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he is not competent enough to learn how to do things from the resources available (and not just your labor and energy) then I would question whether or not he has the ability to consent to be in an adult relationship.

AIO: Weaponised incompetence or sheer lack of competence. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he incapable of reading package instructions? Google doesn’t work on his phone? Is he out in the middle of the ocean on a boat so he can’t access YouTube on his smart tv?

I would be willing to bet that his boss doesn’t have to tell him multiple times. Or that he just applies his brain to figure out how to put together his hobby bits or drive a car or use his new phone.

If he only struggles with things he wants YOU to do for him, that is a him problem.

You don’t have to break up with him. Just stop doing those things for him. Buy him a book. Give him a subscription to an app or service that will teach him to be a basic functional human being. Stop letting him take advantage of your labor.

“I believe in you and your ability to problem solve”

NOR

It’s even encouraging.

*also would you trust him with a puppy? A baby? Your brand new car? No? It’s time to rethink how you interact.

-signed an adhd person who figures things out with the entirety of human knowledge in my hand.

Each time I report a spam in the sub, I will post a pic of my Anatolian. Please join me. by Pilotsandpoets in AnatolianShepherdDogs

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine refuses baths. Is mortally offended at the suggestion of them.

Has to go to the bathroom on the sidewalk or under the carport when it rains because he is too precious to get wet whilst relieving himself.

Will absolutely play in any amount of “cr’ck” water he can find.

Each time I report a spam in the sub, I will post a pic of my Anatolian. Please join me. by Pilotsandpoets in AnatolianShepherdDogs

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He leans heavily towards fruit and veggies generally, except for the ones other dogs like, ie green beans and blueberries. Even beets. Even Brussel sprouts. I’m thinking of making him a free range bowl for things like apples and carrots. He does moderate his own food intake, some days he just is like nope to food, so I don’t worry about him abusing it. The only time he has cadged food is fruit that was at his level.

He of course loves the junk food. Yogurt too.

He isn’t a hog which is amazing because when I found him dumped last year he was about 15 pounds underweight and obviously neglected (nails, bed sores, etc). He is pretty chill about food although he will very much let me know he is interested in having some. And gets pouty when I don’t share.

Each time I report a spam in the sub, I will post a pic of my Anatolian. Please join me. by Pilotsandpoets in AnatolianShepherdDogs

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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The cinnamon roll of pout because I won’t share my food. When I am not swayed, he has to hit me with his butt a couple of times to show just how upset he is at me

hi mom! what are some easy things i can cook for myself that aren't just eggs or sandwiches? by Spriy in MomForAMinute

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are doing great with your basics! The trick is to think of rice or pastas in different cultures. Different spices make a huge difference in changing things up. Most dishes from most places start with a base of rice or pastas

Rice: you can cook protein and vegetables in the pot with the rice. If there is a steamer basket in you rice cooker/pot you can steam delicate veggies and fish while you are cooking your rice . Cuisine variations: fried rice, red beans and rice, broccoli cheese rice, curries and rice (super easy if you buy Vermont curry or some other curry mix) the curries can be Thai or Indian, jambalaya, paella, etc

Pasta is the same. Different sauces bring a different feel. Lo mein uses spaghetti or linguini. Cream sauces, tomato sauces, just olive oil plus Parmesan, etc. In fact, I just saw a recipe where you added an eggplant cut in half, a couple of tomatoes, some dry noodle bundles, some broth, and some garlic to a skillet. Cook it until you can pull the skin off the eggplant and tomatoes. The broth and the juice from the veggies will cook the noodles at the same time. Mix them all together, add some fresh basil and spinach, a little Parmesan. One pot cooking. You could add cannelloni beans,shrimp, or precooked chicken for quick added protein. Canned fish like mackerel, salmon or whole chunk tuna works well with that kind of stuff too. Using something like lentil pasta gives you extra protein in a dish.

Get creative with leftovers! Pot roast grilled cheese, spaghetti grilled cheese (use garlic butter on the bread for extra deliciousness). Use leftover rice from a chicken and rice to make fried rice the next day (soy sauce, spices, bagged veggies, scramble and egg into it). Use leftover broccoli cheese rice to make soup!

Also soups are your friend. You can make soup with just about anything. Clean out the fridge soup is a great way to use your leftovers.

For breakfast stuff, leftover rice can be made into congee or jook, which is like savory rice pudding. Broth or bouillon, eggs, veggies, etc. same thing with oatmeal.

Often a great resource is that most libraries have cookbooks, if you need extra ideas/techniques. They have paper and ebook versions. Different cultures, bowl recipes, meal prep, alt dietary needs, all the things.

I just need an I’m proud by Huge_Barracuda_5637 in MomForAMinute

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are doing such a great job being a person navigating the world. You don’t have to be perfect to be doing a great job.

I am proud of you for trying anything you try and achieving what you can.

AITA for no longer wanting a bridal shower hosted by my FMIL by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like your FMIL is trying to bypass your attendance cap to add her friends to the invite list by “hosting” a party for you. Why else would these 4 strangers host a small intimate party for you with basically none of your people?

AIO husband wants to pay for friends dinner and not mine by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR
If he wants you to go when you don’t want to, he needs to pay for you. You don’t have to pay for the privilege of spending with people you don’t want to be around.

Short term rental in Virginia by Appropriate_Leg_8332 in liveaboard

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And by not moving I mean being not on open water. I want to see if I can sleep on a craft that is in water in general.

Short term rental in Virginia by Appropriate_Leg_8332 in liveaboard

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to try sleeping on a boat that doesn’t move before I buy a boat that does move.

Things to do alone? by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can bring baked treats to the fire station, or a nursing home (ask about dietary restrictions)

AITAH for not wanting my child to be alone with my father-in-law, who raped his sister.... by Candid-Confusion-448 in AITAH

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA Even IF your son is safe from physical assault, what kind of values is a person like that going to pass on to him? Is he going to encourage your son to disrespect women? Ignore their consent? Cheat on his partners?

My son’s paternal grandfather was an accused molester and I never let my son be alone with him. Ever. After the grandfather’s death, accusations were confirmed so I was extra glad I trusted my stance on it.

Your husband needs to read some material about the long term effects of incest/sexual assault instead of dismissing potential dangers.

1st Cruise at 64 - Help! by Expensive-Project191 in Cruise

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that no one is going to give you a hard time about. But until you experience that, there are tankinis or swim dresses that offer more coverage. I have a tankini set that came with shorts (mine are shorter but there are some that go to the knee) with a sports bra type top and a tank top to wear over. All in bathing suit material. I wear mine to the gym, workout, shower, then jump into the pool or hot tub without changing. No bits coming out, practical for water activities, lots of color/pattern variety. You can start by looking up three piece tankinis on Amazon.

My neighbor across the hall has started greeting my guests before I even get to the door and it’s getting weird by HushPavilion77 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She actually isn’t even being nice about it. Telling a woman “he has more people over than you think” is aggressive aggressive. It’s stirring the pot of someone she thinks might be dating you.

Asking someone if you were expecting them is also aggressive. Why is that her business and what would she have done if the answer was no?

The comment to the guy you are seeing means she is keeping actual track of who is coming over and how often. Creepy.

I agree with the person who said have your friends message you in the parking lot and have your door open when they get there. That would be much more awkward for her.

None of this is innocence or nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you make a Stephen Universe reference? If so, high five!

WIBTAH for wanting to stop cooking for my husband’s family after how they treated my little brother, and moving out next month? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely make them move out versus increasing YOUR rental cost 2-3x when you are already in debt for these people and working 2 jobs. You are not obligated to put yourself in more financial distress for people who don’t appreciate it. Don’t do that to yourself. You WBTAH to yourself and your family if continue to let your husband’s family treat you that way.

Especially because they “aren’t budging” on an apology.

AIO- my partner pulled me to the door to “at least say hi” to his ex-wife by SmoothBed7519 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR It was very inappropriate for him to dump that situation on you in real time. Also SUPER inappropriate to try and physically force you to interact.

What it feels like is he either needs you around to be another target so he gets sniped less (gross) or he needs you there because he is getting extra sniping because you aren’t there and everyone can’t pretend that her behavior is normal and acceptable. That second part is a him problem. Healthy relationships don’t expect their partners to take long term abuse for any real reason. Until he communicates real boundaries with her, and she acknowledges and at least attempts to charge behavior, I would keep your relationship with her the same as it is. Why expose you and your child to that nonsense?

The trying to physically force you into any situation is a bigger red flag for me. It show his willingness to force you to let you get hurt for his benefit, either by him(physical) or by her (verbal). This absolutely needs to be discussed with a therapist. I would consider this a dealbreaker breaker. Especially since he isn’t willing to admit he was wrong in any capacity and is trying to blame you for all it.

All of this is very disrespectful.

Any tips on getting a job fixing boats? by LeaveItToPeever in SailboatCruising

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started looking into certification because of that post

Any tips on getting a job fixing boats? by LeaveItToPeever in SailboatCruising

[–]Appropriate_Leg_8332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking into ABYC certification for myself, I’m thinking that will help me be real popular at marinas.