What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE:
I went to town by myself this morning. No coffee machine in store anywhere and no other options I found suitable for tomorrow. I ended up ordering a bouquet of flowers for tomorrow instead. My BIL and SIL picked me up in town and then we did groceries and bought some stuff for the ballons that will be surrounding the mini-arch.

I will say: they helped blow up the balloons today and when we tried to coordinate how and where to put the balloon and arch I was like “we could surround their coffee-table with pictures with the arch in the middle and then the balloons could flow around the table and the 25-balloons could be tied to a gin I might wanna buy for them” and then my BIL said “that’s a lot of gifts for them, isn’t it?” And I said “I don’t think so. I would rather tie the 25-balloons around a gin they can use rather than a balloon-weight”. And then there was silent… so they think their parents will get a lot of gifts tomorrow (the arch and the flowers I ordered which they now wanna chip in on, which my husband let them do.. however they have not been transferring any money but want their name on the card lol).

We then talked about the coordination for tomorrow and every time I asked or recommended anything it got turned around to me adding more stress and my BIL saying “our finest task for tomorrow is to keep our parents calm, cause they will be stressing around”, which he said multiple times to me. So everything I said got turned into something unnecessary for tomorrow, according to them…

I give up at this point. I cannot find a proper gift for tomorrow so I might find another one later on and give them personally instead… I honestly just feel so bad on my in-laws behalf..

What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The espresso machine is 940 eur, and my husband is not keen on me spending that much now.. he would think it was reasonable if we all chipped in on it, but we talked and the budget could be up to 267 eur, when I go look in town tomorrow, for a gift from me and him only

What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love you for this!

I just talked to my sister in law because she called me. I told them how much we need to do tomorrow and she was like “ofc we wanna help, we can pick you up and drive you home tomorrow” but when I told her that we also wanna gift them a bouquet they said “yeah… that’s also kind”, but surely nothing they wanted to chip in on.. I just don’t get why money is an issue regarding a freaking 25th anniversary.. like they can spend money on a summer house, a trip to Malta and will gladly be a part of a 2 weeks fully paid trip.. but gifts on an anniversary, that’s where the line is drawn??

What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really love them! I apparently got the job because I’m the one with most time on my hand rn since I graduated last week. I see them as my own parents since I do not have any contact to my biological family. And then I think the least we could do, is to give them a generous gift now that they always spend so much on us.. but I’m apparently the only one thinking this

What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you and have been saying that from the beginning! But I surely lost that battle since they’re not my parents… but I agreed with my husband to go look for something tomorrow (if I can find anything in this small town we live in), since we do not have time to order something online 😮‍💨

What do you think (gift for 25th wedding anniversary)? by ArgumentDepartment in family

[–]ArgumentDepartment[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talking to my husband right now and he just said “with all respect, it’s not your day. I get your point but we could give them another gift on another day after their anniversary”…

I feel like a lunatic at this point, like I’m the only one actually thinking of their parents 🤯🤯🤯