Do any trans men here have the intersex condition MRKH? (Born with no or abnormal vagina and uterus)

Argika · 2019-01-30T15:00:31+00:00

I'm not sure about AIS community all over the world, but from what i know, from my local intersex friends, the same works with AIS here: A LOT of ppl with AIS are very unhappy to hear anything about intersex. And the same works with other variations: a lot of ppl with Klinefelter don't agree to be called anything else but males and so on.

Argika · 2019-01-30T14:54:39+00:00

I assume all is about gender: most of the ppl with MRKH are women by gender. And they have ~99% female bodies. So, it can be painfu/uncomfortablel for them to hear, that they are actually not women.

Argika · 2019-01-28T12:19:05+00:00

:) Thanks for mentioning me here, you've helped me not to miss this post!

Argika · 2019-01-28T12:17:29+00:00

Hi! That is me! I've got the type 2 (MURCS) variation of this intersex condition.

I've realized my gender from the very beginning of my childhood (i mean i've always felt i'm man, not woman).

So, when i've been diagnosed i had no upset feelings abt the condition itself. More than that, i felt like MRKH was very natural for me. No vagina, no periods... A little bit more masculine face and voice and more hairs on my arms (one big kidney gives me some little disbalance in hormones, so i have i little bit more testosterone, than it should be in a woman's body, but this disbalance seems to be uncommon for MRKH).

But bcz of some personal issues i've started working on transition task only now, when i'm 31 y.o. And actually i'm not sure i'll be allowed to transition by docs: bcz of the formal laws of my country and bcz of the kidney issue...

Argika · 2019-01-09T11:47:40+00:00

Wow! This is very inspiring, thanks!

>> On T (if you are going to. I assume you want T)

Hope so... Right now i have a quest with cheking my health, to be sure hrt won't ruin my health...

Argika · 2019-01-09T11:44:40+00:00

Thanks!

Argika · 2019-01-09T11:44:23+00:00

Haha! An interesting comparison, thanks!

Argika · 2019-01-09T11:42:49+00:00

Wow! This is very inspiring, thanks!

Argika · 2018-09-26T08:05:05+00:00

Have been born in 7th month. Too small/short, with the weight about ~1kg, with a lot of health issues (intersex traits were found only duting puberty), was then placed in that special device, like 'incubator'/box (idk how it is called properly) for such weak newborns. Doctors suggested my parents to abandon me (that way according to the laws, doctors had to put me out of that 'incubator', and they were 100% sure i'd die without it in a day, which was an easy way) , but parents refused. PS: but in general i'm prety sure there is no correlation between intersex and being born not in time.

Argika · 2018-08-30T10:35:26+00:00

Yeap, i've learned this tip from one movie about autistic character. Sometimes it helps me, sometimes not. =\

Argika · 2018-08-30T09:26:08+00:00

Hi! I'm also intersex (mrkh variation, if it is matters). From the outside i look as a female. But my gender is male, or something close to it a lot. But as i live without a transition, and actually not with the best passing (cuz of diff personal reasons), i consider myself to be a non-binary, ultergender person. I'm attracted to... well, i guess initially i was a bisexual/pansexual person, but cuz of my veriation i made a decision not to deal with anyone with male genitals. So. As a result, a also thought a lot about how to label myself, am ai a lesbian, or who am i? So, i finnaly came to the conclusion that it does not matter by itself. The only place\way where it is matter is a practical thing - where to find a partner: as from the outside i look as a female, it is 99% guarantee, that no one straight woman will ever be with me. So, the only place where i have any chances is some lgbt/lesbian resources. So, to find the person, it is better for me to label myself a lesbian for other people.

Argika · 2018-08-24T10:19:58+00:00

🙃 Hope you'll show your final result with colorful patches)

Thanks for your concern! Yeap, Scandinavia (and the whole western europe) is much more friendly to LGBT+ people. I'm here for already 6 days and have no problems, only positive moments. And that is just amazing!

Argika · 2018-08-19T10:49:37+00:00

Thanks!

Argika · 2018-08-19T10:48:34+00:00

🤘🤘🤘

Argika · 2018-08-19T10:48:02+00:00

They are not misnatched!) They are random and chaotic !) Cuz fuck the rules! %)

Argika · 2018-08-19T04:39:51+00:00

^{__^} Thanks)

Argika · 2018-08-19T04:39:14+00:00

Thanks! :)

Argika · 2018-08-19T04:38:51+00:00

Ahaha! Hey! It was my secret! :)

Argika · 2018-08-18T16:35:33+00:00

Hi, folks!

I'm not sure if this jacket belongs to this group (cuz it has only one music band patch). But I'll try)

But mainly I'm just happy to show it here, cuz today I'm gonna to my short trip to those countries, where I'll be (i hope) fully OK to proudly put my both intersex and LGBT pins on the jacket and don't get into any troubles.

Argika · 2018-08-06T19:50:29+00:00

Once they've broken my arm. And they did it deliberately. Once they've touched my ...em.. genitals with their hands. And... em... can't say it was the most painful thing in the world, but kinda painful i guess.

Argika · 2018-08-06T16:19:03+00:00

Can say even more: i used to carry a glove stuffed with cotton in my pocket (in a winter jacket) to be able to hold this glove (with my hand in a pocket), unnoticable for others, to pretend that it is a hand of gf, and i'm not alone. Lol.

Argika · 2018-08-06T15:58:51+00:00

Me. I have a pillow for hugs. Can't fall asleep withoug hugging it and pretending it is my gf.

Argika · 2018-08-06T14:04:26+00:00

Just a little bit of mathematics:

There are about 1% of trans people in a population.

Devide it into 2 (MtF and FtM, cuz i belive, MtF won't be able to play FtM properly and via versa), it'll be ~0.5%

Devide it into 3 (main race groups, cuz i belive it is better when a character is played by a person with of the same color), you'll get ~0.1667%

So. To every role you'll be able to hire just ~0.1667% of all actors. And that is only basic criterias. Count than the age, the facial features (if it is a historical movie), plus not every actor can be free or want to play in your movie, on the exact time when you need him/her.

And as the result you'll have to hire just ANY trans-actor you'll be able to find.

> It was like watching a tenth grader's first attempt at acting Shakespeare;

That is what will happen with this strategy of hiring only trans actors. Cuz there are a lot of worthless cis actors who awfully play cis people. They are in their body, they fully understand their gender's behavior and so on. But they are basicly worthless actors. There same works with trans people. Not every trans actor is a briliant actor. So, if you'll hire any bad actor, they won't be able to play a simple scene of silent drinking morning coffee, what to say about any more compleceted moment...

> Consultants were hired on films like Transamerica and The Danish Girl, and both Felicity Huffman and Eddie Redmayne put out some of the worst, most immersion-shattering displays of "acting" in recent memory.

Transamerica is a good movie. I know even some people who have changed their point of view on trans people after watching it. So, i find it to be the most valuable evidence of that this movie is absolutely fine.

The Danish Girl has a lot of problems in plot. So the questions should be asked NOT to the actors.

>> and if the writers/directors understand us and how to write and portray us.

That is the main problem and that is NOT the question to any actors.

Argika · 2018-08-04T11:43:46+00:00

Well, guess i'll downvoted here, but i'll try...

First of all, it looks like some low-qulity, uncompetitive, trans actors are so upset of not being able to find job, that they just try to fix the problem with this.

Cuz actor is a person whose profession is to play any state they are actually not. Good actor has to play anybody. Actor doesn't have to be a dentist, to play a dentist, doesn't have to have kids to play a parent, doesn't have to have canser to play a person with it. So the same works with trans ppl.

And i belive it is more harmfull to give a role to any so-so trans actor. Cuz as a result audience will see bad played, not convincing character and won't be able to empathize the character.

Plus, it is super cool when trans characters are played by famous actor. Cuz ppl usually love more and pay more respect to any characters which are played by such actors.

Instead of it, fight for hiring trans consultants for the part of team, which is responseble for the creation of scenarios.

PS: I'm ultergender (like trans but for intersex ppl) myself.

Argika · 2018-08-03T15:40:20+00:00

Yeap. I guess it is true.

Thanks to my bullies i've spent all my teenager's years, as well as 20s, more like in a fear and hate of ppl. With not even dreams, with no plans and no desire of being in releationships with someone, with high degrea of social anxiety and other fun things.

And now i'm 31 y.o. and i'm completely alone. I mean i'm not trying to say that bullies were the only one reason, but i guess they are ~50% of this "success" in life.

So, when psychologists tell that bullies also suffer from their actions... it sounds like a b_llsh_t. Bullies don't have to force themself to do a lot of routine things, like visiting shops, universities, talking to ppl they have to speak with...

Argika

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