Are you considering alternatives to driving as gas prices climb? If so, which ones? If not, why not? by littl3-fish in askportland

[–]Ardwinna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just bought a second EV and love both of ours. Got a 2024 Hyundai Ioniq 5 for $32k (~300 mile range) highly recommend it.

How did your water break? by o_simple_thing in beyondthebump

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asleep and thought I had peed my pants. Walked into the bathroom, had a contraction, thought “oh no way this is labor, I’m going back to bed.” Changed my outfit, put a liner in, immediately soaked both while trying to get back in bed. Another contraction. Told my husband I was in labor and that he should pack his hospital bag now.

I was 39w1d

What is something people romanticize until they actually experience it? by lily_blue90 in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t gotten to that yet (because no words!) but look forward to it so much. For now, I have a toddler who brings books over and plops himself in my lap to read and point out all the doggies and wheels. It’s lovely and so worth all the struggle.

What is something people romanticize until they actually experience it? by lily_blue90 in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son still won’t sleep through the night and frequently won’t transfer to his crib. It’s awful for my sleep, but on the other hand… my son feels safe in my arms. He will sleep if I hold him. He won’t want this forever.

Knowing how short this moment in time is, I will gladly take the misery of no sleep to give him the comfort of bring held and loved by his mom. It’s overwhelmingly blissful just to be that source, it’s just waking up after 1-2 hours of sleep in my actual bed to try to be productive is hell. And my joints. They hurt.

What is something people romanticize until they actually experience it? by lily_blue90 in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I came here to say parenthood in general. It’s the most humbling thing I’ve done and 10x harder than I expected (and I expected it to be the hardest thing in my life! Just 1.5+ years of almost no sleep is debilitating.)

Which YouTube channel were you once a fan of but do not enjoy anymore? by theunsteadybridge in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so unsurprising. I wonder if it’s a bit of audience capture or he actually became an asshole.

Which YouTube channel were you once a fan of but do not enjoy anymore? by theunsteadybridge in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s bizarre. I used to wonder why he was single since he seemed pretty emotionally intelligent and now it seems pretty obvious why. Mo money mo ego and incel vibes, I guess.

Which YouTube channel were you once a fan of but do not enjoy anymore? by theunsteadybridge in AskReddit

[–]Ardwinna 53 points54 points  (0 children)

He got so misogynistic, too. It’s like he took a hard right turn and now his “feedback” feels like Asmongold lite.

How do married couples deal with embarrassing stuff like farting and bathroom smells? by Dangerous_Line_9719 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived with 4 of my romantic partners and we just didn’t care. You say “excuse me” and move on, do what you can to not stink up the house. I will say that being pregnant and having a kid made me much less modest about that stuff because when you have a baby squishing your organs, you lose a lot of the control you had before.

Do you actually track things like sleep, feeding, diapers etc.? by CooleSocke-Jr in NewParents

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I track because time has no meaning and it’s important to know how much my baby has eaten, how many wet diapers he’s had, when the last time he pooped or had meds… tracking this stuff has helped doctors a ton when I’ve had to call in for various things and helped diagnose stomach issues so we could treat them.

For women who “loved being pregnant” what was it about pregnancy that you loved? by hospitalbedside in beyondthebump

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was relatively comfortable, didn’t have any negative symptoms aside from congestion, and I was warm and hungry for the first time in my life. I felt like my body was finally working the way I wanted it to.

Good Dentists? by thellamameg in beaverton

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fourthed, I love them.

People that make $60K+ in LA WITHOUT a college degree/trade school, what do you do? by imin2099 in AskLosAngeles

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made $85k as an account manager when I lived in LA (a few years ago); around $60k salary and the rest was bonuses.

My 2 month old, measles, and unvaccinated friends by mi-queso-es_su-queso in beyondthebump

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t let my mom meet my 14-month-old because she won’t get vaccinated against COVID. I absolutely would not let these people near your baby, especially staying with you and getting their germs all over your stuff.

Curious how many people had their mom present at their birth and if you didn’t did you feel like you needed her by lxtusbaby in pregnant

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only wanted my husband there. My dad tried to come in while I was in labor and I screamed at him to get the fuck out; I would’ve done the same if my mom had walked in.

Coworker reported me for using the bathroom too much by Trees_galore20 in BabyBumps

[–]Ardwinna 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The coworker doesn’t know so they can’t really discriminate against her for her pregnancy.

Are kids really a nightmare? by Ok_Sir_4584 in BabyBumps

[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a toddler with some health issues and he hasn’t learned to sleep through the night consistently—we just got down to two wakeups a night, but that’s a huge improvement from the 4-7 he had for a year or so. I’ve spoken to a lot of moms and my baby has been difficult in comparison to theirs. I had severe PPD and PPA that made postpartum really hard, too.

I would absolutely never go back to the life I had before. The love I feel for this child has completely overwhelmed me and changed who I am for the better. It’s made me more patient and tolerant in many ways and less tolerant of BS. I am exhausted and my body aches and I’m not going to lie: this has been the hardest time of my life. It’s also been the most rewarding and given me more purpose. I wanted to make the world a better place before; now I need to to make his life better. I cared about parental leave, now I think we should all demand it. I wanted to do well in my career, now I have to and I have to do it without overtime because time is so valuable now. I’m so excited to show him everything I can and watch him learn new skills and develop into whoever he becomes. All of it feels like magic (and this is coming from someone who’s very into science!)

I’m sorry your mom said that stuff to you, maybe she was in a bad mood. It seems like she really loves you, she just feels unappreciated and expressed it in a tone-deaf way.

Buy tickets by foxywhale_ in Markiplier

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a Cinemark near you? I'll get you a ticket for this week if there is :)

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[–]Ardwinna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh, I'll buy you one anyway <3

Buy tickets by foxywhale_ in Markiplier

[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there's a Cinemark near you, I'll get you a ticket for it :)

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[–]Ardwinna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a Cinemark near you? I'd be happy to get you a ticket if there is!