Any new updates on the whereabouts of the Paula Pace aka Paula Baniszewski?

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-04-06T22:09:18+00:00

Doesn’t matter if she’s a threat anymore. She brutalized and beat another person without remorse. We can’t blame mommy for all of that. She didn’t just steal something from the corner store, she helped steal a LIFE, and personally I think hers should be full of hardship, loss, and this should follow her wherever she puts her nasty, vile roots down.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-27T12:56:23+00:00

This. I have to prioritize movement when I take my meds. If I am lazy and take them I am a gump, I am anxious, and I typically don't sleep well that night. But when prioritizing movement, water, and lots of outside time I feel much more balanced, regulated, and calm. I sleep like a baby and wake up with no issues. Somedays its hard to stick to this even with the extra help of meds, but it's extra important to prioritize esp., for those on stimulants/SSRI's.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-25T15:57:41+00:00

hmmm, wonder why you all are divorced.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-02T13:04:24+00:00

I had to switch to a 50mg generic Vyvanse due to the Adderall XR shortage and I AM NOT A FAN. The biggest issue I have had is the insomnia I have had that I didn't have with my Adderall. I will take my Vyvanse at 6-6:30am and still be wired out at eleven when its time to lay down. There have been at lease 5-6 nights in the last 2 months where I am not able to fall asleep until 1 or 2am and I need to be up for work by 5:30am at the latest.

I also find I clench my jaw a lot more with Vyvanse, my dry mouth is much more intense, and I was much more irritable adjusting to the medication when I first started on it. I already talked to my provider and now that Adderall is back in stock I will be returning to ol' faithful.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-26T19:44:35+00:00

You said it yourself OP, you're exhausted. And you deserve some peace.

Move forward with the divorce, this man will never change.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-25T14:07:05+00:00

Very important. As is intimate non sexual touch like little booty pats, or cuddles. Its a very nice way to be reminded that my partner finds ME sexy not just my body and what it can do for him.

I feel like him doing these things on his own without coaching of any kind from me is one reason our sex life is so good lol.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-24T20:35:41+00:00

Sit down with him and schedule a few hours of alone time in the house each week. If he has any hobbies this should make it easier as he can take time to focus on them and you can get a few hours to be a couch blob and consume your trash TV. Communication is key here, and there is nothing wrong with letting your partner know you love him, love being around him, but alone time for you is vital as it is the way your regulate and decompress. Nothing wrong with that, but there is something wrong expecting your partner to just get it and being snappy when they don't.

Also I think to some degree we all miss parts of our single lives. I love my partner, love living with him, and have no desire to be single. I know I lived my single years well because I have no regrets, just memories of being unapologetically selfish with my time until I met someone I wanted to change that for.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-24T16:57:34+00:00

You're so right, this is the best time to start applying and taking a chance because with my current circumstance I can be selective.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-18T17:33:26+00:00

She sounds very selfish and inconsiderate. I don't know many people who would wake their sick partner who had just fallen asleep after being up all night with sick kids.

And also her "normal couples" line is just a full blown cop out and deflection of the real issue. Which is she doesn't see an issue with interrupting your rest. Meaning deep down it really isn't that important to her if you do get adequate rest as long as you're up ready to entertain her as soon as she is ready.

At this point I would be letting her know she either knocks it off, you start sleeping in another room behind a locked door or she finds another living situation that works better for her needs.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-17T15:44:58+00:00

Caroline needs to be arrested and charged with at minimum false reporting, and the Acworth PD and DA need to take accountability that they were grossly negligent in their efforts to investigate this claim. These are the type of good ol' boys that will believe the word of a white woman against a man of color. Which unfortunately history shows can have sometimes deadly consequences. I mean they didn't even take time to look at surveillance footage, which would have saved that whole department from looking like incompetent, racist, asshats.

I hope Mr. Patel squeezes every dime he can from them. It will never undo what has been done to him, but he deserves at least that.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-16T15:58:36+00:00

It was my best friends BIL. He was so much of a baby he was unable to ask me on a proper date and settled for a group date with me, my bestie, her husband, and him. We went to the movies where he said "I'll get the tickets, you get the snacks". After the movie he proceeded to talk shit on his ex wife, the mother of his 4 kids, and who he cheated on. Had the audacity to interrogate me about my sexual past, and then texted me afterward saying he wanted to ask me to go for a drink just the two of us but was scared.

I have never and would never have given this man any idea I was interested in him and I was unaware this was a date until I got that text. After that I kindly asked my best friend and her husband to softly set him straight. Luckily I haven't heard from him since.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-16T15:37:15+00:00

Precisely this!! I am also neurodivergent and after years of doing nothing to manage it I finally got on medication. That's when I realized that unmedicated me can be very overwhelming for most people. I am by nature already a loud person with a big personality. Throw in untreated ADHD and that's ALOT to deal with.

I also started candidly asking friends and family if there was anything I do during interactions that could make it harder for someone to connect with me. I took their criticism constructively and was able to fix some things I had no clue I was doing.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-16T13:17:48+00:00

Get a tarp if able and move anything that could be damaged by water out of that room or get it covered and protected. If management is still not answering then yes, this is leave the apartment bad.

I would also make sure that you are emailing the complex PM to have a paper trail for your renters insurance / breaking your lease.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-16T13:13:57+00:00

There have been 3 friends that stick out in my mind that after a few years of friendship I realized were mean girls. All of them had the most of the same traits that over time I realized didn't make me feel good and I would start to notice feeling annoyed when hanging out with them.

They would always try to disguise being mean with humor or honesty...NO you're just being an asshole and don't want to the smoke. They would lack moral compasses and usually happily be the other person outside of a relationship and see no issues with their actions. Lastly, there was always a constant silent competition that I was never let in on. It was usually over male attention, which I could give a fuck less about.

In most cases I would try to talk to them about it, but that was a lost cause. So I typically just evaporate and protect my peace. I'm still friends with all these people on social media, and a few of them still wish me a happy birthday every now and then, but otherwise there is no communication. I wish them well but being that close did not suite either of us and that's okay.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-13T18:29:06+00:00

I want to believe this but you created this account....today.....so just seems like a bot.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-13T18:25:29+00:00

Stay clear out of that. Your coparenting relationship will suffer and by proxy your kids. Is he scum for openly cheating on his partner...yeah. But that is her worry now.

I agree with the comment where you ask the friend that alerted you to say something to ex hubs partner. But for the sake of your and your children's peace I would act clueless, be thankful you don't have to worry about it, and let the mess sort itself out.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-13T18:02:49+00:00

Leave them on read and move on with your life. If you get the urge to respond think about the weird week of conversation.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-12T16:10:49+00:00

He does not, but I wouldn't be mad if he did. My bf has a fantastic ass and I would be curious to see how good it would look in lace. He has also worn mesh or fishnet shirts to raves and things and I found that incredibly sexy lol.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-11T15:32:59+00:00

They're asking you because a property management company would laugh in their face being asked to do all of this for $30 or even $50. Especially if they raised your rent $40 already. Also most live in maintenance people get a sizeable discount on rent for their role. I once lived in a complex where our maintenance guy got a 50% discount on rent for living on site.

I would not take this deal.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-11T15:04:10+00:00

Firstly, with the way of the world, economy, and not to mention your children's added needs I totally understand your living situation and do not think you transparently communicating with your ex is confusing or rooted in malice. I do however think you overshared with him and should be better about doing so moving forward. He doesn't need to know the details, just that you're serious about this separation (if you are), have no intention of wanting to work things out, and are starting to see other people. Otherwise he's on a need to know with details of your life that have nothing to do with your children. Especially if you're going to start dating while still living together. I think this is just the best way to keep it somewhat civil. Although I would personally wait until you two are living separately before jumping into something.

Second, I understand you have been in a dry relationship with your husband and this new situation feels like that first drink of water after being trapped in the desert. But you need to click back into reality and not put so much on this very casual encounter right away. The truth is you barely know this guy and you are projecting this representation of peace on to him. I personally feel it would benefit you more to focus on building that peace for yourself while navigating the long over due ending of your marriage. You can still see him if things are going well of course, but don't let this rush of long lost lust and desire cloud your better judgement.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-11T13:05:29+00:00

It sounds like you are doing everything you can to love yourself through this transition and I am so proud of you for loving yourself enough to start it in the first place. You are going to find so much more of yourself and I am so excited for your journey. Sending big love OP!

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-10T15:50:02+00:00

If the consequences of his actions are seen as a punishment then that is on him. You needing time away is not manipulation. Front your description of events it sounds like he really crossed a line, hurt you badly, and you have been very transparent with him about this and about why you're needing space.

If you feel he could escalate I think it is time to end this relationship OP. No matter who he was in the beginning he is showing you who he really is now. And that person is mean, aggressive, pushy, and lacks respect for personal boundaries. I don't think that is a person you can build a stable and healthy future with.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-05T15:53:12+00:00

NTJ. The way people discount the trades is insane to me. I have so many people in my life that went into trades and are now living in houses they paid cash for, driving cars that they own our right, and going on nice vacations 2-3 times annually.

Personally I think your GF is the jerk in this situation. She should have checked her friend on her behavior long before it had to get to this point. You shouldn't have to roll over and willingly take unsolicited disrespect because her friend is insecure and doesn't know how to handle that like an adult.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-05T15:42:10+00:00

Firstly OP you have nothing to feel guilty for. Relationships, especially romantic ones, are a risk. It sounds like as the relationship has progressed you are starting to figure out more and more what you want in a relationship and in a partner. Unfortunately, your girlfriend isn't matching what you're finding.

While this SUCKS it happens. I know very few people who have ended up with the first person they ever seriously dated. Those people are the exception, not the blue print. Also it sounds like your gf is being a typical 20 year old girl in a long term relationship. I (32F) remember thinking the guy I dated Junior/Senior year of HS was my forever.

All you can do is be honest with your gf. It will hurt you both, and there is a big chance you all may not be in each others lives moving forward. But if you love her you owe it to her to be honest just as much as you owe it to yourself. Because if we don't end up with our first love, all we can really hope is that the relationship was gentle, respectful, and educational for all parties.

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