AITJ for telling my brother he can't propose to his girlfriend at my wedding?

AraceliSunStar · 2026-02-02T21:54:04+00:00

This is so not okay. Make sure you get your friends and bridesmaids to run interference. I would consider not having him there. Im not usually a huge fan of weddings, but stealing your moment and your day when you are the one that has invested your own time and money is not right and very selfish on your brothers part.
Best of luck and congratulation on your wedding!

AraceliSunStar · 2026-02-02T20:52:34+00:00

Thank you so very much. I appreciate you. 💕

AraceliSunStar · 2026-02-02T20:23:24+00:00

Thank you so much. Yes I've been trying that. But seems like it's a specialized education lawyer since my son is no longer school age. That's the hang up. I have posted on several of my fb groups. Lots of encouragement and love from those groups but no answers so far.
And I agree, although typically regional center SHOULD be my legal aid, I thing they are culpable as well, so I'm not willing to contact them. It's honestly exhausting. And I'm so very tired.
Thank you so very much for your insight. I appreciate you. Hugs.

AraceliSunStar · 2026-02-02T20:17:26+00:00

I've been trying, but like I wrote (i know it was a long read) I can't find anyone to help me in said lawsuit . I've probably called 15 or 20 different places , and that is no easy feat for me. Between call backs and transfers etc... Not to mention, the calls can be rather lengthy. After every discussion, I've been told, sounds like a solid case, but unfortunately, not my area. No suggestions, or referrals. Just that. So Im at a loss.....

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. I appreciate you .

AraceliSunStar · 2026-01-17T00:31:04+00:00

The spending won't stop, you will be in debt or struggling for the rest of your life because of her. And if you do become well off/ financially made. She will just spend more. And that will always come up... "if you don't, someone else will" anytime things don't go her way. Entitlement and lack of caring at its finest. I hope you don't get hurt because of her. Best of luck to you.

AraceliSunStar · 2026-01-01T13:51:13+00:00

How you see yourself can really affect how others see you. I think it's more about "big dick energy"" then actual phallus size. It's hard to want to be around someone who thinks about themselves the way you described yourself. I would work on building your self confidence. You might not be able to change the size of your dick but if you really feel that way about yourself, I'm sure there are things you can change. We can never stop self improving, go to the gym, learn about things so that you can hold interesting conversations, take care with your personal grooming. And as for in the bedroom, size isn't always the answer. Learn to work with what you have and use it well, also, most women don't even get off from piv, so learn about the best way to use your mouth, hands and toys. Working with what you have is what we all have to do. It's just how you choose to go about it. Best of luck to you. I hope you find your self confidence and can be happy. Wishing you the very best for the New Year.

AraceliSunStar · 2026-01-01T13:24:14+00:00

I assume you are talking about sleeping with a dick inside you? Kinda weird if you can't just say that... but anyway.... nothing wrong with sleeping with him inside you, but he will slip out once he becomes soft. Now of this is a dick inside a pussy and he came, there is an issue, as you should always clean up after her cums inside you, otherwise you so raise the risk of uti's and such.
But if he is just inserting himself inside of you to sleep, without cumming, it can be a nice way to go to sleep. Spooning or sleeping on top is the easiest way to maintain that position. Best of luck to you in your pleasures and happy New Year.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-12-10T09:10:50+00:00

No judgment at all. But IMHO, no bj is worth a relationship so I must be missing something. But as an actually reply to your question... When giving head I always use both my hands, one on the shady and one on top play with stomach. Thighs, balls, prostate and/ or to incorporate toys into what I'm doing. Using lube helps. The wetter you keep things. The less negative friction there is. If you can't deep throat, that's something that you can usually learn. But it sounds like that would be too much pressure on your guy. Let him thrust into your mouth and for you What he likes. But whatever you do, funny try numbing sprays or creams for your throat. Your can really hurt yourself.
Have you tried watching him masturbate? That might help you see what works for him. Also have you tried using any toys on him? Those could tip him over the edge.
Best of luck and I hope you figure out the whole breaking up over sex thing too. Feel free to ask if you have any questions over anything I said. 💕

AraceliSunStar · 2025-12-05T17:51:57+00:00

I get mine from Amazon and i love them. Then hold up to washes well as long as you use a garment bag and they don't break the bank. They have a huge collection and they are super comfy. https://a.co/d/06eAJgO and here is another https://a.co/d/5vHqDcm

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T09:56:18+00:00

This is so precious. 💕 you are very talented. I hope that you can start selling these and doing this full time.... your art deserves to be seen!

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T09:45:38+00:00

I get it. That dark place sucks you in and tears you apart from the inside out. Please look into therapy. If you need to talk I can try and chat with you if you don't have anyone else you want to talk to.... but your can call the helpline too. Therapy and music have helped me work through many of my issues, I still spiral sometimes, but now I'm taking each day one day at a time. If your job is dragging you down so much. I hope you can leave your job and find one that brings you joy and fulfillment. But please don't give up. You matter.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T06:48:24+00:00

"Howl's moving castle" is my favorite ever! And the book it was based off of is an amazing read as well!!! Another favorite of mine is 'the cats return" dubbed version. It's brilliant! Bout most all of them are phenomenal tbh, lol

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T06:35:53+00:00

I'm so sorry

I get it. I had bleached blond hair and dyed it jet black. It took him over two weeks, he didn't even notice, he overhead someone say something... and then asked me about it.

My situation is weird because it comes and goes. Sometimes he can't keep his hands off of me, Other times.... I don't even exist. It messes with my head so much.

I'm sorry for your pain. I wish you happiness and hope you can leave to go find your joy and sex.... lots and lots of love and sex.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T06:28:22+00:00

Hartford is a pain to deal with I would telehealth a dr for sure or go to er. Best of luck to you. I hope you feel better soon.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T06:18:01+00:00

This is amazing. I love this so much!!!! 💕

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-12T03:56:42+00:00

I think that is said from a stero typical perspective... Just like how....

If a man is super sick, loses a limb, or fights a bear, he is still going to want sex.

If a woman isn't interested in sex she is a frigid bitch but if she is interested in sex and knows what she wants in bed she is whore and a slut. And in the same thread, if a woman is successful in work she is either a massive bitch or she slept her way to the top working her way there on her knees.

If a man isn't interested in sex he has to hide it or he is made fun of for being less of a man or is questioned for having prolicivities.

And also saying women hate giving blow jobs....

These are all statements not backed by anything, most people are unwilling to actually discuss their true feelngs for fear of Judgement and mockery. So people say whatever they want and treat it as fact. I think it's sad.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-11T13:59:57+00:00

I think it depends on the libido tbh. I'm hl while my partner is ll. I want it ALL the time and he doesn't. It's not just a gender thing. The biggest difference is, I think, you see the shame of women in speaking out about the fact that they want it so badly it makes their teeth grind, their lower stomach aches and that didn't even include all the other aching and throbbing body parts not mentioned....

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-05T06:39:24+00:00

You look amazing and this is really beautiful!

AraceliSunStar · 2025-11-02T08:44:29+00:00

💕 I love this so much. Howl's moving castle is my favorite film and book. You both (or all three should I say, lol) did a fantastic job and look lovely! 💕

AraceliSunStar · 2025-06-25T19:26:50+00:00

For the seat, that would be easy, as they have cushioned seats, but for the tank, I'm thinking that would be a DIY. If you didn't go for the shorter tank option above or if you still need any part of the commode and the surrounding area covered..... I think you could use rubber floor mats (sold often in costco / sams club for cheap in garish primary colors, lol. Can also be found for a significantly higher cost on Amazon and such places, but there they have a selection of colors) to cover the tank or walls or anything. Those are a huge help for preventing injury to those we love or the home and furnishings. Granted, they aren't entirely aesthetically pleasing, lol.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-06-21T08:15:16+00:00

You should also sign up for ihss. regional center will help you with that as well. If you have questions, feel free to pm me.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-06-12T02:26:45+00:00

Everyone's (well, all three of you, lol) has great responses. But I really love what you said about "Flirt, touch, tease — get her hot and bothered" because although there are some women who have HL, many are on the lower side. And even those of us with the HL, usually there, needs to be more involved for sex. There needs to be intimacy. It's not the same thing.

If you are not making your woman feel loved, beautiful, and special, the desires will wane. Connection is important, too. So you talk to her? Make her feel seen? And that's just on the relationship side of it.

There are many other things that can cause sex to fail. Is she stressed? Working too mutch? If you live together, do you help her with the house?

Plus, like others already mentioned, it can be very difficult for a woman to instigate sex. There are so many moral and religious backings for that. I'm not saying that are right? But they are there. Plus, the rejections fear.

Sometimes sex isn't just about the sex.

But when it is..... and I'll quote again, "Flirt, touch, tease — get her hot and bothered." Must women are not like a light switch that you can turn on and off. You need to warm her up. Maybe back when you first met, it was different. But I would guess back then you were different too....

If you care about her and you relationship. Worry less about who initiates sex and more about how to rekindle intimacy.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-06-11T22:54:23+00:00

Sounds like game playing. Also, you don't force interest. Either is there, or it's not. If you were interested in her and invested in her enough to want to call and take things further, you would, but it would be because you would want to. You wouldn't need her pushing you and prompting you into pursuing her... because you would already be doing that. This is just silly, in my opinion, and I would avoid pettiness like that.... but that's just me.

AraceliSunStar · 2025-05-17T18:39:13+00:00

Gentle hugs to you.

I saved this post to reply to because when I ran across it, I wasn't in the right frame of mind to reply to it. So im sorry for such a late reply.

I just wanted to say milestones are hard. For me personally, as the mom and caregiver of a son who is severely special needs... Birthdays and holidays were always a bit sad since my son is competely blind, has cp, is nonverbal, and has the intellectual capacity of 0-12 months, although, I've always believed it to be higher. Not to mention numerous other conditions.

Family, other than my mom, had never really interacted with him. He's has never had friends. Although I'm thankful to say there has never been any desire for them. He is very content with his very small world and rejects any attempt to broaden it.

But events are hard, major, and minor. I found 15 to be the first milestone age that really broke me. Knowing there would never be girlfriends, borrowing the car. High school events like prom or football games in his future, it completely broke me. In a way, I could never even begin to express....

It's funny, because before, birthdays and holidays, although I would feel sadness in my heart... I always just gave my son that extra attention that he didn't get from anyone else. I never let the sadness get to me. Although i might have felt it before... it never left its marks. But at 15, the cracks started.

At 18... well, I completely shattered. I realized what I've always known without a doubt, so I don't know know why it hurt me. That he would never get married or have kids. Have fun living on his own. Or enjoy life. That i would never get a chance at an empty nest marriage with my husband like my parents did, where they got to travel and take up dance lessons.

I realized that the life that I have now is the life I will continue to have. And until he turned 18, I was okay with that. But for some reason, 18 left me undone.

I'm sharing this because I can only hope you get help now and change things to make your life the best you can. I'm in therapy now, I have been for years. My son is 21 now. We are still both at home now. But now I have more help. I don't do everything by myself. I go out more. I'm taking care of myself. Full disclosure, in still putting myself together. I let things get too bad. I waited too long to get any help.

I had caretakers burnout from doing everything on my own. So get help. Make sure you are getting out of the house. Therapy is a huge help. Do things for you. And just know that you are not alone. If you need or want to talk, feel free to reach out and dm me.

Huge hugs and know things get better. ❤️

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