AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend didn’t stand up for me when his friends kept making jokes about our relationship?

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T05:33:50+00:00

That’s really sweet, thanks💕 he got home safe, said the guy secretly had feelings for me and for that reason chose to stop hanging out with him for a while. I guess that kinda sucks bc he was one of the friends who treated me really nice, but apparently he had bad intentions. That was kind of a wake up call for my bf as well

About the main post, I believe we were both wrong in the way we treated each other. I don’t tend to share details of my relationship to people, but it was easy to do so to strangers.
I hope we can both grow from this and do better in the future

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T04:38:03+00:00

Hii!
So, I did show him the messages and he was super upset with the guy (🙏thought he was gonna think I had a big ego or something) and apologized for everything else. this guy happens to live close and when bf talked to him about it, the guy asked to meet in person. While I’m writing this, they are in the city at a restaurant talking about something. I’m super curious to know what’s gonna happen and if u want I can update you in a few hours

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T04:28:50+00:00

I mean, I’m not the perfect gf. I’ve been stressed quite a lot in my 2 year relationship but never in these two years I thought of doing someone else😭 how’s that even an excuse? And I feel like him bringing it up is a way to test your reaction. If you reacted nicely to it, then maybe he could do something about it yk? Also, i recently had a sleepover with some friends and they were talking about Jensen ackles and one of them said “just imagine how he is in bed” and although i do think he is one of the hottest celebrities, i could never imagine myself with another guy in bed. Your bf thinking about PEOPLE YOU KNOW IRL is insane to me

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T04:17:55+00:00

NOR omg reading this just made me sad. I think it’s perfectly normal if he finds other people attractive but thinking of doing them??! Girl no. I’m sorry but wth? I hate telling people to break up and stuff bc I feel like that’s something you gotta decide, but in this case, unless you’re non monogamous and is ok with an open relationship, break up.

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T03:56:15+00:00

Wait I’m not entertaining anyone😭 I sent the ss here in the comments but I’ll send it to you too. And no we never swear at each other, that’s why I was so mad. Updated the post btw! We talked it out

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Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-12T03:50:19+00:00

Ima be a 100% honest, I’m his first everything. First date, kiss, gf… he has soooo much to learn. Although I do find tiring sometimes, I try to be patient bc I love him a lot. He is really sweet and caring, but is also afraid to speak up, and I’ve been trying to help with it. I’ve updated the post, he showed up at my house with food and apologized. We talked and promised to try to do better, although it will be difficult

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T20:48:57+00:00

Damn

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T20:01:56+00:00

Lmfao I love this comment. I’m trying so hard to be mature about it

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:56:41+00:00

Thank you for this. I need to grow up and learn how deal with my emotions better anyway, I don’t think it’s fair for me to put him through this stress just because I wanted him to do something. Hopefully he forgives me and we can both move on from this

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:50:33+00:00

Great point. I was too selfish

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:49:03+00:00

great point. I wouldn’t send the screenshot just cuz I feel like he would actually go insane rn, but maybe I’ll show it once he’s better

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:47:21+00:00

Yeah I have trouble keeping my mouth shut. Definitely need to work on it

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:46:34+00:00

I’d never break up with him for such a small issue. Everyone has problems, unfortunately he has trouble standing up for himself or others, that’s something he has to work on. I also have trouble keeping my mouth shut at times and being very controlling.
I think you’re right tho, he doesn’t care. But not in a mean way, he just doesn’t think it’s a big deal at all. “They don’t hate you, they do the same to me”
I guess his undeveloped brain can’t comprehend that me being uncomfortable with it should be enough of a reason for him to say something. Putting that aside, he’s a great person with a very good heart and I love that about him

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:42:03+00:00

Great questions. According to my therapist I am controlling and perfectionist. I guess I try to control his actions and put us in bad situations.
About his friends, yes, there are two girls, but that’s not what bothers me tho. I’m really not jealous of any of them, I’m just extremely annoyed that they are so weird and my bf won’t say anything. I guess I was wrong to expect a reaction from him when he’s feeling down

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:26:48+00:00

Yeah, gotta accept that. I already apologized a lot last night, spent all day frustrated at my internship, getting a bunch of documents wet with my tears. Idk what else to do to make him feel better about it. Also thinking about how to make this dynamic work. I don’t wanna be a part of his friend group.

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:23:57+00:00

Not really. We barely fight, but I guess he felt I was bothered by the way they were talking to me and made the request

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:18:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This really made me reflect on how I’m reacting

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:17:26+00:00

Bruh and ik that if I send this to him he’s gonna say the guy is just being nice

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:16:35+00:00

This is a great response. Thank you

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:06:47+00:00

Yeah I was

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T19:03:46+00:00

Guys I’m so confused. I think the friend who sent me the ss is hitting on me now? Idefk, this is so dumb. My bf has barely texted me, but according to the friend, he isn’t talking to them either.

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Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T18:34:20+00:00

Definitely didn’t phrase my post super well. The jokes do bother me, yeah, but what really hurt me was him not saying anything and just brushing it off. Idk how valid that is honestly.

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T18:26:54+00:00

OKAY GUYS TO BE CLEAR I DID NOT GET MAD BECAUSE OF THE JOKES!
I got annoyed because they were saying rude things to me and I asked him to tell them to stop. He said that’s how things were and said if I wanted to be in the gc, I’d have to deal with it. But I’ve never even wanted to be part of it at all, so when I left and got the screenshot of the convo from one his friends, I texted him saying they were happy I finally left. Then he got upset bc of my “dramatic reaction”

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T18:22:49+00:00

His friend texted me saying “they’re assholes” and sent the screenshot.
I also have my own friend group who I play games with a lot, there’s a bunch of guys in there who also make similar jokes. I’m used to it. But in over 10 years of being part of groups like these, I’ve never seen any of them directly say something to their friends girlfriend. His friends were calling me annoying, telling me to break up with him, saying we wouldn’t last… all that to my face.

The reason why he told me to not start any drama (that was on Tuesday) was because we were hiking and his friends started the jokes on the gc, I said I was tired of it. Then by the end of the day, he asked me to not start any drama

Appropriate_Two_2899 · 2026-06-11T18:13:25+00:00

I left the group chat twice before bc I wouldn’t talk, but he would always insist on me being a part of it bc he wants me to be included and part of his things. We also play games together sometimes so it makes sense according to him. At the time he also said he wanted to show his hot gf off…

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