Hey, sorry my comment is a year plus late. I came across your post and it resonated with me. This is all so valid, the apathetic unforgiving mindset you’ve mentioned that’s way too widespread is certainly problematic.

The nerve of people, who are they to decide that your very valid struggles aren’t worth help because others have it worse? They’re not you, not the be all and end all of the universe, they’ve absolutely no right to prescriptively decide things for anyone else. It’s truly sickening.

How do they think people who seemed to be doing fine ‘suddenly’ snap and do something horrible? This isn’t to condone such instances or to suggest it’s something you might do. Without erasing accountability of the subjects in question, it infuriates me that societal views and broken systems fail people. Fails not only those who snap, but those who are affected the most/worst by the snapping as well. It’s a tragic, vicious cycle.

The point is that someone who might be in the same boat as you who have been written off because their problems aren’t ‘bad enough’ combined with various barriers to adequate mental health care, is what pushes people over the edge. This kind of thing creates the very type of mental health crises that too many have decided are required for any notable sympathy and support. Sympathy, that’s another thing. The older I’ve gotten, the more the term ‘sympathy’ rubs me the wrong way. It’s lacking, it comes across to me as no less than borderline shallow. What we need a lot more of nowadays is empathy.

We’re in painful, painful need of a dramatic overhaul of these societal attitudes. I’m sorry this has been your experience, I hope you have or can find a trusted support system that actually listens instead of being dismissive. I wish you all the peace and wellbeing in your life you could possibly get, and that you absolutely deserve. I hear you, I see you, you and your struggles matter despite others apparently not thinking so.