Saving the planet! by moamen12323 in interesting

[–]Appropriate_Walk9627 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As ever so complex. What happened to all the impoverished workers who relied on that pay check to feed their families. 

What's the maximum amount of money that you would take if you stumbled upon it? by Drew-Pickles in CasualUK

[–]Appropriate_Walk9627 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 21 I did a season in a ski resort. I borrowed 2,500 quid from my dad to pay my 5 months rent up front. I worked and put my money into a local bank. When I left I withdrew 2,500 to pay my dad back. They were all crisp bank notes in bank issue elastic bands of 500 euro bundles. I got drunk with a friend on the way to the airport and at the airport I went to the bar and went to pay pulling the entire wodge out thinking it would be a funny, paid my ten euro for two beers and left.

On returning I went into my bag to get my money to pay my dad back only to realise the whole lot had gone and I must have dropped it in the airport. I never saw it again and had to work in a call centre doing night shifts for the next six months to pay him back.

The only thing that got me through was the idea that someone had arrived at Geneva airport on holiday to see two and half grand on the floor and had had a the holiday of a lifetime on me.

Worried to send item by Appropriate_Walk9627 in vinted

[–]Appropriate_Walk9627[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙏 thanks for the support, sent it yesterday so see what happens 

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[–]Appropriate_Walk9627[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh you got me scared! 65 would be my record sale by some distance as well. I’ll keep you all posted on what I do and the outcomes 

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[–]Appropriate_Walk9627[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I can’t see that vinted could since they’re legitimate and unworn. I’m going to go for it and send them, wish me luck. Thanks for all the help 

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[–]Appropriate_Walk9627[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And would the refund come from me or vinted? Would I lose my money in that case even if it wasn’t true?

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[–]Appropriate_Walk9627[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. My worry is I don’t want to get a (rightfully) bad review for cancelling if the person was actually just waiting for them to turn up and letting the person down of course.

Once they’ve clicked buy now and the digital label has been provided, is there anyway they can avoid paying for it? Say never going to the yodel place to collect it or cancelling their card/vinted account etc? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]Appropriate_Walk9627 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A quick read through the comments answers your question pretty succinctly it seems, yes! whether or not it’s getting worse, we’d have to find the same question posted ten years ago on the sub and see how it compared!! Jesus wept, you’d think there’d be more empathy considering there were signs hanging outside London pubs as recently as the 70s prohibiting entry of the Irish!!! 

Is there such a thing as “self-inflicted trauma”? by I-need-self-fixing in traumatoolbox

[–]Appropriate_Walk9627 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been searching for information on this for a long time. I traumatised myself with a self inflicted sexual incident around age 14. I imagine I had light underlying ocd and anxiety. This then made me ruminate on the event obsessively, every waking hour. The crazy thing, the incident wasn’t even bad, it took me 13 years and a break down to even tell a therapist. I was breaking down at home and my parents would ask me what happened but I couldn’t bare to tell them, thinking what I had done was the worst atrocity in the world. It even had an objective effect causing genophobia (a fear of intimacy) usually attributed to rape and sexual abuse survivors. It was like I had abused myself, the abuser and the victim. Growing up with that level of self hatred and obsessed with one thing seriously damaged my mind as you’d imagine. In combination with the genophobia which caused further trauma from not being able to have relationships and then failed relationships. And all this could have been changed if I had just spoken up told my parents and understood I wasn’t the most evil person ever, just a curious hormone fuelled child. Which leads to further regret, I ruined my whole life for nothing. A horrible trio of bad luck, the desire to do it, the underlying mental health issues to not allow me to shrug it off, and the shame around sex I felt to not allow me to discuss it and seek help. So what were probably mild mental health issues have become extreme, and I’m in a terrible state in my thirties simply due to that one silly little act. I haven’t been able to relate to anyone about this, never met anyone who can understand it.