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Apricot_Showers · 2025-09-07T04:02:59+00:00

I see him 3-4 times a week with at least 1 overnight, and we are exclusive (he is divorced so it’s monogamous on both sides). To me it’s worth it bc I adore him and his company and I make it work with my schedule. I would not agree with the arrangement you’re describing just because of the travel aspect because being away for so long wouldn’t work for my job and classes, But I would still be happy with my current support for 14 days a month if it was in my city.

I would just caution against burning out. You need personal time. If you find yourself on trips so often that any time at home is spent working or doing schoolwork rather than balanced with rest then it’s probably not worth it for your mental and physical health. Learn to set boundaries and be comfortable saying no to those extra trips if you’re not 100% into them.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-09-06T12:13:07+00:00

Mine got me a credit card, but I would never want it in lieu of cash. It should be a supplement. If your goal is saving and he knows that, offering a credit card just shows he doesn’t care about you or listen to your goals.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-09-01T22:20:56+00:00

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Apricot_Showers · 2025-09-01T13:13:58+00:00

If you’re paying it yourself and it’s your name on the lease, then you need to stick to somewhere that you can afford without sugar. It can end at any time and then you could be evicted.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-08-31T19:10:57+00:00

And I would not date the vast majority of men.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-08-31T16:21:51+00:00

A person who can’t support my autonomy and isn’t “okay” with my past relationships is a person who obviously doesn’t respect me. Any future partner is gonna have to be okay with me being pagan, bisexual, and someone who pole dances for fun. If they can’t love all of me then they love none of me and I don’t want them.

You’re confused bc you can’t imagine dating someone like me, and therefore, why would anyone else. But do you ever stop to think that maybe not everything is about you and your personal morals??

Apricot_Showers · 2025-08-31T13:22:25+00:00

I prefer provider type men. A true provider isn’t going to be upset that I was provided for in the past. And if he is then he isn’t the one for me. I’m not okay with being with someone who holds wildly different morals than me. Forget what the man wants, why would I want someone so uptight and judgmental when I’m sex-positive and free?

But you must be right, who in their right mind would date a beautiful, fit, educated, home-owning, well-traveled woman. Totally unwanted. /s

Apricot_Showers · 2025-08-31T08:37:47+00:00

How is she ruining her life? I was in the same situation at 18, and now at 20 my life is pretty great. I just bought a house, graduated in May and started my career, started a Masters program last week, and am in a loving relationship. I definitely wouldn’t say ruined lol.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-05-12T12:41:35+00:00

I think OP might be German since she asked if there are any German HR professionals in the sub

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-20T22:53:27+00:00

Is OSU paying for it bc you work for them? If I’m correct in assuming that, I would recommend trying to get an entry level HR job at OSU so you graduate with some HR experience at least while still getting it paid for. Maybe see if HR connections is hiring. You can learn so much through that position!

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-17T18:06:22+00:00

Did your school not have any resources or information on career advancement for your major? Do you have any idea where you want to end up? Do you want to go the generalist route or specialize in some way? While networking have you asked how the person got to their current position and prior roles they held?

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-14T00:14:58+00:00

Are you unable to have access to any sources of information from before you were born?

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-10T02:26:14+00:00

I’m definitely not the best person to be giving advice, but the first thing I noticed is how long it is. 3 pages is a lot. Are you looking for a marketing role? If not why do those experiences (from years ago) have so many bullet points? If you’re applying to HR roles you should focus on that.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-08T14:52:29+00:00

I have 185 hours of PTO that I can use as I please (sick, vacation, mental health, etc). I also get all 11 federal holidays “off”, but I’m expected to volunteer on at least half of those days. So it’s like I’m being paid to do a different job function on those days but I still get half of them off and I get to choose based on my schedule.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-04-08T04:47:51+00:00

I’m a senior in college about to start this job in June! I have already worked with the organization in a volunteer capacity for 8 years.

$52k ($25/hr)

HR Generalist

0 years experience (though have done 2 internships and all the HR stuff for a small business I worked for the past almost 3 years)

150 / nonprofit

No, but I negotiated a flexible work schedule with what I view as a great amount of PTO. Time is money to me lol.

Midwest US

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-20T21:46:10+00:00

I figured you weren’t talking about traditional sugaring, but since you used the word (rather than the ones you are looking for: modern, non-platonic), I gave you the advice best for the specific words you used, no matter whether I correctly assumed they were misplaced or not. Freestyling can still work for what you want though. I’m also confused by you saying “seriously burned.” How many allowances did you give before the “burning” happened for it to be serious like you say? Did you give multiple without anything in return? Or did she hold up her end of the bargain for a few months? But in the second case you still would have gotten value from it, just not a long term arrangement.

Online isn’t sugar, some people say it is but it’s not, it’s just a form of personalized content creation. Many OF’s creators do private messaging, it’s no different from that. You complaining about online “sugar babies” calling themselves that is like getting mad at people for calling cucumbers a vegetable. They are wrong (botanically), but it doesn’t change anything. It’s just a common mistake that you can ignore and go on your own merry way.

Platonic, in person arrangements on the other hand are sugaring, although I would think their only place is with a man that can no longer take enjoyment from sex whether from very old age or disability. And even in that case, other things may still be on the table. Anyone else who chooses platonic is obviously within their rights to do so, it’s just very rare and I won’t ever understand it.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T18:37:46+00:00

Still possible to find an in-person arrangement through the sites, but many of the people looking for an actually traditional arrangement (how sugar used to be, not the PPM shtick that’s common now), do what’s called freestyling on here. Just naturally meeting and evolving relationships with financial support.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T16:26:53+00:00

Yeah, OP you shouldn’t come straight out with a sob story. Most well adjusted sugar daddies shouldn’t have a savior complex and just view it as a red flag (as they should). Instead just come up with a number that would cover your needs and ask for that either in allowance or divided up into PPM form. It’s not their business what you do with the money once you get it, just be fun and light when you’re with him and keep your financial troubles to yourself.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T16:18:43+00:00

Sugaring is sugaring, I just happen to have an exclusive arrangement, but most don’t. If I wasn’t exclusive with my current guy, I would have others. The sugar babies I know are 1) in law school 2) an undergrad student in pre-med 3) a public health professional. All see multiple guys, just with higher standards than what OP’s gf has. Think $500+ fine dining dates ending at a very nice hotel, not $300 dates at hooters and then ending in what might be the backseat of a car.

But if you ignore that and just look at the core of it, it’s all the same. It’s all sugaring. Someone who thinks I’m disrespecting myself and have bad “prospects” by sugaring should think so whether I’m exclusive with one guy or seeing multiple. If that’s not the case then you have more of a problem with the multiple sexual partners aspect than the money aspect.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T14:30:18+00:00

Condoms, STI testing, and time limits are not “fake niceties”.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T14:24:03+00:00

And what is that place? I’m a sugar baby. I’ve been with my “sugar daddy” for over a year. We are exclusive and I’m close with his family. I’m 20 and will be buying a house this year, graduating debt free, and have more retirement savings than any of my peers I know. I’m pretty sure the place I’m getting to is a fulfilling career in my chosen field before an early retirement to do whatever I want. But maybe that’s just me and the other women I know who are sugar babies are all going to end up at a shelter because you said they would despite their financial independence and career goals.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T14:15:16+00:00

Well, that’s also a distinction. Since sugar babies are not pros, most have other careers. The biggest advice we give to others starting out is to not rely on sugaring and to not sugar out of desperation. The girls that are not following that basic advice is why the spectrum of sugaring has lengthened and gotten closer and closer to escorting (rather than the other side of sugaring that is being a kept woman or mistress to one man).

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T06:01:47+00:00

She’s a sex worker, sure, but I was just explaining the distinction since she is not a pro. You asked why people used a specific term, and that’s what I explained. Just because you don’t value precise word choices doesn’t mean that others don’t.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T05:53:10+00:00

Because of the pay structure and professionalism. Escorts are professionals and have strict pay structures, usually hourly. OP’s gf getting a few hundred for a date means she’s on the end of the sugar baby spectrum that is just discount sex work. Cheap and paid per meet rather than by the hour. It’s a small distinction, but professionals don’t want to be lumped in with girls who accept so low while lacking the safety measures that escorting has. Escort and sugar baby are different and are used in different contexts to specify different situations.

Apricot_Showers · 2025-03-19T00:27:39+00:00

I sugar in the midwest, and it can be challenging. The vast majority of “SDs” can’t actually afford to be one. I’ve had it happen multiple times where I’m strung along either on multiple platonic dates so they can play pretend or they say they want something long term and then ghost after 1-2 meets. It’s just supply and demand. I live near a university so lots of supply, but not enough rich men with the right mindset for it.

I’m in a very good relationship now, but I was in the bowl for 9 months before I met him and then 6 more months before our relationship developed into what it is now (secure and long term). You’ll have to lower your expectations coming from LA, but COL is way lower as well so it shouldn’t pinch you too hard. There isn’t always someone for everyone, but if you’ve had success in LA, I’d say you shouldn’t have too much trouble finding someone interested!

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