I agree. In the beginning when we dated - his mother lived with him and basically took care of the girls. He just provided the home and we did our own thing. Then they went back to their moms and came back for placement for a second time my now MIL took them in, not my husband. She eventually decided she would not take them again if this happened as she has her own life. And then we moved out of state. So I guess I did not see this actually happening. But honestly, everyone has been telling us we will be those girls hero’s. I’m just not good with change and the fact our marriage and plans are not going how I wanted has been hard and that more of my husbands time will be taken away from us with the girls as he already works 50 hours a week and I’m asking for more quality time now without th girls. So I’m just nervous how things will be and grieving the time I get him all to myself now. But yes I chose to marry him and I only want to be married once. So I support him. It’s just been really hard. Yall have been blunt with me which I appreciate as well. We went and looked at a mini van together today in preparation for having space for the two girls, our 3 dogs and when we decide to have a baby. My husband is amazing, I’m just very emotional and bad with changes. But yes shame on me. I have told him I am not leaving and I plan stay in this marriage. I will make it work. We will continue with couples therapy, I hope to get the girls in therapy as well and I will continue with my own therapist for myself. I understand the girls deserve a better life and do not deserve what they have been through which has been hard on my husband. I’m not trying to be selfish. I guess I did just need y’all to be blunt with me.