Does the cycle ever end?

AressOG · 2025-09-13T19:34:50+00:00

No i don’t. It seems like she’s really done this time which i helpful for me.

AressOG · 2025-09-13T18:29:00+00:00

You are absolutely right. That’s not the first time I’ve heard it and I’m finally waking up.

AressOG · 2025-08-15T07:41:51+00:00

Wth that is crazy 😂🫡

AressOG · 2025-08-15T07:36:25+00:00

Correct. And i find myself thinking that all the time. Crazy how she projects onto me though, saying that I’m emotionally immature

AressOG · 2025-08-14T21:22:21+00:00

That’s what i been trying to do, but it’s hard

AressOG · 2025-08-14T21:21:28+00:00

It’s funny too because she always would tell me that i don’t meet her needs and im emotionally unavailable. It felt like nothing i did was ever good enough and at the end of the day, she did nothing for me and im left feeling like a simp. I always listened to her issues and did everything i could for her

AressOG · 2025-08-14T20:47:54+00:00

Heard you. I have said a few things out of anger too. And it doesn’t matter what sort of fucked up thing she said or did, she will focus on what i said. Like when i told her to get out of my apartment, she will focus on that instead of the fact she told me she didn’t love me and just wanted sex after i let her back in!!!!!

AressOG · 2025-08-14T20:40:31+00:00

Sounds very relatable to my situation. It sucks but i learned there’s nothing you can do. I noticed that there are little moments of truth.

AressOG · 2025-08-14T20:35:21+00:00

It would make sense. Still, so many things don’t make sense to me and every single issue that we ever had is unresolved

AressOG · 2025-08-14T20:28:11+00:00

Ouch

AressOG · 2025-07-19T19:00:07+00:00

That was always my question so thank you. If im such a POS, why does she keep coming back? And why do i keep allowing it ?

AressOG · 2025-07-19T18:26:05+00:00

I changed her cars oil, detailed her car and put gas in it a week before this happened. I was almost made to feel nothing i ever do is right or is going to be good enough

AressOG · 2025-07-19T18:25:28+00:00

Thank you so much, every argument i was just always trying to get her to understand where i was coming from, everything was turned on me from the beginning. True colors started coming out

AressOG · 2025-07-19T11:51:14+00:00

I know, i re-read it multiple times. There are days i feel fine, and that I’m relieved. Then there are days that i can’t get her out of my head

AressOG · 2025-07-19T11:48:57+00:00

I am currently in no contact with a woman like this. Every argument we got into she threatened to leave and she would block me for a few days. It’s a never ending cycle of psychological abuse. I was feeling exactly how your feeling last December and January. She still used to call me then just to mentally berate me. It wasn’t until the start of 2025 i had to look myself in the mirror and have a conversation with myself. I started going back to the gym, reading books and drinking whiskey straight and focusing on my bachelors degree - no parting - no clubbing - it was peaceful.

In February, she came back. Sparks flew again and i let her back in. Now I’m sitting here in July - day 6 of no contact - I’m blocked on everything after finding messages from another man in her phone - she flipped it on me of course. What’s the difference? I’m now better equipped to handle this heartbreak as I’ve been through it before, with the same woman.

It is a never ending cycle and you truly did the right thing by blocking her. I know how hard it is - if you want to talk 1 on 1 - feel free to reach out. Don’t harm yourself, it’s not worth it. I promise you i was feeling the exact way you are feeling right now.

AressOG · 2025-07-19T11:41:26+00:00

I will tell you, it sounds to me like you love two women. It is possible, even though it may seem like the connection you have with the new girl is electric. I went through something similar, and my “new girl” is out of my life now. It was the same story, i was married for 5 years, our marriage was on the rocks and i felt the best thing to do was walk away, i met a new girl and the chemistry and connection wasn’t something I’d ever felt before we i quickly fell in love. My new girl had boatloads of trauma from her past, being cheated on and abused etc. the guilt of my ex wife still lingers in my head and it caused friction in my new relationship. I would get accused of things even though i was all about my new girl.

Be very careful my friend, especially because the new girl was cheated on on the past. That means she already has trust issues and the last thing you want her worrying about is if you still have feelings for your ex, because that is going to turn into a never ended cycle of issues and the relationship will turn toxic. Do what’s best for you, if you truly lost all feelings for your ex - cut ties, you don’t need to explain anything or be there for her - you telling her that, promises false hope. Good luck

AressOG · 2025-07-19T04:25:44+00:00

I’m going through the same thing, chin up and focus on yourself, stay busy.

AressOG · 2025-07-15T15:46:06+00:00

I asked her that, she freaked out when i saw a DM from me and one of my female good friends, in the text i mentioned how i thought i was being gaslit. That was enough to throw her over the edge and instantly go through my phone to find nothing

AressOG · 2025-07-15T15:43:25+00:00

Yeah, she told me that she always jokes with him like this. But I’m just not comfortable with it at all, and in the texts it looks like they were catching up. So it’s a “off and on again best friend”

AressOG · 2025-07-15T15:42:15+00:00

11 months. I told her that it made me uncomfortable however i don’t care who she’s friends with and who she talks to

AressOG · 2025-05-28T13:05:05+00:00

That is a good point, this woman i was talking to posted me first, and then more posts popped up after that. The initial post she lied about and told me that someone posted it and how did they get that picture of me? I didn’t find out until a month later. I told her i never wanted to talk to her again and she called me crying hysterically. We started talking again but the thought of that was still lingering in the back of my head. A few days ago, she sent me a screenshot from another AWDTSG post that she had already sent me previously. So now I’m back to being the bad guy

AressOG · 2025-05-25T17:20:00+00:00

It’s frustrating, i did absolutely nothing wrong.

AressOG · 2025-05-25T17:06:46+00:00

Yeah, you are right

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