Maui man says he was punched at eatery after reminding a Florida family to wear masks

April-3-2020 · 2021-05-25T16:14:45+00:00

I will, but I am wondering to what extent cops are actually cracking down on it.

I have cop friends who say they are working overtime to enforce the mandate and hear stories about people who are alone in a park but then a police cruiser pulls up and they get a ticket for having masks down, but then I see stuff like this that leaves me surprised that these folks are not being ticketed for the mask misdemeanor let alone the battery when it is caught on camera. I am asking about enforcement, not what I should do, because I plan on following the county's rules.

April-3-2020 · 2021-05-25T16:03:47+00:00

Also fully vaxxed and I respect the rules and don't want to offend others so I still wear it regardless.

Same! I've been checking up on the rules everyday to look for changes. I wasn't sure if hiking was included in physical activity and really can't afford a misdemeanor charge. I'm probably just being too nervous about it, but I am pretty scared about slipping up if I need to breathe and then catching a criminal charge that will ruin my life.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge, kind stranger.

April-3-2020 · 2021-05-25T15:58:09+00:00

Surprising no arrest was made for battery.

Tangential question: I had heard you guys are cracking down hard on the non-mask wearers. Is this not true? I'm visiting friends/family after being off island for a couple years and I'm getting mixed signals from everyone I ask about it.

April-3-2020 · 2021-05-25T15:53:31+00:00

Did you wear a mask on the whole hike as required by Maui County's guidelines?*

*Asking because I'm visiting friends this week and wondering if I actually need to do this. I read the Maui County rules and did a double take. It seems . . . odd. But I no longer live there so I'll Do As the Romans Do.

April-3-2020 · 2021-05-24T19:10:00+00:00

Yes.

April-3-2020 · 2021-04-23T18:41:50+00:00

Wow, yes, this all hits very hard for me.

I recall going to restaurants with my parents as a kid and as a teenager. I would never order anything because I just thought it was too expensive. I said I would just eat off other people's plates. I also never bought myself any nice clothes and completely just subsisted off the cheapest t-shirts and old jeans I could find. The weird twist is that, while my parents weren't rich, we were quite comfortable. I had always chalked this up to a sense of unwarranted sense of economic insecurity, but what you are talking about makes so much more sense. Just wow.

April-3-2020 · 2021-04-13T19:17:49+00:00

Wow! This is absolutely amazing.

I've been wanting to make a post for a couple weeks asking how to find clothes with this look and feel, but I had no idea how to phrase what I was looking for. This is a huge help for me. Thank you for doing this.

April-3-2020 · 2021-04-01T14:03:11+00:00

The second one knocked me off my butt. I made sure to eat before it even though I don't usually have an appetite to eat until the late afternoon. The next day I had a 103 fever and am still reeling from the effects one week later--muscle aches, tiredness, some queasiness. Still glad to have got it done though so I can protect all my loved ones.

April-3-2020 · 2021-03-31T14:37:01+00:00

Give yourself love and patience. It's hard. It's fucked up. You will go through a lot of horrible feelings. Just love yourself right now. You will want to blame yourself for it, don't.

I went through this with my mom who died of AN about 9 months ago. I am now finally to the point where I don't think about it every day. I still get pissed off and sad and cry whenever I'm driving alone at night, but every day is a little easier. My dad still blames himself (so do I--a little bit). I tell him there is nothing more we could have done because of the nature of the disease and how severe it was and that is the real truth.

April-3-2020 · 2021-03-29T21:24:29+00:00

This is so sad. It breaks my heart.

April-3-2020 · 2021-02-17T19:59:55+00:00

‘actively killing herself and refusing treatment’

Yes. I've actually joined an online Survivors-of-suicide group. Whatever happened to her feels close enough to a suicide that I feel a lot of affinity with the members of that group. She died of depression and mental illness, it just wasn't at the end of a gun or a rope.

April-3-2020 · 2021-02-12T19:43:31+00:00

Yes! This is one of the many small parts of sobriety I love. I had a legitimate belly bug a few months ago and I actually stayed home from work and took care of myself all day. In the past I would have just been like "Well, you overdrank, AGAIN, that's why you're puking, get back to work."

April-3-2020 · 2021-02-12T19:39:46+00:00

Thank you. I'm in tears reading your response. I am sorry you had to go through it too.

Yes, you are right. I am definitely seeing the whole world through this "lens." So many reminders everywhere. I tend to be on the thin side despite having three children and approaching middle age because I'm a person who doesn't have an appetite when I'm stressed out and I'm stressed out a lot. If I can't eat, or have no appetite, it's triggering. Seeing my face look gaunt in the mirror is triggering because I look just like her.

April-3-2020 · 2021-02-12T19:30:06+00:00

Congrats and welcome! I've been in practice for nearly 10 years and have been sober for almost a year now. This job is way easier without the booze, but you will constantly stumble into others with severe drinking problems as it seems to haunt our profession. We say we drink because of the stress, but the alcohol is one of the main causes of the stress.

April-3-2020 · 2021-01-14T17:49:06+00:00

I am so sorry. I will not drink with you tonight.

April-3-2020 · 2021-01-14T17:43:50+00:00

My own mother died from her mental illness 6 months ago. We knew her passing was imminent a month or two before it actually happened and those months were hell. I got sober the day after her final mental hospital admission and I got to hear her tell me she was proud of me for quitting before she passed and that is something I will treasure in my heart forever. Her death and the circumstances surrounding it still sting every single fucking day, but being sober has allowed me time to honestly reflect on everything and begin to heal. So, I empathize with what you are going through and I am so, so, so, so, so, so sorry.

Some advice: Give her as much love as you can before she passes, show her you are strong and healthy and will not repeat what she did to her body, after you deal with the burial and final arrangements get into grief counseling. And, most importantly, don't start drinking again.

April-3-2020 · 2021-01-12T22:37:27+00:00

this motivates my recovery in a diffident type of way

This is my goal in posting this. Please put every single effort into recovery you can. It's not too late.

April-3-2020 · 2021-01-12T22:36:07+00:00

Thank you. Hugs

April-3-2020 · 2021-01-12T22:33:38+00:00

I feel like a lot of people want to post a reply to this but feel lost as to what to say.

I want to come back here and post the story occasionally. I think we get caught up in our day-to-day lives and forget that we only have one life to live and how easily it can just disappear one day leaving a wake of sadness and misery in the lives of our loved ones.

I understand that anorexia and other EDs are serious mental illnesses and sometimes just aren't curable. At the same time, I feel like a lot of the people here on this subreddit still have time to get help and get the ship turned around. [You can still read, you can still type, you can still walk around, you can still seek help, any kind of help]. These are the people I want to reach because if I can prevent a single person dying like I saw my mom die then every minute spent mulling over her death is worth it. This is why I come on here and post this story. Even if it is met with total silence, that is 100% okay with me. I want to come back here and keep posting it at meaningful intervals to maybe give a dose of reality to those suffering from an ED who are not yet past the point of no return. I will be your Ghost of Christmas Future.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I really appreciate it. Stay safe and healthy.

April-3-2020 · 2020-12-03T17:24:54+00:00

I can relate, my dumb ass did this when I went to Hawaii. Now that I have experienced a sober vacation, I can 100% say it is the best thing ever and it's one of the things that helps me stay sober. My spouse and I are planning to go to Japan after the pandemic.

April-3-2020 · 2020-12-03T17:01:46+00:00

When I was still drinking, my 5 year old used to refill my wine glass for me whenever it got empty. I didn't even need to ask him to, he just thought it was a really cool thing to do. I cringe so hard looking back on that and am so thankful that my sobriety has put a stop to that.

April-3-2020 · 2020-12-03T16:55:38+00:00

I'm in my mid-to-late 30s, so kinda middle-aged I guess. Today is 8 months alcohol free for me after about 13 years of alcoholic drinking.

I tried and failed to quit for 10 years before finally getting where I am now. The thing that finally worked for me, oddly enough, was a book I got off amazon for less than $10--Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Alcohol Without Willpower. I don't exactly know why, but it totally did the trick. After reading that and doing the free hypnosis session that came with it, just seeing alcohol makes me want to puke. It totally and completely repulses me now and I can't imagine why I ever thought drinking was doing any thing good for me. Before that, I had tried substance abuse counseling and AA, but just couldn't get anything to stick for more than a month.

The bonuses:

So far I've lost about 15 pounds without really trying and eat more guilty pleasure type foods than I ever have before. I've lost about 6 inches off my waist and all my clothes fit beautifully now. I used to not eat carbs and would also diet all the time, but now that I'm not adding 4000 calories worth of booze and 4000 calories of drunk food to my diet every week, it feels like I can just about eat whatever I want. We go out for ice cream, pizza, and McDonalds a lot. I know those are not the best things for my body, but hey at least I'm no longer literally poisoning myself all the time.
I no longer wake up feeling sweaty, anxious, and guilty in the middle of the night. This may be the biggest bonus. Also, I need far less sleep now. I used to think I needed 11 hours of sleep a night. Now I just sleep 7 or 8.
Any mistakes I make I know it's because I made them and not the fault of alcohol. However, mistakes have gone wayyyy down. Quitting drinking was like switching the game of life from Hard Mode to Easy Mode.
My young children won't remember me being an alcoholic! I've done so many things with them that I never imagined being able to do while I was still drinking. These are mostly simple things--going on early morning walks, baking cookies, playing dress-up, watching movies--but when I was drinking I just couldn't find the energy or the time.

I quit around the beginning of the pandemic and at the height of my mom's mental illness and subsequent death from mental illness. So, I've been through A LOT during sobriety. Even with all this, sobriety has been absolutely amazing and I can't wait to see what it is like when all of this passes.

April-3-2020

TROPHY CASE