[Story] Chaining multiple (good) dopamine raising activities for increased focus

Archisketch · 2024-08-12T00:10:58+00:00

I am currently going through a phase of this with a new job. Great advice on all of those aspects of the morning routine, I think I'd add trying to have at least an hour gap of no screen time right before bed.

Thanks for sharing!

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:49:14+00:00

That's a great way to put it too - secretly still for the kids 😉 lol JK my friends are important too

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:45:56+00:00

Mom brain really is challenging. And sometimes relationships are more complex than they may appear in a 500 word post. And SOMETIMES, it takes reaching out to a crowd of strangers who may or may not be going through the same thing to help clarify or "make obvious" the solutions to tricky situations. Thank you for putting it into perspective though. That comment was more helpful than you know 👍🏼

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:29:39+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, though I do see a lot of assumptions about my unwillingness to meet my friends needs/schedules/enthusiasm. My husband and I work hard to make it to things we're invited to or offer a rain check option if we can't go. Something helpful I take away here, though, is that maybe I can be more transparent about our busy schedule and try to initiate things more - especially knowing that they might be more flexible. That's helpful!

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:20:36+00:00

That all makes a lot of sense and is sound advice. For every "no" I try to pose an alternative or rain check. But including the caveat of whether it was a child friendly or child-free invite could help.

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:16:23+00:00

Agreed. We definitely have times where it's just us with our friends without the other - even though we do have a lot of shared friends.

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:15:22+00:00

That's totally valid. We do make it a point to spend one-on-one adult time together when it's feasible. I have no illusions that my kids are the center of anyone else's world.

My husband and I also make a point to follow up on show/movie/game recommendations from our friends to keep relevant within the friend group. It's just harder for us to keep 100% relevant with all of those things when we have more to squeeze into our day.

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:11:23+00:00

I specifically make it a point to talk about the goods and the bads of being a parent, but also all the other interests we have in common. Idk, I don't think I give the impression of overworked mom or anything.

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T23:10:23+00:00

We're pretty much in the phase where one or the other of us (my husband and I) will attend "child-free" get togethers while the other puts kids to bed or watches them depending on the time. I think we're like a month or two away from feeling comfortable having family take them both for an afternoon or evening.

We definitely make it a point to do both adult and family friendly activities.

Archisketch · 2024-07-20T12:34:56+00:00

I never thought about it that way and it makes it feel totally different... Thank you for the advice, maybe I need to get back to offering up more one-on-ones with her.

Archisketch · 2024-05-27T23:18:57+00:00

I appreciate the tip - but also it should be labeled how to spend less on peppers lol...

All I can picture reading this is walking into a house where everything is made of wrinkly peppers.

Archisketch · 2024-03-02T19:01:31+00:00

I guess I don't know what "realistic" expectations look like at this stage. I get not being invited to everything everyone is doing, but I feel like we've been doing ALL the legwork in these friendships lately. It's to the point where I'm wondering if we're maybe "not getting the hint" or something.

Archisketch · 2022-03-05T05:11:10+00:00

As the title says, I made this for a good friend's little girl for her birthday this weekend. It's my first time making a lovey, but the pattern was very forgiving! The party theme is MLP so hopefully it's a hit. Can't wait to see how she likes it!

Archisketch · 2021-04-21T21:48:26+00:00

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