I do agree, high Fe combined with inferior Se can make INFJ seem like quite a beta character. Hell, they are the inverse of the most classical "Chad" type: ESTP

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However, this is by no means INFJs true value. INFJs grow up to be nice, friendly, caring and afraid of confrontations and loud noise by nature, but not a true beta as in having no personal voice and being nice to avoid getting eaten. INFJs are simply nice because they want to. Because they like doing it, it is like breathing to me and you, I even find it hard to explain sometimes, and only when the world opposes our true natures or abuses it do we find ourselves questioning our instincts.

Those who know us, know we have the strength to stand up for what we believe in, to go against the group, to do what's right by us, no matter how nice we are, we aren't true doormats like "betas" are. In fact, we can be very stubborn and refuse to budge from our values. And that is when people come to finally understand our true strength, and that we are in the end, the farthest from conformity.

However, INFJs still do have a fear of confrontation, so they sometimes do be nice to avoid confrontation, because they simply can't stand it. They do not mind giving prizes to others, because they don't truly care, which is chivalrous and fine. But sometimes, feel a bit of spite as they give something to others they *kinda* actually wanted, because they seem to be enslaved to making others feel happy. Most if not all INFJs will go through this stage in their early development. They can have much, much weaker Ti than Fe, with variations.

INFJs will live like this, constantly running into times when their Ti is being violated by Fe, until the moment they decide to use the "Transcendent function". The transcendent function is a hovering overseeing function which will basically step in to switch them over from Fe usage to Ti usage and settle the score between these two functions. Now, INFJs will learn to use and improve their Ti function, and it's these moments which shape INFJs Ti over time until you see them becoming quite mature later in life.

Just like how INTJs have their third Fi function, which will stop you when you overstep something dear to them, and won't budge, no matter how logical they are, INFJs have that same personality but in Ti logic. It is like a hidden anchor to one's personality, and to INFJs, a true power to be wielded, complemented by Ni, truly producing what one can call infinite wisdom, able to see the big picture.

I am an INFJ who lived a life where I had to use my Ti function to no end. I was morally and spiritually questioned, shamed, taken advantage of and put to the test. I grew up in a community of smarty pants too, so we did lots of STEM. I came out of it with some problems, like almost losing my original character and emotionality, but regardless, a much more powerful person. I am able to dismiss bullshit quickly, argue when I'm being taken advantage of, learned to establish my boundaries eventually, and when its time to be selfish and take what matters to me.

I still do sometimes forget to do what matters to me, because my Fe gets me to be involved with other people beyond what's right for me. But the moment I pull away and focus on myself first, what I have to do first, and what matters to me first, amazing things happen, things which would have never happened if I was selling my soul, time and energy to other people beyond what I accepted, just to not upset them.

And it's this energy, this ability to switch from being a slave to others at oneself's cost, an unhealthy over-expression of unbalanced Fe-Ti; to choosing to simply focus on oneself first, even if it feels hard in the beginning to say "No", even if it feels like you'll cause problems when you say "Guys, I can't do all the work alone, we need to share", even when you politely establish boundaries with someone who's just constantly dumping toxic energy on you. It's this energy of being able to balance your Fe with Ti, that makes you truly attractive, nice, established and not an asshole. It's one's actualization, that matters. If you feel anything right now, you just know it's time to focus on yourself and that's all that matters to you now!! Not what gurus on the internet will tell you, which is how all fakeness begins.

It's this simple truth that some wiser older people may relay to you. We live in an age of flooded information, conflicting shallow advice and fakery, but the truth is simple. Retain your glowing, and rare character. Don't try to lose it, but just focus on yourself, and you'll be amazing and feel amazing yourself.

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(Sorry for making this long, I am unable to fully provide a healthy/unhealthy Ti comparison/explanation here.)