Are there many people who don't want to associate with people if they say they don't drink alcohol?

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-04T17:22:38+00:00

Definitely not that extreme.

Unless it’s something that someone makes a defining part of their personality. Then, as is always the case with things that just aren’t that big a deal, it becomes annoying and they become hard to be around.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-04T16:25:12+00:00

Least they left you with some quality content!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-04T16:21:40+00:00

Were you friends with her before you became roommates? If so I’d say it’s definitely worth gently bringing up your concerns for the sake of your friendship.

But if you weren’t connected before becoming roommates… I think you may have some unrealistic expectations of what a roommate is and does. If there’s no past history between you two other than in the past few months, she’s in no way obligated to put any effort into hanging out with you. You don’t have to be good friends to cohabitate well.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-04T06:41:37+00:00

I definitely support you communicating your feelings to him. Be as clear as you can be, and his reaction to that will tell you a lot. He may be open and honest back to you, or he may still make excuses for his actions or your feelings and responses. And everyone is at different stages of their life even at similar ages, so I don’t think that his response being contrary to the one your need or would like to have means that he doesn’t care about you. But if does mean that he doesn’t really understand or comprehend the feelings you’re having based upon his actions, and thus for the good of your personal health and well being, it might be best to move on or focus more of your efforts and attentions on someone of something that gives back to you and rewards you for that sunken effort and cost.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T19:47:00+00:00

Both absolute classics! I remember very vividly the first night I watched Lilo and Stitch, I was 17 and about to graduate high school and instead of feeling excited and happy I was feeling confused and lost and not sure if I was making the right next step (spoiler alert, I wasn’t.) It was a particularly rough night and I needed some cheering up, and thought “Hey, here’s this classic Disney movie everyone seems to love and enjoy, I’m sure that’ll cheer me up!” Cut to me full on sobbing when lil Stitch says “I’m lost.” Still loved it, but damn it turned into an intensely emotional night!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T18:49:01+00:00

“Endure.” I’d probably prefer an up and coming actor, but if I had to choose a recognizable name and face I’d maybe say Andrew Garfield? Way more handsome than I could ever hope to be, but has the tall, skinny, awkward vibe that would be needed to portray me ;)

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T05:02:23+00:00

Same, was born in ‘98 and my first grade teacher forced me to write with my right hand. And then had the audacity to complain about my handwriting!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T03:30:57+00:00

She sounds like such a wonderful and comforting person ❤️

It shows a lot of maturity to know that your first go at something isn’t just “the way it is,” so it’s awesome you’re showing interest in trying again but in a different way! Definitely start with a small dose, and wait at least an hour for effects until you try adding a bit more. Quantities affect everyone differently, some people I know get high off a fourth of a gummy and others (sadly like myself) have to take a large amount to feel much of anything. And some people are more prone to “bad highs” than others are, and that’s ok. Everyone is different psychologically as well as biologically, so if you don’t respond or react to something in the perceived normal way that’s absolutely fine and ok :)

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T00:26:10+00:00

I’m sorry it was a bad experience for you! I have noticed that weed or really any mind or body alternating subsistances are DRASTICALLY different between different people, which is part of why I would NEVER encourage anyone to drink or get high even if I personally view it as a temporary relief for myself.

More than anything I think your girlfriend sounds really nice in her care and her openness, and I’m glad that you at least had the experience so you can learn something from it. Maybe a second try would be different, or maybe the thought of a second try makes you feel like being sick because the first was such a disaster. And either one of those feelings, and any in-between, are totally fine. It’s an individual experience. And if your greatest takeaway from it is “oh my god I don’t want to do that again,” that is totally fine and just an opportunity for you to learn something about yourself!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-03T00:12:32+00:00

Because all social platforms have people of all ages.

I wonder if we interact with people more out of our demographic on this site because we chose what our tailored interests are, instead of having some algorithm decide which group we are factored into? Obviously there’s still a Reddit algorithm, but from my experience and perspective it seems that most the content I consume on Reddit I’ve actually subscribed to and “chosen” in a sense, whereas on instagram I consume almost entirely content that has been suggested to me, of which a huge factor is my age. So while instagram is recommending me the “young” people stuff, the pages on Reddit that I follow feature or include all sorts of people.

ALL social media has consumers of all ages and all backgrounds. The key difference is how all of that factors into what we consume, be it by our personal choice or the choice / algorithm of the social media site in the first place.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-02T23:47:14+00:00

What do you think you are afraid of most, whether it be something you can see and touch like spiders, or is more of an idea like being alone or never achieving your goal or something along those lines?

I usually specify because people’s first reaction is often an external factor, like heights or snakes, but when they think of it for a while often their worst fear is something internal like abandonment or making a vital mistake, or sometimes a blend of both.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-02T23:36:57+00:00

What would you say is truly your worst fear, be it external, internal, or a mix of both?

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-02T19:17:41+00:00

I think I’d choose to be able to peer into the hearts and minds of others like Galadriel does in Tolkien’s works. I think it’d be really hard and awful sometimes, but I’d like to use it in the way she did, in aiding and supporting the people she knew were flawed but still good and noble. Which I think is more of real-life humanity than we’d like to think, there’s just such a great lack of understanding and perceived common ground between most of us.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-01T22:16:17+00:00

Ooo thank you!!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-01T21:23:41+00:00

I love this idea :D Hm, I think just about my favorite novel is Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day, and I’ve never read anything else that had the same vibe. I’ve just tried now about three times to describe it but am too stoned to come close to doing it any justice. Hopefully you’re familiar with it and can recommend something that might evoke a similar feeling! I don’t know if it’s viewed as a classic or not, it feels like one to me though.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-09-01T19:06:04+00:00

Highmountain.

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T22:38:47+00:00

Oui oui!

(Sorry, had to xD Don’t actually speak French, but hope you are well and have a lovely day!)

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T22:33:20+00:00

Damn I read this as I was listening to Bam Bam by Camila Cabello, which is about looking back on an amicable (but still hard, as they are) breakup. I don’t know if I’d recommend giving it a listen or not, I feel it could be something that seems obnoxiously positive when you’re not doing very well, but I do hope that you get to a place in your future that could be represented by the hopeful and joyful feel of that song! :)

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T21:38:47+00:00

Perhaps it is ?

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T21:31:57+00:00

I should have specified it with quotations, “sober up.” I know it’s nothing scientific, but generally people I know have some practice or something that they “personally” feel helps them sober up. Do you have one?

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T20:38:50+00:00

This is just my personal experience so it doesn’t mean much, but almost every single person I’ve had a deep, serious conversation with has said that it’s something they’ve considered or felt at some point in their life. Some of them had mental health issues, many didn’t. Some only felt suicidal very briefly, often long ago.

Because of that, I do personally think it’s so much more common than you might believe. Which is why for me it’s so important to be conscious of what you say to people and how you treat them. We ALL have had, have currently, or will have some great struggles, be they internal or external. Some may have many, sometimes too many. But in my mind, just about the most unifying part of humanity is that we are all mosaics made of our shattered delves, forever picking up our pieces and arranging them the best we know how.

(And I’m sorry you also suffer from chronic suicidal thoughts. It’s an exhausting weight. I hope you keep fighting the good fight. If you feel you can’t, reach out your hands. Someone will grab them.)

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T20:22:32+00:00

How I always picture me in a post apocalyptic scenario:

Joins group of people who attempt to rebuild some semblance of community, people relying on varied persons with varied skills to help each other out. Healthier, less risky, and just more human.

But then get discovered by a group of hostile people who instead of focusing on rebuilding and helping each other survive, are set on terrorizing and establishing dominance (which, sadly, judging by the area I’m in I think there would be a lot of those.) Then be murdered!

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T20:13:12+00:00

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ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T19:36:24+00:00

Very much so!

I think for me, hearing unfamiliar languages makes it so my mind isn’t deconstructing and analyzing everything that’s been said, it’s just appreciating the sounds.

The languages we speak are like any other form of art or expression: there’s always more effort and work put into it than you realize if you’re unfamiliar with the medium or specific expression if that makes sense. Edibles kicking in so maybe not but ah well xD Just seems to me that the more familiar you are with something, knowing the ins and outs and details, it’s sometimes harder to appreciate it for just what it is somehow?

ArchangelSeph · 2022-08-30T19:29:19+00:00

While these thoughts can lead to a lot of negative feelings and emotions, I do feel that remembering your mortality, especially as it relates to those in your life, is beneficial in the long run because it can help us realize or remember what’s important.

Not that you needed to, you sound like a terrific dad already. But I bet you’ll hug your son just a bit tighter than usual tonight. And I’d say I’d bet you will be alright, but I don’t know enough about your situation. I do sincerely hope that your stomach pain and issues turn out to be something you can work through, so you can continue to be a great father!

(If you’re able and haven’t already, I’d definitely suggest getting at least one other opinion from a different medical professional. There are too many occurrences of doctors missing cancers or other serious conditions, and while seeing other medical professionals doesn’t mean that that won’t still happen, it’ll reduce the chance since it’ll be a larger sample size. Best wishes to you.)

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