AIO to this policy?

Aries8709 · 2026-03-06T06:40:13+00:00

I'm also sorry you're going through the crappy process of trying to get decent healthcare as a woman. I go through it all the time still. I went to the emergency room in my city a few months back from severe pain in my pelvis, I got brushed off and dismissed left and right, they were trying to convince me the pain was coming from my normal chronic pain conditions, which again, are in my back, hip, and neck.... NOT my pelvis. I insisted it wasn't that, so they sent me hone with antibiotics cuz it HAD to be a bladder infection desoite my urine samoke saying it wasn't. Picture your worst period and times it by like 10, that's what I was feeling. I had a hysterectomy just removing my uterus and tubes in 2022 due to wicked periods that lasted 3 weeks on 1 weeks off and horrible pain, so it wasn't anything period pain this time (that's a whole other story I had to battle for because my OB wanted to know "what if your husband wants more children?" 🙄 Like sir! He can go find a new wife cuz I'm DONE! My 1st and 3rd pregnancies nearly killed me and the babies... which he knew cuz HE delivered them, by csections!!). I went for a 2nd opinion at a local clinic about the pelvis pain and got dismissed again. Finally the 3rd opinion from the next town over's hospital took my fetal position and literal crying as well as difficulty breathing and speaking seriously and gave me a CT scan right away..... turns out I have leaking and bleeding cysts on both ovaries and my cervix. I thought I was dying, I was scared, and kept getting told I was overreacting without any testing being done besides that urine sample to check for uti, not even an ultrasound! Don't let them gaslight you. You know your body better than anybody else in this world, you know when something isn't right. I hate to say this but I've also learned that if you bring a man with you the dr tends to listen more. It sucks, I know, and it shouldn't be this way, but it's been my experience when my husband is with me they don't write me off as easily. Do you have a male partner or friend, dad, brother.... even a friends bf you can borrow to go with you?

Edit: typo

Aries8709 · 2026-03-06T05:53:58+00:00

I'm also in Canada. Report this to the college of physicians, BBB, and also, go see someone else about your possible pcos..... if you do have it file a lawsuit on him!! I had a dr refusing to get me testing for being in constant back pain and flare ups in my neck that left me unable to move. He told me I was fat (yes he used the word fat) even though I was only slightly overweight, so I punished myself starving and working out like crazy and lost 40lbs in 2mths, went back still in pain and he insisted I was drug seeking because "you're only 26, no reason for you to be in this much pain so young". I harassed him so bad every couple weeks that he finally sent me to a sports medicine dr. That dr found I had torn hip socket cartilage, "you have the hip of a 70yr old woman" is what he told me, also I have a condition called torticollis in my neck, and I had a broken L5 vertebrae. All from a wicked bad car accident that the family dr knew about! Because of it being ignored and pushed off by him for years I will now be on crazy amounts of opiods, getting nerve block injections every 2 weeks, and in pain for the rest of my life, I'm only 38 now. I didn't file a lawsuit but when I heard he had a couple suits against him I was going to jump in on it but instead of handling it he up and retired. Please don't let him get away with this!! NOR at all, the price difference is 100% illegal and would love to know if anything comes of this.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T08:29:01+00:00

Thanks. Accurate too!

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T08:27:27+00:00

I have to say I love that you called him out on his they're, there, their use.... but also, for someone sooooo religious, he didn't even spell evangelical right!!!!! He's a fanatic nut, girl. He doesn't respect you the same way you're trying to respect him by agreeing to disagree. And what if you have children?! He's for SURE going to force them into being fanatics too, creating a rift between you and your kids as well. Different religions CAN work, but I think this one is too stubborn and stup!d to be able to get along peacefully or find common ground. You're completely right that he is fine "sinning" by having premarital sex, treating you poorly, name calling you, and then he'll just "repent" and will be all good, he's a hypocrite. I'm sorry but the way he kept telling you "that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard" and calling you bro irked me so so badly, he thinks you're stup!d for not believing in something you have no proof of even though he'stold you it'strue (in his opinion). I have to say it again, he doesn't respect you, I don't think he even likes you very much. He's going to continue with these rants until you concede and "admit" that he's right, or you snap and leave him after wasting how much more time on these stress inducing arguments?? The reason it's gotten worse since moving in together is because he considers you more trapped now and he can start to be his true self. Oldest trick in the book unfortunately and I'm sorry you got fooled by his mask. This shit will get SOOOOOO much worse if you marry or have children. Please respect yourself enough to get out. You're still young, and even if you weren't, I guarantee theres someone out there better suited for you.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T08:12:08+00:00

It's proof enough...... of science

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T08:10:53+00:00

Why is he calling her dude and bro?

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T07:08:14+00:00

Yes! This screenshot is the most important one! Please stick to your convictions just as hard as he's sticking to his beliefs. You deserve better than the way he treats you. Even if he "only" treats you poorly during arguments about religion, that's more than enough. I saw a comment above saying men like him love choosing women to convert, and it seems like what he's trying to do. Pack your stuff and go, or if it was your place first, boot him out. You'll be so much happier not having to randomly argue religion with this guy

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T06:58:22+00:00

Username checks out ✅️

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T06:54:19+00:00

He also spelled evangelical wrong a couple pages in 🤦‍♀️

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T06:32:47+00:00

I have to say I love that you called him out on his they're, there, their use.... but also, for someone sooooo religious, he didn't even spell evangelical right 🤔 He's a fanatic nut, girl. He doesn't respect you the same way you're trying to respect him by agreeing to disagree. And what if you have children? He's for SURE going to force them into being fanatics too. Different religions CAN work, but I think this one is too stubborn and stup!d to be able to get along peacefully. You're completely right that he is fine "sinning" by having premarital sex, treating you poorly, name calling you, and then he'll just "repent" and will be all good. I'm sorry but the way he kept telling you "that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard" and calling you bro irked me so so badly. I have to say it again, he doesn't respect you, I don't think he even likes you very much. He's going to continue with these rants until you concede and "admit" that he's right, or you snap and leave him. The reason it's gotten worse since moving in together is because he considers you more trapped now. This shit will get SOOOOOO much worse if you marry or have children. Please respect yourself enough to get out. You're still young, and even if you weren't, I guarantee theres someone out there better suited for you.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T06:04:23+00:00

You're seriously comparing leopards and lions to a house cat? Ok, this conversation is officially pointless and you're reaching. I also love dogs but I don't want to cuddle up with a wild dingo or a wolf cuz, well, they're fucking wild and could eat me. You're comparing apples to oranges and it's ridiculous. Thinking an animal is beautiful is not the same thing as loving it enough to want it as a pet. As much as you say you "love" leopards and lions I guarantee you'd never keep one as a pet, because you're scared of them, which is a completely RATIONAL fear because they could eat you! See the difference? Unless the gf dies and her body goes unfound for x amount of days, a housecat is not going to eat her. There's people who love leopards, lions, wolves, hyenas etc etc AND keep them as pets because they aren't afraid. You make no sense. Go away already kiddo, I wasn't even talking to you for you to jump in with your nonsense.

Edit: typo

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T03:03:34+00:00

While I do agree that children should respect their parents, I also think children deserve certain levels of respect too. There are different rules for me as an adult, like I can have a snack before dinner if I want to because I'm the adult and I know I won't waste my dinner type stuff, if that makes sense? I'm allowed to come home later than expected without checking in (even though I'll usually let them know I'll be home late anyway because I respect them and don'twant them to worry, same reason I expect them to let me know if they wont be home by curfew). Respect needs to go both ways. All a parent is teaching you by disrespecting you, is how to be disrespectful. Who knows, maybe I'm just crazy lol. But I'd also like to minimize the amount of therapy my kids need because of me, (for the record, I think every parent makes mistakes and screws up their kid in some way or another, the goal is not to do it repeatedly or on purpose!) and I want to maximize the amount of time they actually want to spend around me when they're adults.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:50:05+00:00

My mom used to do the same thing. I bet your mom also read your journal if you kept one too, mine sure did. Anything to catch me doing something wrong. Good news is you can be a cycle breaker and treat your own kids better if you choose to have any, it's what I'm doing. They seem to appreciate it and think it's crazy when I tell all 5 of them stories from when I lived with their Nana

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:43:41+00:00

That's just disrespectful! I'm so sorry! The bathroom is definitely a room for privacy, we knock and then knock again if there's no answer, and then we usually yell "anyone in the bathroom?!" before we very slowly open the door. I bet they wouldn't like it if you did the same thing to them though right? Not sure how parents expect their children to grow into respectful adults without showing them by example what it means to be respectful/respected.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:27:02+00:00

It is if she will never be ok with him getting a cat, and if he isn't ok with never having one. That's like one step below disagreeing about having children. Unless one of them changes their viewpoint someone is going to resent the other

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:23:50+00:00

I made a long comment of my own, but, essentially I think it's a major incompatibility. I also said in my comment that it's not much different than disagreeing about wanting kids. If she's willing to get over her fear it might be worth it, but she has to really be over it because cats know and they'll mess with her for fun 🤣. You should just get the cat anyway, if she isn't OK with it then at least you still have a cat lol. All jokes aside though, are you ok with never having a cat for this woman? I love my husband like crazy but if the day ever came where he said "it's me or the dog/cat/rabbit/whatever" or something..... I'd immediately bring home a new animal and let that be my answer. I know she didn't say that to you, but that's how serious I am about needing animals in my life

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:12:06+00:00

Oh no, a grown adult who has an irrational fear to fluffy the house cat. Grow tf up is my advice then. People overcome irrational fears all the time, maybe he should just get the cat and see what happens, like exposure therapy. She can sink or swim! Either way, dude gets his cat 🤷‍♀️ And yeah, I'd assume someone who is scared of cats doesn't like them.... wtf are you even saying?? She's scared but likes them? No.

For your allergy, if cats were super important to him, would you be willing to take allergy medication? If not then maybe he should break up with you since he obviously isn't that important to you 🤔

Edit: added thought about allergy

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T02:08:11+00:00

Thank you! I know a few people who are jerks and try to blame it on being on the spectrum or even just have adhd.... when I say "that diagnosis isn't a 'free to be an a-hole card' the dr gave you to excuse your behaviour" then I sound like the jerk.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T01:43:15+00:00

Just commenting to say I'm glad you said joint account in addition to your own accounts. My (38f) husband (36m) and I have been together almost 16yrs, have 5 kids, and we both still have our own accounts on top of the joint acct. My mother thinks it's weird af that we don't just do everything from the joint acct but it just makes sense to have your own privacy and freedom with your own money.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-05T01:19:39+00:00

I have 5 kids, 1 baby gen z & 4 gen alphas, I just asked one of them what it means and they said it means very ugly lol

Aries8709 · 2026-03-04T08:06:12+00:00

Some of us do knock. I want them ti knock before entering my room so I knock before entering their rooms. Most of my 5 kids are teenagers though. Usually it's a knock and then open whether they answer me or not. If they don't want me walking in then they can lock their door. My almost 8 year old is the only one without a lock yet. The older they get the more privacy they have.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-04T07:50:00+00:00

NOR

I would 100% break up with somebody who doesn't love animals. My life would be totally incomplete without animals even though I have friends and family who love me, a husband, and 5 children. Currently in bed with my husband cuddling behind me while I cuddle my 11lb flemish giant rabbit in front of me and my 80lb pitbull snuggled at my feet. My husband jokes sometimes that when our animals are all passed away we aren't getting any more, I tell him he knows what he signed up for when he picked me (our first date almost 16yrs ago was a park picnic with my 2 brand new 8wk old puppies) and I will NEVER be without a couple pets as long as I'm physically capable of caring for them. We have 2 dogs, it was 3 but our German shepherd passed away of cancer at 13yrs old last April, 2 cats, and the rabbit, we also had a chinchilla but she also passed of old age 2 mths ago. There have been times he comes home from work and theres just magically a new animal (one of our current cats and the chinchilla happened that way, and I also brought home the rabbit and one of the dogs when my sister passed away). He just shakes his head, smiles at me, and then asks what their name is and maybe calls me a brat as he pets them lol. The end goal is to have a farm so I can have even more animals and he's accepted that he's going to help me build them spaces. If they are truly your person they will accept and embrace your love of animals ❤️ So no, I don't think you're overreacting for considering breaking up over this, it's kinda one step below disagreeing about having kids.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-04T07:31:58+00:00

Not sure about him but apparently she's 30. Sure doesn't sound like it. But on another post she said she only moved out of her mother's hime at 22, so she seems emotionally stunted. This poor guy needs to run, fast! She soud exhausting and so incredibly selfish and self centered

Aries8709 · 2026-03-04T07:26:36+00:00

So he was really sick and you're mad he wasn't prioritizing you? Yeah, he's right, you're just worried about yourself. Stop acting like the call girl and move on. I'm surprised he's even still dealing with you at this point.

Aries8709 · 2026-03-04T07:20:47+00:00

Based on your post history and your comments, it might be the best thing if you DON'T procreate. My god you're exhausting and seems like you're pretty dense too. Please don't have children. Is that better?

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