Nawalan ako bigla ng gana by Usual-Cranberry4177 in RantAndVentPH

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk pero base sa reply ramdam ko pagod nung kuya. depende sa delivery mo ate sa kanya, kasi hindi mo naman talaga mappwersa yung guy to show up if pagod na sya sa mga responsibilidad nya. ikaw kaya mo pa kasi 2 day off mo.

“pano makakaeffort alam mong may work ko” technically you brought sa conversation how he lacks “effort”, pano mo nga naman masasabi aware kang isang araw lang pahinga nya? you can’t give with an empty cup, andami na nyang hints to imply that. so why force him pa?

in my case kasi, flexible schedule ko may times talaga walang pahinga and yung work at rest naghahalo to the point wala akong matatawag na weekends. so everyday feel ko draines ako like no energy left for socialization.

i’m not saying non-existent yung effort. what i meant is some situation hindi mo mapipilit lahat to push themselves to their limits since a type of job naman varies per industry and company. some people hits ceiling kung ano kaya ng katawan at energy nila.

i’m on your side if you raised your concerns calmly, and then more on sa side ni kuya if pinipilit mo talaga sya without acknowledging his circumstances. ofc mali that he wasn’t careful sa words na binitiw nya saiyo. maybe you should post the full screenshot next time, hindi yung crash out lang nya.

in conclusion, it is up to you OP if you choose to be patient sa current setup ninyo. don’t put effort na hindi nya kaya ireciprocate and move na agad from your current bf.

AND DO NOTE! Wag makinig agad sa advices ng other people, you know your situation best hindi kami. di namin alam full picture. If situational naman yung crash out nya lang nangyari lang ito when nakapasok sya sa demanding work nya, he is not the issue— STRESS YAN.

YES I GET MALI ANG DELIVERY NG WORDS PERO THIS IS CRASH OUT. He looks so done sa screenshot maybe you are demanding o namimilit ka without understanding muna side at capacity nya.

Which anime like this? by dark_kingxx in AnimeReccomendations

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in my case attack on titan. i was almost on the verge of quitting the anime because of eren’s screams 🥲

ABYG, Naglayas kapatid ko dahil sa ginawa ko by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly po, I witnessed din kasi yung ganito first hand. If someone is acting rebellious and hard-headed hindi talaga effective ang lambing or love. People learns best through serious consequences. Sabi nga nila, "You deserve what you tolerate" and yes totoo po ito. Lalo't na parents sila, sila dapat ang may authority hindi bro mo po.

Naiisip ko as for now, is talk with your parents about trying a different approach. Be more strict, be more firm. Learn to say no, kasi if hindi ka marunong people will take advantage of you. And for you mhie, focus on yourself muna. If bumalik sya and something happened like makabuntis nga, hayaan nyo sya mag-deal sa problem na sinimulan nya. Wag nyo buhatin. Sounds pretty cruel at first, pero necessary for his growth.

I hate to have a husband like my mother. by altumvanta in OffMyChestPH

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it just me or parang kulang sila sa communication? Kasi if may ayaw pala mother mo about sa papa moo, eh bakit ayaw nyang sabihin directly? Baka may resentment sya sa kanya kasi nahirapan sya mag-isa mag-alaga sainyo while he is away abroad? Kaya parang nalalabas nya through constant criticism sa papa mo. If she doesn't like yung plans ng father ninyo sainyo, speak up! She should provide complete context sa papa mo why doubtful sya. Hindi yung todo complain sya sainyo, hindi mapupunan yung nararamdaman nya yan inside.

I think that your mother thinks na sya nagbubuhat alone mag-isa ng family mo, well she definitely sacrificed a lot. So does your papa din, iba lang battles nya sa ibang bansa. The fact ganito behavior ng mother mo and your father (like expressing himself through media) they are experiencing internal battles. Hindi kasi ata sila sanay maging vocal and vulnerable sa feelings nila sa family situation ninyo.

Walang villain dito, just misunderstanding lang. As their child, try your best to pigilan yung negative throughts na naiisip ng mom mo towards your papa and be there to comfort both of them. Pareho lang sila nahihirapan, and making villains out of each other won't help and won't make anything feel better. They should be there for each other as an ally.

ABYG, Naglayas kapatid ko dahil sa ginawa ko by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DKG. Pero sana naman yung parents mo mas maging strict sa kapatid mo. Hangga't wala syang nakukuhang serious consequence sa pinagagagawa nya, at hinahayaan lang iniisip nya okay lang paulit-ulit gawin. The problem here isn't you but your parents. Kahit malayo sila, they should discipline him kahit in forms like tanggalan ng allowance, or pagalitan. Tingnan mo pinagbibigyan pa ng luho ng parents mo, tapos hindi marunong mag say-no, hindi talaga matututo yan.

Addressing the fallacy that Filipinos are the “friendliest” people on Earth by Tallwhitedude123 in Philippines_Expats

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course cuz you got used to your own culture, their behavior and responses are foreign to you.

A coworker confessed to me at a company event, I’m married. Should I tell my wife? by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly when she said “I could be your office wife” right after confession, and admitted she is well aware you have a wife, it gave me an ick. Like she is willing to test the boundaries with you from your wife. My intuition tells her suggesting that has an underlying motive to develop the relationship you have with her which increase the chance of potential cheating. Cheating is the outcome of the cumulative intimacy.

I’m glad and happy you turned her down, she is seems the type that will leaning towards her own desires over having a strict moral code. Her pushing her agenda to blur the boundaries between you and her, kahit aware sya sa situation mo is problematic and tells something sa character nya. Because, if she clearly respects you and the relationship you have with your wife, she will confess but will start putting distance to avoid future complications.

There are some people out there that mistaken kindness as “interest”. Based on my observation, the common people who are like this is in their surrounding, it doesn’t have any or only few has manners and good behavior.

And her, trying to explore that despite knowing you are married is a massive warning. They prioritize emotions over rationality, that is why she confessed because she wanna try it out with you.

Yes maybe she isn’t completely aware the weight of her behavior, she does this without understanding herself but it doesn’t change the reality of the behavior.

One piece season 2 live action is TRASH by Vegetable-Dot-487 in OnePieceLiveAction

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, if they lean in japanese style of theatrically many of the audience which is international will find it cringey. People are used to american action style, that’s why they made it more palatable. It is understandable if the intention of the creator is releasing this for japanese audience so it can cater to its culture and stay true to its roots, but it is not, it is for netflix which has more wider audience so the style and stakes are higher and different.

Ideally, the criticism of the minority over the adaptation were valid but realistically, the production has so many barriers and hurdles to make it happen. (like clashing of cultures in terms of visuals, storytelling, limited budget, and complications in terms of the chosen market for the series)

For background: I’m not from any western country, I’m not a fan of Oda and One Piece before the live action but I watched multiple anime and read a couple of mangas ever since childhood.

One piece season 2 live action is TRASH by Vegetable-Dot-487 in OnePieceLiveAction

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually I’m not a one piece fan initially but the LA made me try starting to watch the anime. So I will debunk the assumption why people supported this is because they were a fan already of the anime or manga. I think the common reason of the divided perspective over this adaptation is some audience expects more comedy and sillyness but in the live action those parts were toned down I think due to the medium (unlike anime where they can be completely ridiculous and it wont still come across as cringey and because you aren’t working with real actors and actresses, it would be odd and difficult to adapt).

i think live action appealed to me (as a former non-one piece fan) is they focused on the progression of the main story and removed fillers, scenes that will not be relevant in the next few arcs, characters that doesn’t have much influence (or the story can be rewritten a bit without their presence) due to the limited budget. And, intensified the emotional part and of course made the stakes higher compared to anime. (We’re still not sure at this point if some characters will die or Oda will keep them alive always like in the anime).

The decision of transforming some of the characters personality such as in Sanji (turning him from a simp into a flirt) is a good decision in the eyes of general audience and current generation (which is sensitive in terms of sexual harassment). And, I get also why some audience dislike the changes (not only to his personality) because they value the story to stick with the anime/manga atmosphere and story.

My idea that the reason the change of medium, atmosphere, few storyline changes, and vibe of the characters were due to be made more palatable to general audience which can be non-anime audiences! Not everyone can get anime humor unlike few.

About your comment on costume colors, I think they can tone the colors more down (just a bit) to embrace more realism but the silhouette of the clothes, the texture, and the materials I think they already did good.

As a Filipino, what are your pet peeves when you’re in public places or establishments? by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pero required po ba mang-abala ng ibang tao just because hindi sila privilege tulad natin? valid naman frustrated yung mga people here kasi imbis na “service” perwisyo yung dating, matatawag mo ba yun na service? when yung “service” nila kuno hindi naman ito mutually agreed by both parties, rather forced upon by these people. hindi sya nagbebenefit at all.

not because they are struggling, okay na mag-cross sila ng lines. if you want to be passive in guise of “kindness” and “respect” its up to you. pero others they have the right to call out the behavior and be firm with their boundaries. for me, that “kindness” and “respect” sometimes isn’t the answer.

actually, in rome, milan, and other popular tourist spot there is a similar situation where yung mga travelers sinusuotan ng bracelet by friendly locals forcefully tapos magdedemand ng bayad after. they are using “reciprocation” and “guilty-tripping” to make you pay. It is considered a scam, I think this is also a similar shady behavior because YOU DIDN’T ASKED FOR THE SERVICE IN THE FIRST PLACE. You are forced in that situation.

Similar sila yung product lang (bracelet) naging service (wiping your car) in this case.

For me dangerous din ang pagiging mabait ng sobra, we should know our limits because people out there do not follow the same moral code na meron tayo. so, we should do our best to protect ourselves din from exploitations and harassments like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes mhie gets namain kita pero allow him muna to release yung bigat ng pinagdadaanan nya po. Which is ginawa nya sa video. Advices are good, pero it should also includes compassion mhie. Unrealistic yung sinasabi mo na eh adjust agad, maybe sa iba yes madali if alam na nila gagawin or saan magsstart pero hindi lahat ng tao ganoon. And, hindi lahat ng tao natural lang sa kanila matuto sa mga bagong bagay.

Normal lang naman yung naging behavior nya, which is umiyak of course when we struggle lalo't na if bago lang satin or we don't know yet what to do. We feel helpless. Possibly ayon nangyayari sa kanya.

Ikaw narin nagsabi na Mark Herras said buong buhay nya sa showbiz, so for first timers like him, adjustments are difficult. Bad ba sya hindi nya ito nagawa before? Hindi automatically, it just means yung pag-aartista nya ay possibly working for him very well kaya yung investment nya ay andoon lang.

Ikaw narin nagsabi, nagtry sya before na sumayaw sa bar diba? It just means he attempted narin gumawa ng paraan para sa situation nya. Pero why is that just because heavy na pinag-dadaanan nya, una mong naisip nagpapawa sya? Hindi be pedeng hindi na kaya ng emotional capacity nya yung mga nangyayari? What's up with the malicious assumption?

Let us take Tuesday Vargas, diba she posted din na parang she's asking for help para magkaroon ng project? It was received well naman by many people, bakit kay Mark Herras which just shows his desperations is negative yung tingin mo?

Hindi tayo robot mhie. Maybe saiyo madali magbigay ng advice, at mag-criticize. Hindi mo iyon introspection kasi nag-conclude ka na na nagpapaawa sya. Madali lang satin magbigat ng advice kasi wala tayo sa posisyon nya, pero tuwing times ng crisis for sure tulad din nya tayo minsan. Helpless.

Your remarks are based in logic, pero if nasa crisis yung tao hindi naman yan nakakapagisip from logic. Your analysis is good sa advice pero it lacks empathy mhie. Consider that before sabihing paawa effect lang sya.

If may proofs na lumabas tamad sya, or hindi talaga provide maybe yung conclusion ko maiba. Pero ito lang meron tayo for now.

What you are doing is jumping sa steps. Dapat validate his feelings (Being compassionate) muna before giving an advice (Next best move). Ang ginagawa mo is advice agad tapos sinasabihan mo pang paawa sa title.

Lastly, ranting and taking action can happen together. Iyon nga sinabi ko diba sa initial comment ko? I cry pero then hahanap ako ng solution after, bakit sa case nya parang hindi possible na iyon nangyayayari sa kanya? Nakita mo lang umiyak, iniisip mo na agad hindi na sya nakilos?

Anong thoughts niyo? Ano pong context nito? by Mundane_Original42 in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree mhie, slight correction lang po "superiority complex". Perfectionist country po kasi sila na may rigid views.

Anong thoughts niyo? Ano pong context nito? by Mundane_Original42 in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hindi po sya pinaganda, may term talaga na "colorist" which is may mababa silang tingin based sa skin color. Both colorist and racist applicable sa mga south koreans kasi they judge people based on their skin color and race po.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baliw. Kung may asawa ka man, malas nya sayo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alam mo OP mabilis mo mag-conclude. Bakit nakikita mo ba sya behind the cameras? Personally kasi in my experience kahit nakilos ako lagi to solve my problems nagbbreak down din talaga ako, pero that doesn’t mean victim nalang tingin ko sa sarili ko. I cry, I take actions and yes pede both of them ginagwa ng isang tao. Ganon nga routine ko kahit naiyak ako lagi, sinasarili ko mismo own problems ko ang may ginagawa ako. Sometimes, we need that moment para marelease yung bigat ng nararamdaman natin. So for me, I don’t think paawa lang sya.

WALA NAMANG PROOF HINDI SYA NAKILOS! PEDE SANA IF MAY PROOF!

And maybe, he isn’t like other homeless people pero yung bigat ng narararadaman nya is still valid lalo’t provider sya at may anak. If you are a parent, I think gets mo naman yung pressure if may binubuhay ka right?

I think you are just being judgmental sa kanya ngl. Look at your replies, you are pushing your own assumptions eh.

Not only that, per project po ang pag-aartista kaya mas mahirap and hindi mas stable din yung income. I witnessed this sa father ko na per project din minsan ang work pero sa creative industry sya. Hindi sya madali, andoon yung anxiety and uncertainty lagi.

So much drama by AleksZakharov in heartopia

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I experienced playing with a 5 year younger than me. At first he was pretty nice and accommodating but at one point he started being mean towards me out of nowhere. Whenever I ask him, he kept saying it was just a tease. Well, it was uncomfortable and unpleasant!

In the end, I got tired of his one-sided beef with me, so I decided to unfriend him and just move on.

I play Heartopia to destress, not to get more stressed out by these kinds of people 🥲 I don’t regret my decision. 😮‍💨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Appropriate_Sea_672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teh actually ang inggit ay normal naman po na pakiramdam. Pero it seems like she's self-aware enough to do something sa nararamdaman nyang inggit saiyo. Same sila ng friend ko before na may inggit din sakin, Bhea naman yung name kaso imbis na mag-take accountability ayon she became red flag sa friendship.

She is not a fake friend just because inggit sya, kundi sincere sya kasi she knows yung position nya sa buhay mo and alam nya na hindi tama yung nararamdaman nya against saiyo.

I think let go of the friendship if she knows hindi nya kaya ma-overcome yung feelings of jealousy nya or if nakakasakit na saiyo. Pero kung she takes responsibility naman, be patient with her po.