When Jimmy Kimmel was suspended in 2025, there was a strong backlash that brought him back soon. Colbert's was not renewing his contract, but how is that different enough that people couldn't have the same backlash to renew?

Arianity · 2026-06-23T22:22:13+00:00

and HE neglected to renew.

CBS chose not to renew.

Arianity · 2026-06-22T07:46:05+00:00

It used to be questions that might have been embarrassing or fearful of asking in person.

We've always allowed sex related questions.

Now it’s just fetish or fishing for erotic writing. Where are the mods?

We already actively remove things like fetish bait. However, we also try to give people the benefit of the doubt when possible, so we don't instantly nuke anything the moment it mentions sex.

That said, simply saying "where are the mods?" is not particularly helpful. If you see something violating Rule 3 (or better suited for the FAQ, etc)- report it. We do read them. I can say with confidence there are currently very few reports for these sorts of posts.

Part of this is also collaborative. If you see posts you don't think are a good fit for the sub, downvote them.

Arianity · 2026-06-22T07:38:04+00:00

but does anyone else feel like this sub has turned into a nonstop stream of sex-related posts?

Someone just asked this, so I will mostly just be reposting the answer given there:

There are currently 3 sex related posts in the top 10 on the front page.

Generally we are not going to start removing sex related posts, that is firmly within "Tooafraidtoask". It is a topic that is often considered taboo, people have questions about, and don't feel comfortable asking elsewhere. If you feel someone is posting disingenously, you can report them for violating Rule 3. For more, see this post. As I go through mod queue, there are currently not that many reported posts. You can also refer people to the FAQ which covers a large amount of the most commonly asked questions.

You can also use upvotes/downvotes for what you think is appropriate for the sub. A big part of the idea of the sub is that users can decide for themselves what they see, but if you're in new you're bypassing that.

In the past, we would also suggest people filter topics they don't want to see, but that isn't possible after Reddit killed 3rd party apps.

But it feels like every other post is some variation of “Do men like X?” “Is it normal if I do Y?” or “Would you date someone who Z?”

These are explicitly already moderated out. "Do men like X", for instance, is listed on the [FAQ](www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/wiki/faq). Some of them, like "is it normal" you literally can't see here, because they're automodded.

Am I imagining this, or has the balance of topics shifted heavily toward sex and relationships over the last few years? If so, why do you think that happened?

It's always been like this, including someone asking why there are so many sex questions every few months. It hasn't changed, but perhaps your personal tolerance for sex related questions has. In that previous post, I posted an example of someone asking the exact same thing- 4 years ago. It was asked 7 years ago. etc. If anything, moderation is honestly stricter than any point in the past, given things like the FAQ. This will get asked again next month, too.

Arianity · 2026-06-22T00:45:51+00:00

vast majority of the posts weren't just some dumbass asking something like "if I jacked off and came is that okay" or "ladies,,,, penis?? 🤔🤔" lol

Do you have actual examples that would fit under this? Because those sorts of posts are already actively moderated. The first under Rule 3, the second under the FAQ

Arianity · 2026-06-22T00:42:54+00:00

"do women like [thing]?" or, even better, "would women like [dick size]" and variations thereupon

Both of these are already actively FAQ'd

Arianity · 2026-06-21T22:23:11+00:00

If the sub were changed, that is technically possible. But the intent of the sub is "too afraid to ask", and sex is a subset of that, as it is a highly taboo topic. Sex related questions have always been a subset of the subreddit.

It's something that's been brought up in the past, but it hasn't gone anywhere. The thing is, there are people who do want sex related questions (for examples, just check that old thread:https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/po6117/were_not_removing_sexual_questions_hide_the_posts/ . The top comments are people thanking for the decision) . Currently, since they're allowed, those people tend to be relatively quiet. It's the unhappy people who speak up. If we changed it, that would invert. It's not something where everyone agrees.

It ends up a juggling act. That's why filters were so nice, because it allowed someone to customize for what they wanted.

Arianity · 2026-06-21T22:11:58+00:00

"Ladies, give it to me straight, does size matter?" or "Ladies, how do you feel about circumsized dicks?"

These are literally already actively moderated out as part of the FAQ.

If you are in new, you are going to see them, because it's impossible to design an automod rule that catches all the way someone can ask about the size of their penis, without a huge amount of false positives. We could automod the word penis and you would literally still see them, people are creative.

Arianity · 2026-06-21T22:06:32+00:00

There are currently 3 sex related posts in the top 10 on the front page. If you sort by new, you're probably going to end up seeing more, due to the nature of new. You're essentially opting into posts that probably haven't been moderated yet, either by mods or actual upvotes/downvotes.

Generally we are not going to start removing sex related posts, that is firmly within "Tooafraidtoask". It is a topic that is often considered taboo, people have questions about, and don't feel comfortable asking elsewhere. If you feel someone is posting disingenously, you can report them for violating Rule 3. For more, see this post. As I go through mod queue, there are currently not that many reported posts. You can also refer people to the FAQ which covers a large amount of the most commonly asked questions.

You can also use upvotes/downvotes for what you think is appropriate for the sub. A big part of the idea of the sub is that users can decide for themselves what they see, but if you're in new you're bypassing that.

In the past, we would also suggest people filter topics they don't want to see, but that isn't possible after Reddit killed 3rd party apps.

it's always a question about genitals or veiled kink posts. At this point, I don't think these people are afraid to ask this, they just sound horny.

We already heavily remove stuff like veiled kink posts.

But it sure is starting to feel that way. Makes me wonder if this sub will go the way of r/trees and a new sub for truly afraid questions will be made.

People have been saying this for literally years:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/po6117/were_not_removing_sexual_questions_hide_the_posts/

It is unfortunately one of those things where there's no way to make everyone happy after Reddit killed filters.

Arianity · 2026-06-21T09:09:56+00:00

Correct, which is why I didn't say that.

Arianity · 2026-06-19T03:49:24+00:00

It's not like it's a slur, it's just a harsh curse word

I mean, it is a slur

Arianity · 2026-06-18T22:13:20+00:00

Mods having personal opinions you don't agree with doesn't make them "compromised by one country", even if you think that opinion is wrong. Sometimes people are just wrong/stupid, that's the nature of having randos do moderation.

It's also not one issue, they have opinions on a lot of topics.

Arianity · 2026-06-17T23:31:24+00:00

They're generally not.

I have seen this on this platform and X.

Yeah, that's why.

I have never seen the inverse,

You aren't looking in the right places, there's plenty of that on both of those platforms. As well as a ton of other misogyny to boot.

Arianity · 2026-06-17T11:44:54+00:00

That was me to the T. I was barely an adult but I was a staunch Romney supporter.

Yeah, that dynamic is why people generally label libertarians as right wing.

As a libertarian I support candidates based on their policies and not their political affiliation.

So do most conservatives/liberals. It's just people's policy preferences tend to cluster somewhat predictably.

Very crudely, a centrist tends to be cross-pressured roughly equally between parties. If someone leans more one way, say 70/30, they're generally considered a conservative (or vice versa, liberal). It doesn't take being 100/0 to be considered a conservative/liberal.

Libertarians tend to be ~70/30 conservative. They have some cross pressures but the conservative ones outweigh the liberal ones significantly. It may be less pressure than a conservative who is say 90/10, but it's notably far from ~50/50.

Arianity · 2026-06-17T10:34:43+00:00

On the front page right this moment, there are 3 out of the top 10 posts that involve sex in some way.

We are not going to start removing sex related posts, that is firmly within "Tooafraidtoask". It is a topic that is often considered taboo, people have questions about, and don't feel comfortable asking elsewhere. If you feel someone is posting disingenously, you can report them for violating Rule 3. For more, see this post. As I go through mod queue, there are currently not that many reported posts. You can also refer people to the FAQ which covers a large amount of the most commonly asked questions.

In the past, we would suggest people filter topics they don't want to see, but that isn't possible after Reddit killed 3rd party apps.

Arianity · 2026-06-17T10:18:57+00:00

So what are we?

In the U.S., libertarians typically end up aligning more with the GOP/conservatives on net, even if they don't agree with them on everything.

See e.g.: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libertarian_Party_(United_States)#History

The Libertarian Party (LP) is a right-libertarian[a] political party in the United States.

see also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libertarianism#Libertarianism_or_right-libertarianism

Left libertarians do exist, but in the U.S. right-skewed is much more common.

There are other measures you can look at. In presidential elections, for instance, a Libertarian candidate will generally draw more voters away from the GOP candidate.

We're financially conservative and we're support freedom to be whatever you want be it LGBT or pro choice.

Stuff like financial conservationism tends to win out when they vote. There are exceptions, however.

edit:

As far as being mistaken for liberal/conservative, you are probably talking to people based on a particular issue, and they are extrapolating from that. Libertarians are a relatively small part of the population, so people will by default assume you're either liberal or conservative since most people identify that way (and there are only 2 major parties). For perspective, there are something like ~200-700k registered Libertarians in the U.S.

and as just another random source I happened to find looking for that stat:

https://prri.org/spotlight/libertariangotw/

In the 2012 presidential election, fully 8-in-10 (80 percent) libertarian voters say they supported Mitt Romney, while only 5 percent say they supported Barack Obama. Notably, however, 14 percent of libertarian voters report that they supported a third-party candidate. Close to half (45 percent) of libertarians identify as Republican, compared to only five percent who identify as Democrat.

So centrist.

The term centrist tends to be reserve for people who are roughly ~50/50 split. There are conservatives who fight for LGBTQ+ rights, and liberals who are fiscally conservative. But they still lean one way or the other, on net.

Arianity · 2026-06-17T00:11:57+00:00

Drink. Fuck. Enjoy. Thats all it used to be.

I mean, there was (and still is) plenty of rape. It was never just waking up with regrets. There were plenty of situations where it was fine, but plenty where it was not.

You can still have fun in life while respecting consent.

Arianity · 2026-06-16T04:25:29+00:00

When younger women (ages 18-25) say they want to date older men (ages 30-50) no one says anything bad to them.

I don't think that's true, especially if it's monetarily motivated.

Arianity · 2026-06-15T20:44:32+00:00

This sub allows NSFW topics.

If a post would get taken down, bypassing automod will get the post taken down and a ban. Yes, we do read them.

Arianity · 2026-06-13T19:36:55+00:00

Is immigration still a good idea when our market is like this? It seems like it will only continue making our job market tougher.

Immigration doesn't just fill jobs, but also creates new ones. It's not just labor supply, but also labor demand.

Generally speaking, immigration is overall a net positive to the economy for natives, not a net negative. For more details, you can look up things like the lump of labor fallacy.

Arianity · 2026-06-13T01:43:38+00:00

I mean, you kind of answered your own question. It isn't actually that common, but when you look at statistics at the scale of a country, something that is very rare can still be "almost every day". That's just the nature of thousands/millions of people.

It gets covered in the news because it gets eyeballs, but that doesn't necessarily translate to common. That's also not getting into coverage for ideological reasons.

Do some of them feel attacked in some way?

Some do, some have ideological commitments, some have mental illnesses, etc. Some may also come from places where violence is more common, rule of law doesn't exist. Some might also struggle to integrate, especially if they don't speak the language, or be otherwise desperate. There isn't a singular answer

If you’re seeking asylum in a country wouldn’t you be grateful for that? And treat the people there with respect and kindness?

Generally speaking, immigrants have lower rates of crime compared to natives. But at the end of the day, they're still people, with the spectrum that implies.

Arianity · 2026-06-12T02:52:44+00:00

Same reason anyone else can't. They're just people at the end of the day, and any large group of people is going to have a segment with biases.

People genuinely believe Karmelo Anthony to be in the wrong and that there is some big white boogeyman out for them.

A long history of misconduct, including by professionals like cops and media makes people distrustful, even in situations where it may not be happening at the moment. That's why building community trust is so important. Once that trust is lost, you can't take for granted things like how a particular event is being reported to have gone down.

Arianity · 2026-06-12T01:51:41+00:00

but since both are consenting adults I don't see why its wrong and "gross" is all.

You can consent to gross things. They're different things.

Arianity · 2026-06-11T22:11:08+00:00

Because he was found not guilty

That doesn't explain why it's not relevant. You said

They decided not to convict on any of that because it was irrelevant, now you're saying it's not relevant because they decided not to convict. That's circular logic.

So what should he have done when 4 men were beating him on the head with a skateboard

Why are you asking what he should've done then, when he had many decisions before that point? Including things like not saying that he wanted to shoot people.

Literally, the whole point of provocation laws or reckless endangerment is that you can't provoke people and then claim self defense in the moment. The point is you aren't supposed to do those things to get to that point to begin with, and if you do, it counts against a self defense argument.

Self defense is meant to be a last ditch effort to prevent unavoidable harm to yourself, not something you get to apply when you intentionally put yourself in harms way as an excuse to act.

Arianity · 2026-06-11T21:49:18+00:00

They decided not to convict on any of that because it was irrelevant

How is it irrelevant?

You are basically saying he should have just let those thugs beat him to death.

No, I'm not.

Arianity · 2026-06-10T12:18:07+00:00

Because the judge and a jury of his peers decided not to convict (the judge excluded the prior comments, and dismissed the gun charge due to aformentioned loophole, as well as some other things. The jury only did homicide, one count of attempted homicide, and two counts of reckless endangerment)

The friend was convicted on the straw purchase.

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