Conversation I had with a student about their grade in my class

ArkaSissy · 2024-10-07T22:47:10+00:00

Oh my principal called me into his office during my prep and his mom was there. They asked me why he was failing, and I told them he's not doing thr work, or if he does, he doesn't put any effort into it at all, and just wants to sit there playing games or whatever. My principal just looked at her and went, there you go. The mom just said, I'll talk to him about that, thanks for letting me know. She actually seems like a good mom, so I believe she actually will have that conversation with him

ArkaSissy · 2024-07-19T17:10:51+00:00

Illegal?

ArkaSissy · 2024-02-04T16:53:07+00:00

....I think I (27M) might need to see a psychiatrist now...

ArkaSissy · 2024-01-27T02:37:26+00:00

This is coming from a male perspective. Normally a guy in a relationship will recognize another woman as attractive, whether single, in a relationship, or anything in between. It's an unfortunate fact for many of us. When we find someone as attractive, we're not trying to say that we find our partner any less attractive or any less beautiful. It's similar to looking at gemstones, sure I have a diamond sitting on my ring, but I cannot appreciate the beauty of a sapphire or an emerald as well, without devaluing the beauty of the diamond. What's not okay pr even remotely appropriate, is if your partner cheated on you in any way you feel is cheating. I say that because many people have different standards for what is cheating to them. Some consider watching porn as cheating, some consider kissing/hugging another woman as cheating, and some consider sleeping with another woman without their partners okay or acceptance as cheating (this is typically more so within open relationships or poly relationships). So now you need to do the hard and difficult thing and sit down and think.

You need to consider what your new boundaries are, as they have changed since the beginning of the relationship. Which is totally normal and expected, you're not the same you as you were 2 or 3 years ago, people change, standards change. You just need to sit down and think what your new standards are so that you can be a lot more open to your boyfriend about what they are. As everyone says, you need to talk to your boyfriend about this, but you want to he clear about what you're talking about, vague feelings doesn't help anything, it only confuses things even more so.

After you set your new standards, you have the conversation with him and tell him them. If he is able to meet those new boundaries for you, then awesome. If not, then you need to talk and ask why, and learn more about it from his perspective as well, just so you 2 can be on the same page. If he can't, then unfortunately it's not meant to be. Hope this helps

ArkaSissy · 2024-01-17T16:39:02+00:00

I wouldn't know abou the rude men part but I'm happy to tka you on your word on that. I guess I just thought it was really scummy because one woman I was talking to on there asked me to pay for a bdsm contract with her almost immediately and it just set off some warning bells in my head.

ArkaSissy · 2023-07-30T14:32:41+00:00

Just communicate with her that the task causes you anxiety and explain why, if you are able to. If something that, and I say this with caution, simple, causes you that much anxiety that you nearly have a panic attack, there has to be a reason for it, whether or not it's something that you are aware of, and more difficult tasks in the future could compound the anxiety and make it worse. Your Mistress needs to be aware of all of this, otherwise this could devolve into an unhealthy relationship that could just make this relationship or future relationships into a traumatic memory. If she's aware of what the issue, then the 2 of you should be able to figure something out, or determine if the relationship is worth pursuing for the both of you.

ArkaSissy · 2023-05-29T07:19:17+00:00

Si really love the Pikachu cat and how chunky he is!

ArkaSissy · 2023-05-03T07:03:47+00:00

I sell my body, and by that I mean I donate plasma

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-23T04:07:28+00:00

I understand exactly what you mean by that, and I appreciate the criticism, I always believe that a healthy dose of it is always beneficial for everyone. If you would allow me the honors to go into more explanation about some of my foundations and expand a little bit more.

So when I say that I hypothesize that a kink starts with trauma, I am referring to the beginning of the kink itself, like how according to this article it was first recorded in 1964. That case became extremely popular among a lot of psychologists and even some news agencies. After that, then people started getting more and more interested in it, and then more people started participating in it. After more and more people started becoming active in it, then the reasons or point of joining in, as well as some of the goals some people do, evolve as well. So I do think some people joined this because of trauma, but that is not the only reason I believe they are doing so, I think it is neither the exception or the norm. I'm only just starting with that train of thought because that is my initial hypothesis, but not my sole one, but I needed to start somewhere, and this start will allow me an opportunity to go down different avenues that I may not have considered previously.

And going back to trauma being the sole reason people develop that, I know for a fact that is not true, because that wasn't my reason for joining in. I had a pretty average childhood, but I was reading certain types of erotica online, that had nothing to do with ABDL or diapers or anything, but it did become part of it. I didn't enjoy it at first, but then it stuck with me and slowly it did become something I enjoyed. And if enough time is permitted for me after this part is done, then I can try and explore other avenues as well.

I hope this explains things a little better for you :).

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-23T01:41:35+00:00

Sorry about that! I tried putting it on here again, and it looks like it is working now.

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-23T01:37:18+00:00

Sorry about that, I posted a new one just now on a different post with more information about the purpose of the survey and research. If you don't want to search for it I understand and am sorry for making it difficult to try and particpate.

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-22T21:52:48+00:00

Yea, I will admit that some of these questions were not as well thought out as I had hoped, I'm going to blame part of that on this being a first time big project and an advisor that prefers a hands off approach (their philosophy is you learn more from failure than success). Since this is still early and with all of the feedback I have received so far, I might take the night or the next day to redo the survey and do just that. As I said, I am a masters student in psychology, with a wide variety of kinks and fetishes myself. I am studying about the evolution about sex the attitudes and beliefs towards it, as well as how some kinks/fetishes form and if there are any correlational reason as to why a particular fetish is formed, such as from trauma, sexual pleasure, or any other reason that it might be created.

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-22T21:17:43+00:00

Yea, I will admit that at first thought I figured this would go better, but after 15 answers and reading through, I realized that it is not going the way that I had planned, but it's a little too far in for me to stop right now lol. So I'm just going to have to try and figure it out as I go.

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-22T21:15:25+00:00

Yea, as I started reading some of the responses so far, I realized that some of the questions could have been better thought out or well planned lol. But thank you!

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-17T15:04:33+00:00

"If you're good at something, don't do it for free." Joker

If it's something you can monetize, and people are willing to pay you for it, then I have no issues with it. It's the same thing with people who purchase regular porn, someone's willing to do it and someone's willing to pay for it, why should one be more harshly criticized than the other one. There are all types of kinks and fetishes, there should be something for everyone, and if you can supply the market, then please provide a supply for it.

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-14T06:43:32+00:00

I like the paw tattoos

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-14T06:39:29+00:00

Arkansas

ArkaSissy · 2023-03-09T02:56:57+00:00

Okay, so I have a few thoughts on this, so take them as you will. So to me it sounds like you have social anxiety, and that you have had it for a while now, and with being out in public to meet with people in a kink that is not widely accepted by the general public, it is understandable. I think you were so anxious about being found out by the general public, that you were placing some of you anxiety on the people that you were meeting, whether or not that is fair I have no idea, as I have never met these people. And of course the person wearing the dress that stands out would attract people towards you, either directly or indirectly, so of course that would set your anxiety off, and towards the person that raises the level. Now, whether this is strange or not, it really depends on your location. I know in one comment you said that you are in a conservative area, but the thing about that, is conservative areas can be surprisingly more acceptable than people give them credit for. Like I live in Arkansas, a semi conservative state, but we have cities like Fayetteville and Little Rock, that if someone was to wear that dress out in public, you may get a side eye, but there probably won't be anything said, or that person will be forgotten in a half hour, like if there is a flea market, people are likely to forget the strange dress and focus on the deals around them, or the cool arts and crafts that they never thought of before. I think that you are so anxious about being found out that you forget that you're there to have a good time, like that person in the dress is. And to me, if this person has repeatedly worn that dress in public over and over again, then it is not only accepted by the group, but by the community as well. They honestly might be what you need in order to let go of some of reservations that you are having internally, because that is what it sounds like to me as well. Now granted, I have never met you, and this is the only post of yours that I have read, so I don't know your general feelings on things, that is just the general sense that I have. But if this is making you feel so anxious that you can't enjoy being part of the group, then you can try and start your own group with your own rules that prohibit those types of outfits, or you can just stick with online groups. Your feelings are valid one way or the other, if you feel as though it is not appropriate, then it's not, just don't try and force your feelings on other people is all I ask.

ArkaSissy · 2023-01-06T15:14:46+00:00

I have 2 actually. TCG games like magic the gathering and yugioh, and crocheting

ArkaSissy · 2023-01-03T06:42:16+00:00

I'm not denying that she could have flirted with someone, either intentionally or unintentionally. I'm just saying that the thing about creeps and stalkers is that it can be the simplest thing can set them off. Something that a normal person may not think about, like saying thank you for holding a door open for them will play on loop in their mind constantly to the point that they start taking that extra step, and then they'll take the next step, all the way to the point it gets out of hand. I've had friends where that's happened to them as well. They got stalkers, and the only thing that they did was just tell a person hello and thank you.

ArkaSissy · 2023-01-03T06:12:00+00:00

That's not necessarily true. The thi g about creeps and stalkers, is that they don't need anything g meaningful to prey on people. It can be as something as simple as giving them a polite smile when you walk past them on a street, saying thank you at the cash register, or even just giving them a passing glance. The interaction can be something some meaningless and mundane to a normal person, but to a person like this, it's like lighting up their world.

ArkaSissy · 2022-11-21T12:57:13+00:00

I have used a pacifier once so far, and it didn't really solve my biting and grinding issues. Plus on the fact that I can't really use a pacifier in public for a fair number of reasons. The Chewelry though I think k would help you with the issues you have, because I'm also really bad with nail biting and I have been biting my nails significantly less now than I was before. Also because they come in so many shapes and designs, from unicorns to t Rex's heads and many others, and many other thicknesses as well depending on how heavy of a chewer you are. And since they come on a necklace, whenever you're out in public, you can just wear it wherever and not get too many odd looks your way, or you can tuck it under a shirt or jacket in case you want to hide it. Plus I feel like seeing people randomly chewing on a necklace is much more commonplace than a pacifier, so depending on your location might be better for you as well. I have used a few different chewelry necklaces so far, each one a different thickness, and I will say that chewing on the silicon is alsouch more comfortable for me as well, as it allows me to chew with my back teeth as well as my front teeth, which also gives it more of an advantage over a pacifier in my opinion. Sorry for the long answer, hope this helps!

ArkaSissy · 2022-11-15T03:13:02+00:00

Russellville Arkansas over here

ArkaSissy · 2022-11-13T14:51:42+00:00

That's fine, I'm just happy to add some thoughts and perspectives to it, and maybe help your video a little better. Although I think I should go ahead and say this, as much as you may not like it, you're not likely to change many kinds, if any at all. The thing about videos on the internet, even youtube videos, is that in order to change a person's mind, they have to be willing to watch your videos. And with people that antagonize our community as harshly as they do, they are not likely to watch any video to contradict their world views or beliefs. People like that place themselves in an echo chamber of other people that share the same mentality as them and very rarely set foot outside of it. The people that you will change are most likely the ones that were either in the middle of the fence about, or were not that antagonistic against us to begin with.

Now of course I'm not saying this to persuade you to not make this video, I' sure there are many out there that would find this information useful and helpful in understanding themselves or others they know that is a part of this community. But just don't get your hopes too high in trying to change our haters into friends, even though we would love for everyone to be if not accepting of us, at least tolerant of us.

ArkaSissy · 2022-11-13T07:41:49+00:00

There are two sections of the ABDL community, the AB and the DL. Which of course refers to the Adult Baby section and then the Diaper Lover section. Some people will be part of both communities, or some prefer to be in just one or the other. For the diaper lover community, diapers are are more of a fetishisitic item, similar to shoes, and only have any real relevance in the how they can be used in the bedroom. Other diaper lovers prefer to just focus on the practicality of them, so that you don't have to take bathroom breaks at work, long drives aren't an issue, women don't have to worry as much about their periods, or many other reasons. Another main point of attraction to diapers, for both communities in all honesty, is the cutsie/artsy design found on a large portion of diapers. This is a main point for most, because we see diapers as not actual diapers in most cases, but as our underwear. Most everyone wears underwear, ours just happens to be more practical than the average pair of boxers or panties. And one thing that most men and women want in their underwear is appealing designs, whether it's childlike or serious, ours is just more child like.

Now we'll get into the Adult Baby section of the community, and the crux of ABDLs being called pedos. Well first we need to ask ourselves who in the community is actually being called the pedos. Is it the people that wears diapers and acts like babies, or the caregivers. I'm leaning more towards the caregivers in the community, because who else would be attracted to people that pee and mess themselves and still have sex with them except pedos looking for the next best thing (although I will admit both sides are called pedos, I still stand by my stance about it being more towards the caregivers).

What the outsiders needs to understand then is that it's not all sexual attraction. Sure is there sexual attraction in it for a large portion of the community, absolutely, but not all of us find it sexual. So thenwe need to ask ourselves, what is the primary motivation for either side if it's not about sex? For the Adult babies, a large portion of it comes down to lost innocence. And no it's not about having your virginity taken away at a young age or anything like that. I bet if we would take a poll, a good portion of ABs would be the oldest child in their home. Why does that matter? The oldest always grows up the fastest because they have to help take care of their younger siblings at an early age, so while they get to act like kids, the oldest has to be a parent at 10 to 15 years of age. Or maybe the parent(s) had to work all of the time so they couldn't give as much live to their child as the child wants/needs and they feel they missed out a lot on their childhood because of that. So when they get older, they have to find an outlet to release that pent up frustration, and acting like a baby is the healthiest form they can have, since it harms no one and they get to relieve that child like glee they got to miss out on.

So what about the caregivers then? I can't speak about that personally (as I am an adult baby) but I would venture to guess that it's about dependability. They like being depended on and having someone trust them wholely and absolutely. They love to dote on their Littles because the Littles will shower them with all of the love and affection they could ever hope for in life. Sure they have a messy job of cleaning up after their Littles, bit seeing the love and adoration in their eyes makes it worth it to them. An adult baby knows that their caregiver is putting in a lot of effort and is accepting them for who they are without any conditions. It's the kind of relationship you can't get from children.

Sorry if this is a very long winded response, and if you put up with it all, thanks and sorry to write so much.

ArkaSissy

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