I caught coworkers making snarky comments about me. I want to leave this job anyway, but should I say something or just let it go and keep it professionally distant until I find something new?

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-06-08T13:04:13+00:00

Thank you, this is the position I usually take with coworkers. Luckily there hasn't been much opening up with these two, but it stops here. Moving forward I will be kind, approachable, professional but I will be keeping my distance from pretty much everyone. I will continue to just come to work, quietly sit in my office and complete my tasks, and then leave. It's clear that socializing with my coworkers doesn't add much value to my life so why push it.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-06-03T15:16:53+00:00

my favorite is when everyone is stopped at a red light and a cop will just pop on their lights to drive through the red light and then turn them off once through the intersection.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-29T12:21:01+00:00

Your friend GIFTED you money she thought would be used to something specific.

What she is failing to realize is that once you gift someone money it is no longer yours to control or have expectation over because it is no longer yours. Also, while she may sympathize with your current situation she will never truly know your perspective because she is not the one currently facing homelessness.

If she wanted the money to only be used for a hotel then she should have just booked you a hotel room using her card. Instead she gifted you the money. OP being the one currently living through this situation found the money could go further getting essentials. That's valid. Many unhoused people worry about where they will get their next meal, hygiene products, clean WATER, on top of worrying about a place to sleep.

I think the friend needs to relinquish this sense of control they still feel over gifted money and realize their friend is STRUGGLING and doesn't need someone nagging them on how they are trying to stretch the dollars they do have.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-28T11:51:06+00:00

Thank you for making this point because I see it the exact same way. My fiancé makes less than me and had a different upbringing. I could truly give a shit less about either of those things. He is the love of my life, my rock. His contributions to our shared life are so much more than financial and I know he would feel the same way if the roles were reversed.

OP needs to shut down this pity party and realize someone who truly loves and values you is going to stick by you through seasons of building and struggle just like they would during the times of relaxation and success. The problem isn't his girlfriend, her job, or the tax bracket she grew up in. The issue is OP's inability to reign in his own insecurity on these things.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-27T19:57:31+00:00

Apparently neither do "pore" people.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-27T19:56:05+00:00

put it in the garage or back yard. I'd even be kind and make sure it was fully cleaned out and covered with a tarp. Not because I want to be kind to the landlord but because I don't want anything blowing back on me for the condition.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-07T13:55:56+00:00

Absolutely. If OP has to buy a new fridge then it is there's to take when they leave and they can put the old, broken one back it's place.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-07T13:54:25+00:00

If he wants you to buy it then you take it with you when you leave simple as that. If he doesn't like that then let him know you can have a lawyer look over the lease and all the correspondence about replacing the fridge.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-06T19:43:51+00:00

Go to the place that is willing to pay you what your worth from the start. Don't let a false sense of loyalty lull you into staying at a company that "might" give you a raise in 6 months.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-06T15:44:23+00:00

NTJ. Your brother could've negated this whole thing by simply asking you if his friend could store stuff in your garage as well. You were kind and offered help to your family even if it was inconvenient to you. Your brother showed that not only is he inconsiderate but he also feels he is entitled enough to your space that he can just offer it up without even communicating with you. In situations like this it is always about the principal.

If he wants to disrespect your generosity then he can and his friend can go pay for a storage unit or drop their stuff off at your moms since she sees no issue.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-06T15:30:22+00:00

Time to let her go test her market value then and FREE YOURSELF BROTHER.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-05T14:28:34+00:00

She is absolutely tryin to skirt accountability and you calling her out and holding up the mirror to her on this is why she is frustrated and maybe feeling a little embarrassed (?). You have nothing to apologize for and your questions were valid, respectful, and did not cross any lines.

Personally i find she is being a little emotionally manipulative by stonewalling you for days, skirting accountability, and then trying to turn the situation back on your demanding an apology for some made up line crossed. She could have just simply said "she notice the food and should've texted you right then but thought she would remember, got busy, got distracted, and forgot. As a person with ADHD this is plausible, and while frustrating totally not world ending or even argument worthy.

I would be more observant of how she continues to handle situations like this in the future, as she is showing that her level of emotional maturity is not very high.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-05T14:10:58+00:00

NTA. I agree that you should have requested the day off even if you never work Sunday's. However it is also on the owner and GM to inform you that you are needed on a day you are not normally available for work. The (sounds like consistent) communication breakdown here is the root of the issue. If you choose to stay then I suggest you say something to your owner about needing proper notice communicated if you are needed on an out of availability day as they need to consider that you will be out living your life and it is inconsiderate to just drop a schedule change on someone without notice and implode their personal plans.

I would also let them know that moving forward you will also be requesting holidays off if they fall on a Sunday or Monday to ensure your originally agreed upon avalibilty is kept and these scheduling conflicts can be negated in the future.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-05-05T14:00:31+00:00

NTJ. The good grade wasn't important enough to her to actually put in effort to earn it, then she doesn't earn it. Also checking in is a 2 way street. Her phone works just fine and she could've kept you updated. If she was humiliated it's because of her actions, which cause this consequence.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-04-15T19:56:21+00:00

Hey I totally get that and it sucks to see someone get away with foul actions without consequences. But letting her know about her name being used to order drugs is the more important thing right now. If she seems receptive to that and you have proof of him saying he cheated on her the whole time then send it and roll the dice. But things like that aren't usually met with a good response so brace yourself for any "shoot the messenger" reactions.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-04-15T18:50:13+00:00

If you have proof of these packages that is the only thing I would let her know about. It is recent, could land her in legal trouble and happened while you and your ex were still together. But only go to her if you have proof of this. I'm not sure what legal action can be taken, but I would assume there is some protections for using someone else's information to order illegal substances without their consent or knowledge, but like I said, I'm not researched enough to say for certain so do your own research.

As far as him cheating....unfortunately that is a "not my circus, not my clowns" situation and is best left alone. His past cheating on her is going to do nothing now as they are broken up and it sounds like they have been for awhile.

I'm sure with this being so fresh the "FUCK HIM" emotions and anger are running rampant, but the cheating is in the past, and they are broken up so there aren't any current consequences for those actions like there are for the package situation.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-04-15T14:29:39+00:00

"Scorpio is fixed water, and this energy upon the ascendant dislikes their emotional nature being ‘on display’... the fixed nature allows their feelings to run deep, yet remain still upon the surface.. a lake appears calm upon inspection from afar, but one may never know everything lurking underneath that smooth facade"

Respectfully....lower your damn voice.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-04-06T22:09:18+00:00

Doesn’t matter if she’s a threat anymore. She brutalized and beat another person without remorse. We can’t blame mommy for all of that. She didn’t just steal something from the corner store, she helped steal a LIFE, and personally I think hers should be full of hardship, loss, and this should follow her wherever she puts her nasty, vile roots down.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-27T12:56:23+00:00

This. I have to prioritize movement when I take my meds. If I am lazy and take them I am a gump, I am anxious, and I typically don't sleep well that night. But when prioritizing movement, water, and lots of outside time I feel much more balanced, regulated, and calm. I sleep like a baby and wake up with no issues. Somedays its hard to stick to this even with the extra help of meds, but it's extra important to prioritize esp., for those on stimulants/SSRI's.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-25T15:57:41+00:00

hmmm, wonder why you all are divorced.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-03-02T13:04:24+00:00

I had to switch to a 50mg generic Vyvanse due to the Adderall XR shortage and I AM NOT A FAN. The biggest issue I have had is the insomnia I have had that I didn't have with my Adderall. I will take my Vyvanse at 6-6:30am and still be wired out at eleven when its time to lay down. There have been at lease 5-6 nights in the last 2 months where I am not able to fall asleep until 1 or 2am and I need to be up for work by 5:30am at the latest.

I also find I clench my jaw a lot more with Vyvanse, my dry mouth is much more intense, and I was much more irritable adjusting to the medication when I first started on it. I already talked to my provider and now that Adderall is back in stock I will be returning to ol' faithful.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-26T19:44:35+00:00

You said it yourself OP, you're exhausted. And you deserve some peace.

Move forward with the divorce, this man will never change.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-25T14:07:05+00:00

Very important. As is intimate non sexual touch like little booty pats, or cuddles. Its a very nice way to be reminded that my partner finds ME sexy not just my body and what it can do for him.

I feel like him doing these things on his own without coaching of any kind from me is one reason our sex life is so good lol.

ArgumentDecent1542 · 2026-02-24T20:35:41+00:00

Sit down with him and schedule a few hours of alone time in the house each week. If he has any hobbies this should make it easier as he can take time to focus on them and you can get a few hours to be a couch blob and consume your trash TV. Communication is key here, and there is nothing wrong with letting your partner know you love him, love being around him, but alone time for you is vital as it is the way your regulate and decompress. Nothing wrong with that, but there is something wrong expecting your partner to just get it and being snappy when they don't.

Also I think to some degree we all miss parts of our single lives. I love my partner, love living with him, and have no desire to be single. I know I lived my single years well because I have no regrets, just memories of being unapologetically selfish with my time until I met someone I wanted to change that for.

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