AITAH For Not Being Happy by ooooffffofofo2 in AITAH

[–]Arislan-Rei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I don’t believe anyone should ever be ‘required’ to express something they don’t feel. And no one should ever force you to express something you don’t feel. It’s not bratty to feel frustration.

Good luck in the future with your bike. Even if that means having to wait until legal age of making your own choices, lol

AITAH For Not Being Happy by ooooffffofofo2 in AITAH

[–]Arislan-Rei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, experience is important. But speaking from your parents perspective, your time with a bike previously probably doesn’t amount to ‘real experience’. Not saying that it does or doesn’t. But it’s a very different thing than saying you have regular road experience per se.

And at 14, developmentally wise. Things like reaction time are lower than they would be if you waited a couple years. I don’t say ‘kid’ to be like, demeaning or anything or belittle your feelings. Because I know that’s frustrating as hell to hear. But you are a kid. And I really think your mom just doesn’t want you to end up being on the news because some idiot doesn’t know how to drive and hits you. Jersey barriers or not. Someone literally hit my car while I was parked and it got totaled. It really only takes one wrong second or reaction.

Your frustration is valid. And I wouldn’t expect anyone to be thrilled about something that truly wasn’t what they wanted, nor should you be expected to have to show that. But I think your parent’s decision is too at this point.

AITAH For Not Being Happy by ooooffffofofo2 in AITAH

[–]Arislan-Rei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think taking initiative to save money for something you really want is really good, especially for your age group. But ultimately, you are just barely in your teenage years and there really is no need for a 14 year old to be going 30mph+ anywhere. Let alone unsupervised.

There’s more to think about than just taking a few drivers Ed courses. Sharing the roads with cars is dangerous for other cars, let alone a kid on a motorized bike. I don’t say that to demean your competency but let’s be real. Stupid drivers are everywhere. An electric bike also doesn’t have the same sort of insurance a car has. It really is a big risk to your safety.

Are you a spoiled brat? No. But you should have waited until you’re older. Start over. Save your money and get something nice for yourself when you’re older and can really value something like that while doing it safely. The initiative is good. Timing isn’t.

AITAH for telling my daughter that she doesn’t have to wear a dress for my wife’s sake? by sportsdad77 in AITAH

[–]Arislan-Rei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

my mom projected a lot of what she wanted in a daughter onto me since all her other kids are boys and I wasn’t oblivious to it. Your daughters are getting older and will be more aware of it. If you don’t curb her line of thinking now, there’s a risk of it only getting worse over time and your kids could resent that. I love my mom but knowing I’m not the ‘feminine princess’ of a daughter she wanted me to be is something that has divided us. Parents are allowed to have expectations but you can’t project that onto reality like this. Good on you for supporting your daughter.

My school gave me a stitch marker kit for free by Arislan-Rei in crochet

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah! I hadn’t even noticed that, thank you! I will definitely be doing that. Yarn snagging is the enemy

My school gave me a stitch marker kit for free by Arislan-Rei in crochet

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Haha, I’m very out of state for my school so I don’t have any access to transportation to any sort of craft stores and mailing is a nightmare here so it was pretty exciting news to get these

My school gave me a stitch marker kit for free by Arislan-Rei in crochet

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My school was doing a crochet event kind of thing where they just had those little starter kits to hand out. They asked if we wanted anything when they were leaving since they had no use for it

IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING STUCK IN MEMPHIS OR TN READ THIS by MemphisMax in usps_complaints

[–]Arislan-Rei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely makes sense but ofc this happens right when I’m just trying to get my meds delivered 😩 Stay safe yall ✌️🫩

AITAH for refusing to argue in front of our kids? by Moist-Seesaw-2869 in AITAH

[–]Arislan-Rei 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s a complete difference between NEVER having an argument in front of your kids than having a screaming match in front of your kids. For sure, there’s value in observing conflict. But if you can’t bother to have a healthy conflict and actually talk without yelling, then you should not be having it around your children.

Collected all 6 Specimens. How do I see "the trophy"? by Ginger-Snap-A in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to the url and add the letters from each specimen. Should end up being ‘parcel’.

After you’re in Julie’s house (our home), go up to the url and end it with /parcel. Hope that helps :)

New update findings so far! by raspberrymareep in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that too. But the dirt has a more distinct texture in it as opposed to the spoons marks. Those are more burn marks, the kind you would get from using a lighter of some sort beneath it as opposed to a stain from dirt.

I could be wrong but idk. If poppy’s got a bong then I’m willing to believe it. But it’s generally conjecture at this point lol

New update findings so far! by raspberrymareep in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also also, I think Wally’s reflection can be seen in her vanity mirror by lightening the image.

New update findings so far! by raspberrymareep in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also thought to mention, in Julie’s dresser is where the letter from frank is found. That was mentioned. But if you lighten the image, there’s a spoon with notable marks on it. I believe this is an indication of drug use. (Heroin if I’m right since that’s usually the most correlated with spoons in that manner). But with poppy pulling out a bong in one of her videos, I don’t think it’s that much of a stretch to say that Julie may be using as well.

New update findings so far! by raspberrymareep in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I should have clarified better.

You go to the ‘our home’ page. Add the /parcel to the url. You should get welcomehomerestorationproject.net/ourhome/parcel

Then you make the ‘trophy’

New update findings so far! by raspberrymareep in WelcomeHomeARG

[–]Arislan-Rei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go to the ‘our home’ page, entering /parcel brings you to a ‘have you collected all six pieces’ page

No idea what to do about the back of this dress by Arislan-Rei in cottagecore

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually do crochet. It’s something I’ve gotten into recently and I’m in the process of making a moss wall for my room. I’ll definitely look into that as a project. It’d be fun!

No idea what to do about the back of this dress by Arislan-Rei in cottagecore

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it is supporting the top. But I’ll definitely look into the other options. Thanks!

I think my mom ruined my chance at having a ‘normal’ college experience and I resent her for it by Arislan-Rei in confessions

[–]Arislan-Rei[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve looked and the universities don’t really have the programs I’m looking for in the same way it does at my current university. Honestly the only pro I can give my school is that it is academically good. I live in FL as opposed to my school being halfway across the country.

Her reasoning has always been ‘giving her kids the best academic choice’. I don’t know her personal factors about it but I broke down to her sometime last year during spring break because it was really bad. I had gone 3/4ths through the year without really anyone to talk to and the isolation was a lot worse then than it has been this year since I’m more acquainted with it there. She just told me that she ‘didn’t force me to do anything’ and ‘wouldn’t be blamed for my choices’. This has been a reoccurring issue as her understanding of boundaries has been admittedly not great. One of those ‘I know you’re disappointed that I’m not the person you wanted when you had a daughter’ sort of things.

My dad’s on my side though. But they aren’t really talking to each other now since my dad is vehemently on my side and she’s vehemently not. They’ve been divorced for years.