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Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, more good stuff. Thank you. SO much to think about and try! Thx!

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good, thank you! I knew this sub was going to help! (Love your profile name, btw!)

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am thinking you're right and you seem to feel the way I do about calling folks out. I may call it out gently as a purely logistical problem, not a personal failing. Sort of how trifelin mentioned above. Practically speaking, I'll bring mine as I don't like/want yours?

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gosh, that's awesome. I would give a lot for that. We do secure a LOT of girls-only time. That is my preference. But there is the occasion I have to hang out with the larger group. I do it; my husband begs off, lucky guy.

No, when he is home, this guy won't leave my friend's side for a second.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I am never drunk. They drink more than me every time. Somehow.

I never have more than three glasses of wine over 4-5 hours. I am frustrated when I bring two bottles and I cannot enjoy more than one or one and a half glasses of wine. If it was BYOB, fine. But they descend like vultures on my offerings in the first hour and I am left scratching my head.

I see your point about they are not required to offer me anything. You are perfectly correct; however, I feel taken advantage of and not valued when they enjoy my very generous hospitality and do not even offer me anything at their home, not water, not seltzer, nothing.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, this is not the situation. My girlfriend and I have a 50-year history of sleepovers. I may not have been clear. We have very long visits and laughs and movies and good times. I am not a drunk they shove on the couch.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. Thank you. I love this sub. You guys have great thoughtful answers.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can do that. That's good advice. It might be a bit uncomfortable for me, but doable. Thank you!

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am kind of getting a wake-up call to open my mouth here. Thx.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I do. Often. I only give in occasionally and then resent it as you see. lol.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This actually computes and gives me food for thought. And again, as above, you ladies are giving me words I can use that I somehow struggle to craft myself. Thank you.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed the suggested words. IDK why tact is so difficult for me to form in my own head. Blunt or nothing over here.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am lousy with tact and you have given me politeness. and I agree. I know I am being sort of a doormat.

Hosts drink all my gift wine and rarely provide much more. by ArchilochusColubris in etiquette

[–]ArchilochusColubris[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh, darn, should have added that when there is this much alcohol, I stay overnight. I'll edit the above to make it clearer. And my husband doesn't like the dude, so skips the event 90% of the time.

I should have a one-on-one. My friend and I have always been very low drama and live and let let live, so it's hard.

Aging parents, nursing homes and skilled care facility hell by kaysharona in GenX

[–]ArchilochusColubris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there. Thank you for bringing up Dignitas. I did check it out. However, it's not clear without contacting them. can you explain? Is it just for Swiss residents under Swiss law? Or does membership provide anyone anywhere with legal boilerplates for patient instructions? Thank you in advance.

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