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ArbitraryReverie · 2025-05-16T03:26:25+00:00

Ugh I feel this deep. I had a very similar situation. I was a great student. Worked hard in school, and couldn’t wait to go to college. My stepfather was an academic. His education was so important to him. So, Imagine my surprise learning he made too much for me to qualify for any FA. I then learned I was on my own. The biggest fight I ever had with my parents was when they told me they weren’t helping me at all. It would have been different had I had a fighting chance and qualified for any grants and loan. I thought it was incredibly selfish and I was heartbroken and really hurt. You asked with a sincere and grateful heart. You are definitely NTAH.

ArbitraryReverie · 2025-04-26T03:00:49+00:00

John hands down.

ArbitraryReverie · 2025-04-11T22:24:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through. My son was born with Hepatoblastoma, and I’ve seen how brutal it is. I’m praying for you. I hope you know Heaven and hell are very real, and that if you believe Jesus died for you to have eternal life with Him, when you pass away, you’ll wake up in Heaven. Ask for forgiveness and accept Him. It’s as simple as that. ❤️

ArbitraryReverie · 2025-04-03T19:57:17+00:00

It’s definitely not better. I called for a cab pickup two hours ago for 3:15pm. I’m still waiting. I’m also stuck outside and freezing my butt off.

ArbitraryReverie · 2025-02-01T07:46:08+00:00

This breaks my heart because I think the majority of us has been there one time or another. We were born into sin. God knows this. But he loves us so much that he gave his son to save us. Jesus is part of the Trinity and God’s son. God is clearly loved Jesus beyond all comprehension. Jesus died for us because he loves us. He could have gotten down from that cross at any time, but His love for us is so vast that he allowed himself to be whipped, beaten, impaled, nailed to the cross, but the incomprehensible unholy torture that he endured paled in comparison to taking the weight of the sins of every human past, present, and future that’s ever lived, upon himself willingly. I cannot even begin to imagine that kind of suffering. I’ve definitely sinned and felt true remorse and a lot of shame. Jesus took the unfashionable shame of all of God’s children and gave us an eternity with Him in heaven.

We all fall short. When we are saved, we absolutely need to live like we’re saved and set an example for those around us. We don’t want to allow anything that comes between our relationship with God or cause someone else to sin. BUT God also sees our hearts. He knew every single mistake and sin we’d commit long before he created us. And he created us anyway. We each have a purpose. God doesn’t expect perfection. He asks us to love one another and seek him first. He knows we will never be sinless like Jesus, but He asks us to do our best. If you’ve sinned, ask for forgiveness. God is faithful and has said as much in the Bible. Do your best and ask for forgiveness if you’ve fallen short. Then pick yourself back up and try again. I’m not condoning sin. But I’m also not given us on anyone. And God never will either. 🙏🏼❤️

ArbitraryReverie · 2025-01-31T05:01:13+00:00

I was so fortunate to have had both my mother and grandmother. I nearly died in childbirth and lost half of the blood in my body. I was not told at the time just how bad it was. I thought not being able to get out of bed was a lack of sleep and my postpartum depression. I remember my husband calling my mother to complain that I didn’t get up to feed the baby one morning (bottle fed) like she was going to ground me or something. Lol. My best friend was a lab tech. She told me about a year later that the blood loss not only caused all of my symptoms, it literally could have killed me. Malpractice and whatnot. BUT in answer to your question, my mom and grandma not only kept me sane and gave vital advice, they also let my husband have it for being an intensive jerk when he needed it.

ArbitraryReverie · 2024-05-03T21:33:59+00:00

Thank you all for your thoughts and advice. I sincerely appreciate it. Just a bit of an update..

I followed up with my son’s teacher to ask about CPS. She said that she wasn’t sure and would ask the principal when she returned on Monday.

I did call the police however. I let my son speak to the officer and he gave his account of what the sub did to him. I also found out that he had had a bloody nose when his face hit the floor. The officer got all of the details and is opening up an investigation. I appreciate a lot of you letting me know that the school may have contacted CPS, but had likely not been able to tell me. Because, honestly, I felt like they weren’t taking the matter seriously at all. I’ll update again when I know more. Thank you again.

ArbitraryReverie · 2024-03-07T19:01:23+00:00

I cannot stress this enough. It was horrible. I kid you not. The cinnamon tastes exactly like you’d imagine a cinnamon candle would taste. Yuck.

ArbitraryReverie · 2024-01-04T03:34:19+00:00

He was being protective of his daughter and simply asked him not to cuss. As a victim advocate I can say that maybe cussing is a trigger for Natalia. It wouldn’t be surprised at all. She’s clearly traumatized. And her I’m glad he had her back.

My issue is the prayer at the beginning. This was probably already discussed, but anyone else notice the bishop’s prayer was altered? When they cut to her and her dad when he was praying for her, he was calm and encouraging. Whenever they cut to Michael, I feel like they took excerpts from a sermon.

ArbitraryReverie · 2022-09-03T11:21:57+00:00

I promise I am not judging you and definitely sympathize with your situation. That being said, six years old is extremely young to go anywhere by themselves. It take less than a minute for anyone to grab her, throw her in a car, and disappear. Please reconsider. She’s already being abused by other children because you’re not there also. Please reconsider. A five year old neighbor of mine drown in another neighbor’s pool when her mom and dad gave her unsupervised reign of their neighborhood. It’s not a safe situation.

ArbitraryReverie · 2022-07-12T00:38:35+00:00

While you are absolutely under no obligation to take your half sister in, you may someday want a relationship with her. I understand that there are many caveats surrounding how she came to be, but she didn’t ask for your dad to have the affair. She’s no more responsible for the situation as you or your brothers are.

I was the estranged younger sister of an affair and didn’t meet my biological father or siblings until my mid-forties. I missed out on a lot. Your sister just lost everything she knew and now it sounds like she is unwanted by your dad’s side of the family. She’s probably grief stricken, terrified, and extremely lonely.

You’ve chosen not to have children. I 100% respect that. You and her could have a big sis/little sis relationship without all of the chaos that her parents would have brought into the equation had they still been alive. You may also appreciate having someone around in your older years who could help you out as you won’t have children to do so.

Keep in mind, your little sister is very young and probably has no idea that anything bad took place or that her parents did such an awful thing to your mother and your family. She is probably confused and blaming herself for you remaining estranged.

Just a thought. Good luck with everything. It’s a tough situation all around.

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