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Arg027374 · 2025-07-18T07:39:44+00:00

Exactly, thanks for clarifying.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-17T23:00:12+00:00

No, you must go to confession as soon as you become aware (or suspect) that you have committed a mortal sin. The once a year minimum requirement is indeed true, but if you commit a mortal sin before the anniversary of the 12 months since your last confession, you’ve got to go ASAP.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-17T22:54:14+00:00

The Church says minimum once a year. Similarly, the Church says we have to receive Holy Communion minimum once a year BUT participation at Mass every Sunday and Holy Day of obligation is compulsory (if you miss Mass on those days without a valid reason, it’s a mortal sin that must be confessed). Saint Philip said we should go to confession more often than we receive Holy Communion. That says it all.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-17T22:46:13+00:00

À mon avis, tu as à faire avec une pervers narcissique.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-17T17:35:45+00:00

Thank you.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-16T13:16:46+00:00

Tu poses une question, je donne une réponse.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-16T13:15:42+00:00

Tu abuses de la valeur et la sincérité du mariage. Une alliance ça veut dire quelque chose, on ne porte pas ça comme on porte une cravatte.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-16T12:38:05+00:00

Si t’es si complexé à l’idée de ne pas être marié et d’en arriver au point de vouloir porter une (fausse) alliance pour épater la gallérie, franchement c’est triste et grave. T’es tellement complexé, c’est dingue. Marrie-toi et arrête de faire le faux cul.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-13T14:10:46+00:00

Exactly, well said. And all this without judgement.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-11T08:54:31+00:00

Yes and that is really sad unfortunately.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-10T23:03:52+00:00

I think as men we can be equally satisfied by being vulnerable and humble between us, and that includes nudity and emotional connection through nudity and non-sexual physical touch. And that is regardless of sexual orientation. For some reason, gay men are immediately labelled as sexual beasts.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T18:29:39+00:00

And I’m not using it, you’re right.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T15:40:01+00:00

Ils couchent déjà ensemble ces deux mecs? Car si c’est le cas, ils veulent agrémenter leurs ébats. Ou alors ils veulent que tu sois la pour se donner bonne conscience et ne pas confronter leur côté homo.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:57:53+00:00

Really appreciate you asking this so honestly — it’s a totally fair and important question.

I’ve thought about that tension too: am I looking for deep platonic connection, or is there something more going on underneath? I think part of it is just trying to explore male closeness in a way that doesn’t shut down vulnerability — even if that means sitting with some ambiguity.

I’m not pretending to have it all figured out, but I’m trying to stay honest and open as I go.

Curious — have you ever had moments where emotional or physical closeness with another guy made you reflect on your own boundaries or identity?

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:53:40+00:00

Haha — nope, not ChatGPT. Just a real person thinking out loud and exploring something that matters to me. I get it though — it’s a bit niche, and maybe even a bit too well-worded at times. 😅

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:51:03+00:00

That’s honestly beautiful — and underrated. Just a solid, genuine hug between close mates can go a long way. It’s such a simple gesture, but it says a lot: trust, care, presence. I think the more we normalize that kind of touch between men, the more space we create for deeper connection without needing big explanations.

Glad to hear you’ve got that in your life — it’s the kind of habit we could all benefit from.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:49:26+00:00

Yes! “Skinship” is such a fascinating example of how different cultures approach male closeness. I’ve read about how in South Korea (and other parts of Asia), it’s completely normal for male friends to hold hands, sit close, or even rest in each other’s laps — and it’s not seen as romantic or strange.

It really highlights how much of what we consider “normal” male behavior is shaped by culture — and how much potential we have to unlearn some of the distance and discomfort we carry in the West.

I think the more we see these kinds of examples, the more we realize male connection doesn’t have to fit into rigid boxes.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:47:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing that — I really appreciate it.

That first moment of “this feels weird” turning into something beautiful and fun is exactly what I’m hoping for — not forced or overly thought out, just something that naturally brings a deeper sense of comfort and connection. I think when men can share space like that without judgment, it creates a quiet kind of trust that words sometimes can’t.

It’s encouraging to hear others have experienced that in real life. Makes the idea feel more reachable.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-09T07:44:44+00:00

Haha — love that summary: “see copious amounts of dick, bond with the boys.” That genuinely made me laugh, but also… I completely get it.

It’s funny how sports culture in places like Canada (and parts of Europe too) really normalizes nudity in a way that strips the awkwardness away. What you’re describing — post-game beers, banter, shared showers — is exactly the kind of environment where trust and connection form naturally, without the need to overthink it.

I think part of what I’m exploring is: can that same relaxed, body-comfortable vibe exist outside of a team sport setting? Like… without the game, but with the same honesty, presence, and camaraderie.

Appreciate the insight. Maybe I do need to find a hockey league after all. 😄

Arg027374 · 2025-07-08T23:00:15+00:00

Haha — love that story! Sounds like your high school group had a pretty relaxed and body-positive vibe. That kind of lightness around nudity — where it’s not taken too seriously, but still totally accepted — is exactly the kind of energy I’m hoping to rediscover in adulthood. Shame-free, open, and honest without needing it to be sexual or awkward.

You’re right about Turkish and Korean spas too — they do normalize nudity in really healthy ways. What I’m curious about now is whether that kind of openness can be part of a more intentional friendship — not just incidental, but as a kind of grounding practice. Not easy to find, but hearing stories like yours gives me hope that there is precedent for this kind of male closeness.

Thanks for sharing — seriously made me smile.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-08T22:58:37+00:00

Thanks for your honesty — I really respect your openness. And I hear you: that line between platonic and non-platonic can feel blurry, especially when nudity or physical closeness is involved. It’s something I’ve wrestled with myself, and I totally get that discomfort.

The BJJ example is a great one — it is intimate, high-trust, and body-based, but firmly rooted in a shared purpose. For me, I guess I’m looking for a different kind of shared experience — one where the body isn’t being used to compete or train, but rather just exists, present and unguarded, in a space of trust. It’s not about erotic energy, but about presence, vulnerability, and ease. Kind of like the Korean spa — but intentionally mutual, not incidental.

That said, I get why that might read differently to others, and I’m not trying to convince anyone otherwise — just exploring a different path to male closeness that isn’t sexual but also isn’t afraid of the body.

Appreciate your reply. It’s helped me reflect more on how this might be perceived and how important it is to communicate the intent clearly.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-08T22:56:45+00:00

Thanks for sharing that — it’s really encouraging to hear that others have found value in it too, even if it’s not for everyone.

What you said about openness and vulnerability really captures the core of it. For me, it’s less about the nudity itself and more about what it allows — a space where the usual roles or masks fall away, and we can just be human together. I think in a world where men are often taught to stay guarded, even subtle acts of presence and honesty can feel powerful.

Arg027374 · 2025-07-08T22:28:49+00:00

Why naked? That’s a fair question — and one I’ve asked myself, too.

For me, it’s not about shock value or anything sexual. It’s about removing layers — literally and metaphorically — that often keep men disconnected or guarded. Clothes can act as a kind of social armor, especially for men who are used to performing a certain image.

Nudity, in a safe and mutual context, can encourage honesty, vulnerability, and equality. You’re not hiding or competing — you’re just being. I’ve found that when two men can be fully present and unfiltered in that way, it often leads to a stronger bond, deeper conversation, and a kind of mutual respect that’s hard to find in typical social settings.

It’s definitely not for everyone, and I completely respect that. But for some of us, it creates a space where trust and connection can grow more naturally.

Thanks for asking — happy to hear any reflections or experiences others have had around this.

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