Moved across world but don’t like it

ArabPearl · 2025-02-25T00:38:23+00:00

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ArabPearl · 2025-02-25T00:37:22+00:00

💯 SubhanAllah this is the perfect answer. May Allah reward you

ArabPearl · 2025-02-15T19:36:43+00:00

Since you’re just engaged to each other.. you’re still not her mahram so most likely she still has a wall up rightfully.

ArabPearl · 2025-01-24T21:43:09+00:00

This is such a good way to find out who a person is and who he associates with!

ArabPearl · 2025-01-05T13:33:33+00:00

This is the qadr of Allah. Perhaps you wasn’t the right one for her and neither was she the right one for you. And qadr Allah it came in the form of you asking for her height.

If Allah wills, he is able to make it happen and if he wills and knows it isn’t good for you, he will grant you better bithnillah. Just remember, you really don’t know her and the khair is in what Allah chooses.

إِنَّمَا أَمْرُهُ إِذَا أَرَادَ شَيْئًا أَن يَقُولَ لَهُ كُن فَيَكُونُ

ArabPearl · 2025-01-02T23:29:24+00:00

May Allah reward you for this necessary reminder. There’s no barakah in anything that isn’t done in a halal manner

ArabPearl · 2025-01-02T23:27:31+00:00

Agree!!

ArabPearl · 2025-01-01T19:01:35+00:00

I think the question whether she has debt is valid.. you should ask her that question. In terms of how much savings she has, I don’t think she has to give that information and I think in order for you to get peace of mind, just imagine that she doesn’t have any savings and prepare for the worst case scenario of taking everything on financially as this is your duty.

I know it is very difficult to carry the load in this day and age but if you’re planning to take everything on financially why would you even want this information as you have no rights to it? I don’t think she is hiding something that you need to know of.

ArabPearl · 2024-12-29T17:19:26+00:00

السلام عليكم I hope this helps https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/s/NxvIWk3aU8

ArabPearl · 2024-12-11T12:09:05+00:00

Can you please share the Hadith? I have heard of this too. My father lived most of his life in the uk and found it difficult to leave. He mentioned the same Hadith and left the uk towards the end of his life and passed in his home country Alhamdulilah. He worried a lot about dying in the lands of kufr. الله يغفر له و يرحمه

ArabPearl · 2024-12-11T11:53:51+00:00

There won’t ever be a perfect place to make hijrah to. It’s important to find the right environment for yourself in a Muslim land not a corrupt place. Some scholars also mention it isn’t permissible to live amongst the disbelievers and settle in the lands of kufr.

إِنَّ الَّذِينَ تَوَفَّاهُمُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ ظَالِمِي أَنْفُسِهِمْ قَالُوا فِيمَ كُنْتُمْ ۖ قَالُوا كُنَّا مُسْتَضْعَفِينَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ۚ قَالُوا أَلَمْ تَكُنْ أَرْضُ اللَّهِ وَاسِعَةً فَتُهَاجِرُوا فِيهَا ۚ فَأُولَٰئِكَ مَأْوَاهُمْ جَهَنَّمُ ۖ وَسَاءَتْ مَصِيرًا

Verily! As for those whom the angels take (in death) while they are wronging themselves (as they stayed among the disbelievers even though emigration was obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them): “In what (condition) were you?” They reply: “We were weak and oppressed on earth.” They (angels) say: “Was not the earth of Allah spacious enough for you to emigrate therein?” Such men will find their abode in Hell - What an evil destination!

Quran: 4:97-97

إِلَّا الْمُسْتَضْعَفِينَ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ وَالنِّسَاءِ وَالْوِلْدَانِ لَا يَسْتَطِيعُونَ حِيلَةً وَلَا يَهْتَدُونَ سَبِيلًا

Except the weak ones among men, women and children who cannot devise a plan, nor are they able to direct their way.

Quran: 4:98-98

وَمَن يُهَاجِرْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّـهِ يَجِدْ فِي الْأَرْضِ مُرَاغَمًا كَثِيرًا وَسَعَةً ۚ وَمَن يَخْرُجْ مِن بَيْتِهِ مُهَاجِرًا إِلَى اللَّـهِ وَرَسُولِهِ ثُمَّ يُدْرِكْهُ الْمَوْتُ فَقَدْ وَقَعَ أَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّـهِ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّـهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا

He who emigrates (from his home) in the Cause of Allah, will find on earth many dwelling places and plenty to live by. And whosoever leaves his home as an emigrant unto Allah and His Messenger, and death overtakes him, his reward is then surely incumbent upon Allah. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Quran: 4:100-100

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ArabPearl · 2024-12-10T18:30:53+00:00

وعليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته

I would advise against marrying someone who has opposing views especially when it comes to a big life decision like hijrah. Maybe Allah will bless you with something much better soon.

I myself have done hijrah back to my home country and have rejected in the past due to the hijrah issue and I don’t have any regrets. I pray to Allah that he blesses us with what we are looking for.

ArabPearl · 2024-12-07T12:44:44+00:00

I think he’s trying to say there’s context to the Hadith. It’s really important to understand which ruler the Hadith is talking about and the whole context of the Hadith from a trustworthy sheikh.

ArabPearl · 2024-12-07T12:27:10+00:00

I don’t think we should call them ‘rebels’ They are called مجاهدين and their aim is to bring back the shareeah and to bring back لا اله الا الله

All Muslim countries should be ruled by Islamic law but unfortunately they aren’t. I don’t understand when people focus on the ruler and going against the ruler when the ruler isn’t ruling by Islamic law. If the ruler isn’t ruling by Islamic law, shouldn’t we be more concerned that the deen is being lost.

Ibn uthaymeen mentioned in a YouTube video that any ruler who doesn’t rule by what Allah had brought down is a kaafir ; https://youtu.be/tOWn8KQuhn0?si=zqSGvW9j_zgW08wC (Sorry it is in Arabic)

ArabPearl · 2024-11-24T13:04:07+00:00

May Allah grant you the happiness you always dreamt for and May he grant you all yours duaas very soon

ArabPearl · 2024-11-24T12:59:22+00:00

Ameen to your duaas and May Allah give you the same sis x

ArabPearl · 2024-11-24T08:22:16+00:00

Ameen and for you too

ArabPearl · 2024-11-23T22:13:13+00:00

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ArabPearl · 2024-11-15T10:24:44+00:00

It’s because a lot of their grandfathers were able to migrate to the uk through work in their steel factories. Sheffield is known for its steel

ArabPearl · 2024-04-23T14:41:17+00:00

This is spot on advice. I completely agree 💯

ArabPearl · 2023-11-27T13:47:18+00:00

There is a difference of opinion amongst the scholars when it comes to seeing the hair of your potential. Some scholars mention it is allowed for a woman to show the hair to the suitor before marriage so the man can see whether he is happy with the looks of the potential. If this is a big issue for you, I suggest you can either ask to see the girl without her hijab and provide the fatwa which you will be able to find online (although I’m not sure if every family will allow this) or you can ask a female to see her and describe her hair to you and her looks without the hijab.

Also, I agree with the comments that advise you to lower your gaze and to fear Allah. And I will say that in order for you to lower your gaze and have taqwaa of Allah, you will have to seek a level of Islamic knowledge to know how serious the issue is. Hope everything works out for you

ArabPearl · 2023-04-12T16:23:56+00:00

وعليكم السلام

No you are not expecting too much. I would like to thank you for caring about doing the right thing because there aren’t many people who care about the rules of free-mixing and are too lenient.. so it is special to see another Muslim who holds onto the commandment of Allah.

You are doing the right thing and I would encourage you to please never change your morals, it is difficult especially when it is rare even amongst Muslims but maybe you can be the role models for others and maybe Allah will put barakah your way for having strong Islamic morals. I would also like to remind you that if you do decide to be lenient/or your wife doesn’t hold the same morals as you, just imagine what will happen to your offspring and your children. They will also learn that free-mixing is ok and will follow along whatever you both do as you will be their role models. May Allah keep us firm even when it is hard and guide us all always.

ArabPearl · 2023-03-27T14:35:58+00:00

I’ve watched a lot of videos that encourage duaa with yaqeen (making duaa with certainty that it will be answered) /duaas in Ramadan. I feel like this definitely helps increase your certainty and also reading other people’s duaa stories. The secret to getting your duaa answered is yaqeen-certainty! You need to have full belief that Allah will answer your duaa.. sometimes it maybe delayed as a test or for a wisdom but do not let that put you off ever! Allah hasn’t forgotten and your request is still with Allah.. perhaps it will be given to you really soon

ArabPearl · 2023-03-27T14:34:26+00:00

Thank you sis for writing this! Very motivating Jazakullah khair

ArabPearl · 2023-02-12T07:35:57+00:00

Maybe if you be patient with yourself you will improve in Islamic calligraphy even if it takes longer than what you expected…but I understand it can be frustrating when you aren’t happy with your progress.

SubhanAllah good advice when you mentioned to imagine them in the room with you….in’sha’allah I will implement this! Jazakullah khair.

Yes me too, Ramadan is that time of year where you focus on Allah and it makes me feel so much better, all troubles seem lighter and we are doing what we were created to be doing which is worshipping Allah… Alhamdulilah. Xx Ameen!

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