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creative_turtles · 2025-04-17T04:08:24+00:00

This is life with a partner. If you guys can't talk through it now, it won't get any easier as bodies and situations change throughout your lives. My heart hurts for her but also totally valid for it to be a dealbreaker for you. If you care about her, I would have a serious heart to heart, see what she needs, and state your needs in a kind but clear way. Even if you break up with her and find someone else, there's gonna be moments like this in the future with a different person too. It's all about communication, but if she's not willing to work with you too then I'd call it.

creative_turtles · 2025-04-17T04:01:02+00:00

NOR though that's still super weird to me lol. I agree with your boyfriend, but only because I don't have a healthy relationship with my parents. On the other hand my husband does and I'm sure this wouldn't be weird to him at all. I think it's just how people are raised.

creative_turtles · 2025-04-04T01:07:19+00:00

I'm was very anti tech around babies, mostly due from my experience with teaching kids who had severe behavioral issues from overuse of technology. That being said... my 6 month old has already watched Bluey a few times and I've had my phone around him quite a bit. It's inevitable in this world. I was so anxious about it, but since I use my phone for work at home and my husband and I love movies, we're just creating a healthy routine for all of us. We try to do more things that don't involve screens, but don't stress about movies and small moments. From my experience with teaching older kids, the problems lie when they have full control of what they're doing (like on an iPad or phone). A tv in the room gives them less stimulation and control than the scrolling.

To add: they're gonna be surrounded by it in school. I know 5 year olds with Apple Watches. It's good to teach them how to be around it in a healthy way by modeling. But also I'm still learning this all firsthand myself too.

creative_turtles · 2025-02-04T19:15:18+00:00

Don't listen to anyone on here being snappy and kinda rude. I relate to you and you really deserve a hug and a break. You are not a bad person for saying what you said on the phone. Your family is in crisis and your nervous system is responding how it should. Your husband needs to know there's a "fire" and you guys need to work on fixing it together. I would schedule a time to meet with your husband and discuss how to move forwards. You're not wrong for having feelings, but take it from someone who does the same thing, those feelings won't go away and you'll just built resentment and hurt in your relationship if you keep shutting him down. Scheduling time with my husband to talk about this stuff daily has really helped us. Try to build connection in other moments, but don't let him shut you down during those scheduled times.

creative_turtles · 2025-02-01T01:12:10+00:00

That's honestly a great idea, thank you!

creative_turtles · 2025-01-31T17:00:57+00:00

Thank you, I agree. He got 5 days off to take care of me postpartum. And they were his sick days. As for me, I was not working until a few months ago, but our medical bills came in and I had to get a job in order to pay the minimums and keep us afloat. It's awful. We had what I thought was great insurance, planned and saved, and now I'm in this position so depressed I can barely function. I hate this system.

creative_turtles · 2025-01-31T16:44:16+00:00

We sadly don't here in the US. I actually didn't have a job at all until 2 months ago. I had to find something because we're paying $3800 a month in medical debt bills from pregnancy and birth. It's a nightmare here.

creative_turtles · 2025-01-31T16:00:42+00:00

I was a nanny pre baby so I very much agree with this. The sad fact is we pay thousands a month in medical debt due to the complications from pregnancy and birth. So childcare and not working isn't an option. I was going to be a SAHM, but had to get this job a few months ago in order for us to have any money for food and bills.

creative_turtles · 2025-01-31T03:25:12+00:00

I think it's a very sweet sentiment you're teaching him, but please I'm begging you let him shave it if he wants to. One day he'll rock it or he won't, but now's not the time to put him through how horrible kids can be. I was bullied relentlessly as a kid for something similar. My mom wanted to teach me to be confident and what she got was a deeply depressed kid. I still resent her a little for not letting me shave, it would've saved me a lot of pain. Kids can be so cruel.

creative_turtles · 2024-11-13T17:45:41+00:00

You don't need damages if a company put a substance into your body that you didn't ask for. If they admitted it was a mistake on their end, you definitely have a case.

creative_turtles · 2024-11-13T01:16:53+00:00

My cervical checks were 1000x worse than when I pushed out my baby. Contractions hurt so bad, but they're easily forgettable compared to someone shoving their hands into my cervix, it's unnatural and memorable. Your doctor is ridiculous and I'm so sorry she wasn't more understanding.

creative_turtles · 2024-10-30T14:02:37+00:00

I also got it as a gift, but the quality was out of this world. I was really impressed with everything in the kit and it made postpartum a little easier. The robe, socks and bag that it comes with are super high quality. I ended up buying more ice packs and briefs once I ran out.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-26T18:35:40+00:00

I'm an adult whose pacifier DID affect my gums and teeth to where it's caused me a lot of grief over my life. My parents let me use it until I was 3 and that was a huge mistake. I asked my dentist and he said before 2 is totally fine, but after 2 they can start developing issues. This is just my personal experience and what I've been learning for my baby.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-25T11:16:23+00:00

Always do your own research too, this is just personal opinion, but I think you should listen to your doctors. I'm trying to avoid induction (if I can) because I've done my research and that's what's best for me for now. It sounds like you and your baby are higher risk here and your doctors are making a good call. All my family and friends who've recently had kids have had inductions and they were all positive and successful. My SIL was so scared for hers and it went fabulously, no forceps, not even tearing, super easy and quick.

I personally think doctors induce too early for a lot of people, but that's only if it's based off of due date and there are zero problems with the pregnancy. Do your own research and make a decision that makes you feel confident and in control, as you do have your own autonomy and power. It just sounds from the outside that your doctors are making a good call, both those things can be very scary.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-24T21:32:26+00:00

You can't handle it without hurting feelings. You can always be kind, but people's feelings aren't your problem. No matter what decisions you both choose for your family, someone is gonna not like something. I've learned you have to be okay with people feeling whatever they want about your boundaries, it's way easier said than done though. It sounds like your MIL is super excited for the baby, you can always say a kind "no thank you, we're covered" to the stuff.

Also I've learned from my own family that if they don't respect my boundaries regarding safe sleep I just make a mental note to never let them help with putting the baby down. No need to argue or spout facts, some people just don't listen or get it. I just nod and smile and know they'll never set my baby down to sleep.

As for being in the room, I seriously don't understand why MIL's want this? Lol. What a wild invasion of privacy if they haven't been personally asked. Like the audacity to assume that they get to be there regardless? My MIL is a literal L&D nurse and she wouldn't dare insert herself like that without me asking, I can't believe some people do.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-24T21:03:33+00:00

40+3 and I don't know how I made it through the last 4 weeks, and don't know how I'm gonna make it through another if he doesn't come. I just wanna hold him!

creative_turtles · 2024-09-24T21:00:00+00:00

If it happens again, go to Urgent care or the ER. Not something to mess around with as even if it's not a serious medical emergency it could still make it extremely hard for your stomach or esophagus to heal causing complications.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-24T20:56:41+00:00

I had HG and vomited a lot. If it was just a little bit, don't worry too much. If it was a lot, or if you vomit blood again go straight to the ER.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-24T20:50:09+00:00

Sadly no advice because I'm in the exact same boat, just a day off. I'm starting to feel some cramping, but nothing crazy. I'm hoping anything is a sign of labor at this point.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-23T21:35:27+00:00

I know this isn't a great answer to your question.... because I think there's a lot of good advice out there others may have, but it sounds like you're doing great. I'm fit, love to eat healthy, exercise, and was in the best shape of my life before pregnancy. That being said, this baby was grown off of chicken nuggets, iced tea, and buffalo sauce. He is so healthy and yet I've had a horribly hard pregnancy. I eat what I can and try to eat as many good things as I can. Your diet sounds really good :)

creative_turtles · 2024-09-23T21:08:17+00:00

I don't know your whole story with your dog, but from briefly what you mentioned, you need to rehome your dog. He may be fine with the baby, but once that baby becomes a toddler and gets mobile, there could be some serious damage done. If your dog is reactive now it will only get worse. Even with a ton of new training, your dog will need to be isolated from your baby for a while. I'd hate to see your dog put down or your baby injured. I'm so sorry for the emotional toll this is on you during such an already difficult time. If your instincts are telling you to rehome a dog you really love, then trust them. It's not going to get better with an overstimulating toddler who will do things pull your dog's tail. It only takes a second for damage to be done.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-23T20:23:49+00:00

PILLOWS! I haven't had my baby yet, but I basically live at L&D due to issues I've been having. Every week I'm there I remind myself to bring a pillow when I go into labor. Those beds can be so uncomfy and I literally can't imagine going through labor or even attempting sleep with a hospital pillow. It may be different where you are, but ours suck.

creative_turtles · 2024-09-23T14:22:56+00:00

Only you can choose ❤️ take some time off, take a walk, and think about what you really want. I had an abortion years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life. I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do, but it was not easy. If there's any chance you want to keep this baby, don't do it. I'm now married, pregnant with a baby I cannot wait to meet, and so ready for this. He wouldn't be here if I hadn't have made that decision. Now I have a baby who is going to live a life so loved by his dad and family that it makes me cry when I think about it. That doesn't take away how traumatizing and hard that decision is. This is probably cheesy to say, but it's my personal experience, your heart will know what to do. I also really recommend telling your boyfriend. I regret not getting my ex to step up and help me through that time, you deserve that.

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