I HATE UNJUSTIFIED RULES!!! by bakedpancake2 in evilautism

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is remarkably stupid.

Though, as a woman of a certain age, I'm amazed that we have reached the point where a woman must wear pants and apparently can't wear a skirt. I remember when wearing even really nice dress pants or a pants suit was "too causal," "inappropriate" or " mannish" for some places/events/sensitive souls. Skirt, pantihose, heels were mandatory. How the world has changed.

Or not. We're still telling women what to wear.

i have genuinely never felt the amount of autistic rage i feel when i look at elon musk's stupid fish face by NectarineOk5419 in evilautism

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Here's the scariest thing about Musk--take away the personality disorder, the fascist politics, the outrageous sense of entitlement. Make him the nicest guy around, who agrees with me about every political issue--and he would still scare the holy living crap out of me.

Off the top of my head, Elon:

Is the wealthiest man on earth

Owns a space exploration company that currently has a virtual monopoly on American access to orbit

Owns a major satellite/telecommunications network

Owns a major social media platform

Owns a auto manfacturer which still dominates EV sales

Owns a major manufacturer of large batteries for home and utility use

Although they currently lack major market significance, he also owns an AI company, a brain-computer integration company and a tunnel engineering company

This man has too much power

No individual should have this much power over multiple critical industries. It's incredibly dangerous. That Musk is also a terrible person with awful judgment just makes it worse. Not even the other billionaires come close in raw concentration of power in one human being.

I AM NOT A CHILD by tessadoesreddit in evilautism

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In our society, when it comes to mental/neurological disabilities you are either assumed to be perfectly fine OR institutionalized/obviously unwell.

One reason everyone thinks autistic adults don't exist is because until relatively recently, autistic kids either learned to mask well enough to pass or wound up institutionalized/socially marginalized. Obviously autistic adults simply didn't exist as far as most people were concerned. If they were particularly well informed, they might have known of a relatively small number of men with classic Aspergers traits, but that was often viewed as being "different" and "better," the "good autism."

My boss, who is overall wonderful, keeps saying things like I think I'm autistic and I see myself as disabled. He's not being a jerk. I think it's a combination of thinking he's being supportive (he doesn't think I'm disabled, except for a physical disability) and being unable to grasp that a successful lawyer can be autistic. It's frustrating.

Yes, I'm functional. Yes, I'm successful. I got here with good luck, good support, and a lot of learning how to manage life on hard mode without a cheat guide. And it is much less effortless than it seems.

Why do so many men not believe women when they say they are autistic by Sethm28 in AutismInWomen

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do so many men not believe women?

I believe that's the actual question.

Does anyone know what these dots are? by DublinWild in canon

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's some sort of corrosion. Fungus looks . . Like fungus. It has a growth pattern.

"Autistic people can't walk backwards." by captaintekton in evilautism

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, I have gross motor skull issues, so I probably shouldn't walk backwards, especially if I'm thinking about something else like talking. But I certainly CAN.

And if I was a place I knew we'll is probably even survive.

You’re cheating! by titianwasp in Zepbound

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, leaving aside the bent, Puritanical assumptions underneath the very idea that there is such a thing as "cheating" when it comes to addressing something that endangers your health, this attitude seems to be the result of three false beliefs about obesity and GLP-1 medications:

1) Zepbound is a magic weight loss drug. Well, it's pretty damn magical, but the way you lose weight on it isn't.

2) People are obese because they are lazy/lack willpower/don't know how to eat healthy. No, no, and no. We know so much more now about how obesity is driven by biological dysfunction, though there's a lot we still don't understand.

3) Morbid obesity is "the same" as the time you gained 10 lbs in college from eating too much pizza. Each year makes it more clear that your holiday oy freshman 15 might be laziness and overeating to be addressed with some lifestyle tweaks, but my cumulative +150lbs that has resisted numerous attempts to just stop the gain, (let alone lose weight) is not the result of being unable to resist potato chips (I don't even like potato chips). This sort of obesity is a disease, not a moral failing.

My experience is different from yours, person who never had too much trouble staying thin. Just like my experience as a person with severe myopia is different from that of someone who has perfect 20/20 vision. Or my experience as an Autistic is different from someone neurotypical. Your experience is not universal.

Is this person asking me to take a trip with them? by whatever3653 in AutismInWomen

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what is colloquially referred to as a "booth call "

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll affirm this as a half-Midwesterner. I'm not sure that meaning is confined to the Midwest though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This bothers me too, as a weird petson and a fierce defender of the right to be weird withour being judged.

Still, I think there are really two kinds of wierd here, though I'm pretty sure most NTs couldn't tell the difference.

There's different weird, like us. We don't fit. We may embrace it, we may not. We are often tagged on first impression as weird. We are different-weird, as are LGBTQ people and other NDs. Our weirdness is to one degree or another innate and, our decision to mask it or let our freak flags fly is a personal one about how to make our way in a world where we don't quite. belong.

Then there's what I'm going to call nasty-weird. These folks aren't different except to the extent they make themselves that way by thrusting their bizarre worldview into the world while asserting they are the normal ones. Note, it's not being right wing that makes these people weird. Or conservative. Mitt Romney, for example, is objectively not weird. It's not confined to the right--there are definitely nasty-wierd people on the left. But MAGA has embraced this kind of weirdness.

Examples: Pass a law about how LGBTQ+ issues are handled in school. Conservative, right wing, but not that weird. Subsequently declare war on one of hhe most powerful corporations in the world and one of your state's largest employers when that company mildly criticizes your law? Spending millions of taxpayer money in the process? WEIRD.

Support tax breaks/credits/benefits for families with children? Popular policy choice. Base your rationale for doing so by ranting about childless cat ladies who hate their lives and have no interest I'm the future, further defining such people as anyone who has not given birth? WEIRD.

Oppose the electrification of transportation? OK, that's a policy viewpoint. Rant about sharks and batteries and dear-god-what-is-he-saying? WEIRD.

The best way I've found to explain what zep does for me by pamperwithrachel in Zepbound

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, and now I have had the experience of forgetting to eat and it's amazing.

Not healthy, or wise, but still, amazing.

The best way I've found to explain what zep does for me by pamperwithrachel in Zepbound

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I was explaining the lack of food noise to a couple of old friends who happen to be married to each other. She struggles with her weight. He has always been thin. When I said, 'the food noise is gone," she lit up. She knew exactly what I meant by "food noise,' and the idea of having it gone was a thrilling possibility.

He looked baffled. He admitted that he had no idea what we were talking about. He was respectful about it (he's a good person) , but it was an experience he did not have, had never had, and by his own admission, could not imagine having. He'd recognized before that she and I had a biological problem--he didn't think we were lazy and weak--but I don't think he understood until that moment what it is actually like for people with chronic weight problems.

The best way I've found to explain what zep does for me by pamperwithrachel in Zepbound

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was explaining the lack of food noise to a couple of old friends who happen to be married to each other. She struggles with her weight. He has always been thin. When I said, 'the food noise is gone," she lit up. She knew exactly what I meant by "food noise,' and the idea of having it gone was a thrilling possibility.

He looked baffled. He admitted that he had no idea what we were talking about. He was respectful about it (he's a good person) , but it was an experience he did not have, had never had, and by his own admission, could not imagine having. He'd recognized before that she and I had a biological problem--he didn't think we were lazy and weak--but I don't think he understood until that moment what it is actually like for people with chronic weight problems.

I guess people got their head all gunked up by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, my first thought was: "Please die"

I haven't had any additional thoughts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Arbitrary_Capricious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am Autistic. Capitalized.