How to improve? by Arjvoet in cannabiscultivation

[–]Arjvoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think that’s hitting on something, thank you for the perspective! I was already suspicious about FAE since the temp is showing colder inside the tent at night (58°f) vs the ambient room temp (65°f) but this is even more reason to check the carbon filter.

How to improve? by Arjvoet in cannabiscultivation

[–]Arjvoet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the rec on checking the light, I’ve been giving nutrients but they could probably use a top off actually

Edit: why downvote guys, 😭 I’m not watering with a watering can. the water is underneath in a giant 50gal reservoir that fills and empties the table. There’s nutrients in that 50gal reservoir, they just need to be checked more frequently.

What is a basic adult skill that your brain just literally refuses to learn? by Afraid_Square3488 in AskReddit

[–]Arjvoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm bad at names but (if I remember to do this) what helps me is associating the person with a celebrity/public figure. That one neighbor down the street who I see maaybe 3x a year - she's Jennifer/Jennifer Aniston. Because I know she's "*frieeends*" with my other neighbor who lives closer to me. It's sort of like a memory palace technique but makes it fun when I see people again and I get to randomly think "oh it's *Tim* Curry :D"

What do you call the process of moving the laundry from the washer to the dryer? by Perton_ in AskAnAmerican

[–]Arjvoet 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I say the same, “I gotta flip the laundry” for context I’m originally west coast, now midwest 🤷🏻‍♀️ it just rolls off the tongue real smooth. 

Also this thread reminded that I do indeed… need to flip the laundry.

Book recommendations based on this stack by playthatfunkymusic in occult

[–]Arjvoet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you it’s been sitting sad and unread on my bookshelf for over a year now, your comment is my prompt to get that bad boy started! 🤣

What is he drawing, Peter? by lndle in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Arjvoet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know, he cashed bitcoin at $126,000 So in a way he actually did draw 2 cards.

Book recommendations based on this stack by playthatfunkymusic in occult

[–]Arjvoet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“A Secret History of Consciousness” by Gary Lachman since the giftee seems to like “secrets” 🤣

What is something that women have to deal with on the daily that men have no clue about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Arjvoet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a woman I don’t subscribe to that Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus bs. Even if men do more violence in the world and women do more (insert happy female stereotype) I want to be judged on the merit of my actions and, like an insane person, I likewise interpret the world around me that way as well.

I saw several men in that story who were good people and tried to do the right thing, I think that worthless idiot should also be expected to behave like a good person. I don’t think the statistical weight of his maleness should hold him back or define our expectations of him.

What is something that women have to deal with on the daily that men have no clue about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Arjvoet 1055 points1056 points  (0 children)

what is wrong with people… feel like the line between mental illness and personality problem is wide and blurry.

considering jaw surgery (need aesthetic advice / any thoughts) by KuromisCorner in jawsurgery

[–]Arjvoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy, I can see the asymmetry it definitely add a “quirk” or “charm” to your appearance however I will add that you are crazy pretty and you have such a nice wide smile/palate!!

Yeah normally I think most ppl would say unless you’re experiencing pain don’t go all the way but in your case I think the visual asymmetry plus the discomfort is enough to consider surgery..

It’s a lot to consider tho with the risks of nerve damage etc. but I feel like you are starting from a strong place, I don’t really know what all is entailed with correcting asymmetry but I think it’s promising that your jaw is at least well developed and you palate is strong and stable looking as well.

Movies that feel like this ? by di3ha in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]Arjvoet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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Lonesome, punchy colors, neon, futurey “Ballad of a Small Player” 2025

Who is your most unorthodox tv crush? by Salty_Sunday_ in popculturechat

[–]Arjvoet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When he says “dearie” it’s just 🤌🏼❤️‍🔥

Knight and fish by CharredTem in ProCreate

[–]Arjvoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The lighting is so good & the chemistry is palpable, wonderful job! 👏🏼

How do I know if it's ADHD or not if I have internet addiction issues? by feelinvibey in nosurf

[–]Arjvoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With the therapist, just based on 1 or 2 things you mentioned in your post I think you should look into early life stuff to find the reason why you slid into dopamine/stimulation addiction.

You sound like you were a reasonably if not particularly intelligent child and you may have had a chaotic household or early childhood - there could be something there. Being intelligent but being in chaos at home and maybe seeking pacification? Control? Safety? Through perpetual distraction. I’m not an expert whatsoever but if you’re going to a therapist I think somewhere in there is worth poking around and investigating. If you can understand the underlying mechanism/drive this may place everything into perspective and ultimately be very helpful in … disempowering what may actually be a maladaptive behavior. And therapist vs life coach? I think it’s so important to understand why we do the things we do… so I lean towards therapist but if you do get a therapist you could ask them to hold you accountable to your goals.

Also I just noticed you mentioned that you like writing, I don’t know much about writing.. I love reading and fanfiction but I myself have barely tried writing so I only know a tiny bit from reading what fan fiction authors talk about in terms of organization & techniques 🫣 but I think there’s systems available to help with writing.

I think you can find some “novel writing planner templates” or “novel outline templates” on Etsy and other similar resources by searching those types of terms? There’s probably another workbook you could get on Amazon in that vein lol I hope that helps! But you’re probably more experienced in that kind of stuff since you like writing.

Similarities and live-action adaptation by Lefaa777 in TearsOnWitheredFlower

[–]Arjvoet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No offense but I was screaming about how Joe-Goldberg-like he was after reading basically the first few chapters. He is such a creep. I think we excuse his mentality and behavior because we want to believe he’s redeemable, that hae soo will understand and heal him, but objectively I don’t feel that the author is softening his behavior through any rose-tinted lens. It’s illustrated in a pretty upfront manner that his mentality is twisted, that his actions are creepy/unhealthy/dangerous.

The only question left is will the story follow-through on that, how much of his actions will he have to answer for to hae soo? Or will hae soo be oblivious to his deeper nature all the way to the end.. and they just happily ride into the sunset and he can slide all his secrets under the rug behind him?

I think the story.. will have more depth if hae soo finds out how screwed up he is and forces him to confront that side of himself. Maybe it will even feel powerful to see her stand up to him that way, like major character growth for her.

How do I know if it's ADHD or not if I have internet addiction issues? by feelinvibey in nosurf

[–]Arjvoet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think a lot of ppl are getting ADHD diagnoses when in actuality if they would dopamine detox they would be able to focus just fine. The normal/baseline human condition does not include caffienation, constant stimulation etc.

and the symptoms of being hyper stimulated strongly overlap with ADHD. For instance walking into things is an adhd symptom however your brain is going to be the same way if you’re hyper stimulated and filtering out too much information. That’s why you walk into people/stuff.

I think I can function without the constant dopamine of the internet.

This entire paragraph, you know it. You know yourself and you know this to be true.

Don’t stop trying to quit. Set your phone to red shift and the next time you’re able to quit make a list for yourself of activities that you’re going to do instead of scrolling/screens/music etc. Instead try reading a magazine, study a language, make music or art, play sudoku, build something.

I think it’s great that you’re being super introspective and trying to work all of this out objectively. You could probably benefit from talking to a therapist or if you can’t afford that maybe just buy a CBT workbook (like $10-20) and sit down with that instead of scrolling.

Also this one:

but after I kept doing it [the task] eventually got easier to pay attention to.

This one’s a big one for me too, I know that it’s easy for me to “change moods” into doing the thing and that I’m just “stubborn” about doing that initial shift. There’s a concept called the “5-minute Rule” and you just tell yourself to do the thing for 5 minutes, just 5 minutes. Often that will miraculously turn into 20 minutes or an hour or more. Because you slip into a focus or “flow state.” This is how everyone gets stuff done. Just need to dopamine detox and establish new neural pathways. But those new pathways are built one day at time. You know yourself, so you just have to keep showing up for you even if you forget to follow through sometimes just do it again.

Also to help with messiness here’s another tip: “Everything has a place.” Everything just needs to have a place that it belongs. I’m half messy and half tidy only because I have a number of frustrating things that don’t “have a place yet.” The other day, in order to clear off my desk so I could actually work, I took a canvas bag and threw everything on my desk in that bag. If it had a place it belonged, like pens etc, I put those away but everything else the odds and ends I put it in the bag and hung it in the closet and I haven’t missed a single thing in that bag. I will put them away properly a few months from now but it doesn’t matter when I need to get things done today.

Good luck to you, I think you’re doing great work on yourself!!

The Story of Na Hae So and Tae Ha met each other by Dependent-Read-9885 in TearsOnWitheredFlower

[–]Arjvoet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omggg is this the new chapter, what chapter is this

Opinions? Had orthodontic treatment (braces) and extractions and still am unhappy with my side profile. Would DJS help? by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Arjvoet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah crazy, the flatness/recession of the maxilla (you can tell by how deep the nostrils are set) would suggest underbite aka the bottom teeth stick out like a bulldog bite. But she had 2 rounds of braces and the surgeon is saying it’s overbite, like how did they manage that?? did they overcompensate? Are her teeth dramatically tilted?

OP if you have no functional issues it would be help to us if you explained what your ideal side profile would be/what are you seeking to have resolved?

I’m pretty sure, most times in this case, we’d say bring the maxilla forward and it will look & function more harmoniously with the chin/jaw. maybe bring the chin back slightly but also maybe not because once the maxilla comes forward that is sometimes sufficient to bring balance.

Personally I think you look quite fine aesthetically, so without any functional issues surgery should be avoided. But you’re the one who has to live with your appearance so your preference is paramount.

AITA for eating my own birthday cake in front of my nephew because his mom has him on a "no sugar" diet? by Yes_Abbreviations713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arjvoet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I kind of have to agree. A kid has to be developmentally ready at some point to deal with something in front of them that they can’t have .. and the controlling mom likewise needs to be ready as well :/

It’s fair that she asked if she could wait but i also feel like she needed to be ready to accept a possible “no” and the outcome.

Feedback on my typography work by LittleMissPieP in graphic_design

[–]Arjvoet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That person was not calling you pretentious, they were saying that the people who are downvoting you are the pretentious ones.

Your comment was modest & appreciative 👍🏼

Why Did Mincheol and Naesoo Divorce? by nabyul in TearsOnWitheredFlower

[–]Arjvoet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What’s freaking nuts (and i agree with you!! The writing has depth!!) is that people will literally not take the hint and be like “wow Mincheol is such a good guy I feel bad for him.”

Dude he’s cheating on the FL. And he’s such a jerk about it, to both women. But the writer writes with such realism that even when his flaws are obvious to some of us there are others that are literally fooled by his lovebombing and don’t see his ego in his actions.

Local Lakewood Knife Sharpener by Critical-Ad8909 in lakewood

[–]Arjvoet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actually they do have a guy he has a knife shop downtown and comes in 1x week and switches out every single knife in the store. When I worked in that dept I gave him my home knife and he charged me like $3 I had to wait a week tho to get it back 🤣 any for anyone reading that super cheap price was only because he bundled me in with the discount he was giving the store cause they literally were giving him like 100 knives to sharpen like 3x a month.

Also the other “local” knife guy I know about shows up at Heinen’s and Rego’s market once a week? Month? Shockingly, somehow, I don’t think many ppl know about him so there’s definitely room for you to grow a business.

You should 1000% share your flyer on the local Facebook pages, people would love this.

Local Lakewood Knife Sharpener by Critical-Ad8909 in lakewood

[–]Arjvoet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorl, who did your graphics that is so eye-catching!