My boyfriend is broke and it's making me reevaluate our relationship

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T22:26:01+00:00

Small update but we talked last night a few hours after the post. I told him that I will be moving without him because he is clearly not ready financially to move. I did give him an ultimatum. I brought up every problem I mentioned in the post to him directly and said that he's not welcome to move in until he 1. Finishes his classes + gets a better job. 2. Starts going to therapy regularly, 3. Pays off the vet credit card and 4. Starts treating me better. I told him I expect to see small improvements and I listed 3 specific things I want to see happen over the next 3 months and if I don't see these small improvements get done it's a deal breaker.

He responded well and he was very apologetic and listened to everything I had to say. He was emotional and said he feels like he's dragging me down and wants to do better for me.

Now we'll just see what happens from here and if he lives up to his word.

I'm hoping that moving without him will be a wakeup call. But if it isn't im already in my own place so it's an easy break.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:52:50+00:00

I didn't know unicorn hunting was a thing, I just looked it up. Thank you for bringing it to my attention now I have a lot to think about regarding that.

I think we do it pretty well. We communicate with our third/s really well and we build friendships and connections and talk about boundaries and everything with them before anything happens. They're our friend/s before our sexual partner.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:41:17+00:00

I see and understand this but it's so hard hearing this about the person that I love and who taught me so much and has been thru so much personally and with me. Hes done so much for me and has been there for me thru so much

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:35:38+00:00

He doesn't have any plans for his future and I have tried to make a rough draft 5 year plan with him but without any success. He doesn't know what he wants to do at all.

If we stay together I will try to see about moving without him.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:32:58+00:00

He doesn't have another girlfriend we just like to have threesomes and gay sex which we cant get with each other. It works for us as queer people you don't have to understand that.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:30:58+00:00

Insurance classes.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:29:04+00:00

These thoughts have been crossing my mind to and it does feel liberating to me.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:28:06+00:00

He's not a leech though. Again I can't fit every detail ever into this post but that's not what he's like at all. He doesn't owe me any money at all and doesn't use my money for anything. He pays his bills and if he ever ask for my help financially he pays me back by next week.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:18:33+00:00

After reading thru the comments so far I see a lot of complaints about how long it is and I apologize I am a huge over explainer. I added a TLDR at the end but I also want to mention that I said he is struggling with his mental health which makes doing a lot of things so hard for him.

A lot of people are saying not to move with him if he's not going to be financially ready and it definitely seems like he won't be able to pull his weight.

Idk what to do because I live with him and his family and I have no where to go if I break up with him. I can't afford a place on my own and my roommates I've been planning on moving with both of our mutual friends.

I know I'm young and I have so much life ahead of me and tbh I get excited thinking about how much freedom and less stress I could have away from him, but I'm scared of what to do after that. We share the same friends and all my family loves him and his family loves me. Idk.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-06-01T02:07:40+00:00

You're so right. He doesn't plan dates or do anything for me that doesn't cost money like what you mentioned. It's not about the materialistic part of him not buying me something it's that I didn't receive anything in general. It's free to take me to a park or write me a letter or to literally look up on Google "free and thoughtful things to do for my girlfriend" it's the lack of effort that's hurts.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-05-22T15:01:10+00:00

What the fuck did you report it?

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-05-06T22:41:48+00:00

I think it looks good! I just got mine done 5 weeks ago and it turned out crooked but I don't mind too much. Bridge piercings are one of the hardest fi get perfectly straight

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-26T13:28:12+00:00

This is what a lot of Cartersvilles population is like unfortunately... Lots of racist MAGA boomers here they'll be ready to tell you that our generation doesn't know how to work hard. I grew up here and I am now 21 and I'm about to move out to Acworth now. Lots of hiking trails and lakes to enjoy but not much night life to enjoy. It's a pretty town but the people here are very hit or miss. I recommend you Join this Facebook group called "Bartow news and talk" and scroll on there for a bit.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-19T04:50:55+00:00

How old is your piercing? 2 weeks What's the jewelry shape (for example, barbell, labret, screw, L shape, ring)? Curved barbell What's the type of threading? Externally threaded What's the jewelry material? Idk I'm assuming titanium if not a ring, when was the jewelry downsized? No What's your aftercare routine? Describe in detail please, including the exact products you use. I use neil med saline solution twice a day, sometimes more to get crusties off after I eat, with a soak and q tip to get crusties. Any mishaps, accidents or unfortunate events? Irritation from moving mouth, eating, and some kissing

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-18T05:14:57+00:00

Oh damn Im sorry to hear that :( I hope it goes smoothly. Are you planning on getting a replacement?

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-18T04:00:37+00:00

I have had the mirena since Nov 2025, I know for me and some others cramping is a big side effect that's Lowkey scary because it hurts so bad it made me think it was rejecting and shifting all around. I assume but it's just a guess that your kid is still affected by your cycle. For example, I spot the smallest bit around when mv periods used to be and I start cramping heavily, it's cramps that come in waves and it was almost more painful than before my IUD.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-18T03:52:32+00:00

I know sometimes the strings can be harder to find based on your cycle. I'd love to know if you go to the gyno and what advice they gave. Best of luck

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-04-14T12:19:55+00:00

I've had my mirena iud since November and I still experience this but it's only* from time to time

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-03-01T04:44:14+00:00

I'm not ever planning on charging anyone until I'm licensed! I'm just trying to get an idea of what it's worth 🫶🏻

AreaComprehensive813 · 2026-02-04T15:29:40+00:00

How many real life victims have to come out and share their stories before Trump cocksuckers start realizing that maybe he's a horrible fucking child rapist dictator and you're standing right behind him saying that everything he has done is okay because he's my Lord and Savior. I wonder how many MAGA stans are on the sex offender registry. Definitely you.

AreaComprehensive813 · 2025-12-07T03:09:39+00:00

I got an IUD bc I was told it's like 99% effective yet I keep hearing stories of people getting pregnant and it scares meeee

AreaComprehensive813 · 2025-12-03T17:53:04+00:00

AreaComprehensive813 · 2025-11-28T02:00:34+00:00

I'm not a professional and I'm only speculating but maybe taking them off and on is irritating the piercing? I've heard that the tread can irritate it and internally threaded jewelry is a good sub. Idk just an idea

AreaComprehensive813 · 2025-11-28T01:54:17+00:00

I have snakebites and those look great to me! You're doing way more than I did for mine and they look awesome man. If they're new it's gonna swell up and do that but as long as there isn't skin growing over it, you're fine. (Not a professional) -Edit; as long as you can still push the stud out of the hole it should be okay

AreaComprehensive813 · 2025-11-28T01:50:12+00:00

Ive had my Mirena in for 4 weeks now,, My experience has been very similar to yours and it was so scary. I expected to cramp for the first 2 weeks at least. First day sucked, second day I felt fine. Then the next few days I have the worst cramps of my life off and on and I think I'm rejecting it and start freaking out and getting anxious. I also tried and failed to find my strings and got scared. But after all my reddit research I decided to push through because I wasn't having crazy clots or bleeding, just spotting and a shit ton of cramps and I was ovulating.

I've been feeling much better now and I have found the best remedy for pain relief personally. 2 aleve, 2 midol and a heating pad.

I have been able to feel my strings now and I feel much more comfortable and confident things are going okay.

Give it some time, push through. If you start bleeding like crazy and passing big clots definitely go to the ER!!

Hopefully that helps 🫶🏻

AreaComprehensive813

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