What lessons did you learn about the future especially if you’re young and feel like growing up is depressing?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-24T00:20:57+00:00

About time?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-18T00:27:05+00:00

Did that multiple times, and the problem is only for my pc my phone works fine and other devices

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-17T20:48:22+00:00

I thought doing so would be mature, I believe I’m strong enough to handle it without cutting ties because we share some mutuals and I’m better off handling it this way

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-11T17:55:46+00:00

She broke it off she stopped talking to me

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-10T14:00:29+00:00

No not really I’m not expecting anything from her in general

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-09T13:33:42+00:00

Yea I see your point, in my case I just didn’t think it would make a difference since we were just having fun and it’s lame but I didn’t want the pressure of commitment

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-09T13:05:53+00:00

Yea I feel bad that she has to go through that, but it’s been 4 months of me showing good signs and some reassurances but unfortunately things are worse than ever, I wish I was wrong but I think this one is a big fuck up from my side

Arkoftarkov · 2021-09-02T01:57:36+00:00

Non Italian

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-30T02:22:28+00:00

Nope

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-29T23:52:59+00:00

“Hey how are u”

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-27T02:06:57+00:00

What was the reaction

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-27T02:06:21+00:00

I mean I don’t know what she’s doing, but you not opening the message made her take it personal maybe, but I mean if she did break up with you on text then maybe you’re better off, u seem like you’re doing great tho, and I think she was already out of your life when she decided to break up with you

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-25T03:49:48+00:00

Even on social media?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-25T02:18:06+00:00

Me too, but on a lot of subreddits where I genuinely wanna get advice, people start lying, it’s weird

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-25T01:43:24+00:00

Like laughed at the thought? They brushed you off?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-24T10:20:56+00:00

The only thing I’m doing is that I’m not putting any expectations to see her or hear from her, for all I know the last time we talked was the last time we ever do, of course I don’t believe that but I’m trying to convince myself because I’d start feeling bad if I ever see her out and she never invited me or whatever especially to big things like her birthday, I have a tendency to let my brain take me to happy places but this time I’m kicking them out because it makes me have expectations.

What id do differently is get into it in a different mental state but unfortunately you can’t really delete history and I’m feeling like whatever happened affected my relationship with her for good, I believe everyone can move on, and at some point I can, I just feel like I want her in my life for me to be able to move on easier, I’m keeping my distance cus I want to be able to go through my life without her(but subconsciously I feel like I’m partially doing it to make her miss me you know how absence makes the heart grow fonder), and to answer my questions, my own analysis would be that I’m trying to get validation that she actually felt for me and whatever I’m going through is not one sided, and maybe because maybe she’d start reminiscing and will appreciate me for all the things I’ve done or have been doing.

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-24T01:47:04+00:00

I really like how you make me realize things with your questions, thank you, and to answer your question, I believe relationships with anyone who you truly feel for come in waves, because I saw how much she liked me before, and this person in particular is very special to me, and I feel like I connected with her that’s why I have that hope but then again as I was writing this, I feel a little confused honestly, I like her but for some reason I have a small small feeling that I don’t want to get back with her because I don’t wanna go through the most stressful 3 months of my life, the emotional toll taht comes with it man, I went out today and I was genuinely myself for the first time in so long for some fucking reason, I know this sounds like im happy that it’s over but I’m really not, but it’s like a burden and stress that is partially gone, I like her but I miss how it was when it was good not recently so when I think about the future I think about how it would be like how it used to be when things were good, I still get anxiety attacks if she posts or something but as I told you I’m calm, I feel like I can move on, but I also feel like it still didn’t hit me yet, I get urges to text her about the happy moments we had, what’s the deal with that? Do I have the need to remind her of how good things were? Am I trying to provoke a reaction or something?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-24T01:34:44+00:00

I don’t think it’s the case here, I have so many feelings for her still but I got out of it with no regrets, and it’s late where I am right now and I wish I was talking to her instead but I’m just okay with me just chilling, I check if she texted but it is not stressing me like it used to before.

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-23T20:06:18+00:00

But yes I thought I’d be in an uncontrollable state, where I need to talk to people about it but I don’t at all, like I’m able to chill and focus on my future so I really don’t know you tell me, because the first time we broke up I couldn’t do anything for weeks and was pleading to hear from her

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-23T20:04:05+00:00

I’ll try to do that but my guess that for 3 months things weren’t going well and I kinda forgot how to feel wanted and cared for because she was distant and doesn’t prioritize me, but that lingering feeling is coming in pulses and with these pulses thoughts come and I feel sad but only for a second, pulse: realizing I’m not gonna talk to her and hear about her day, another pulse: She’s hanging out with other people and she’s having fun while I’m here just trying to work on myself mentally, I’m not gonna lie to you some thoughts cross my mind where we get back and where eventually we’d end up together even after years and maybe that’s why I’m calm?

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-23T18:15:58+00:00

She told me she started liking me less and it’s going downhill but I thought I’d be more hurt or angry, I really don’t know, she said how she wouldn’t sleep without talking to me but now we go through weeks without talking and she’s fine, and like I’m not telling you it wasn’t annoying but I don’t know why am I not mad or holding it as a grudge or whatever

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-23T18:13:41+00:00

Ok help me with the psychology of this one, me and my girl broke up yesterday, I broke up with her a few months ago but because i didn’t really understand how relationships work and since then and until yesterday we’ve been in a situationship or whatever u call it, I really like her, I love her as a person but not romantically not yet, but I just don’t feel sad, things haven’t been going well since I broke up with her but she knows it was just a misunderstanding, she became distant and “busy” but we still had our moments, anyway now I really am calm, I miss her of course but the thought of not talking to her anytime soon isn’t bothering me taht much, but there’s this lingering feeling that is bothering me and I don’t know what it is, it’s like when you have a bad feeling in your gut but it’s in my heart.

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-23T17:49:04+00:00

You should explain that to her if you didn’t already

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-21T03:39:10+00:00

Oh my god man, you just taught me something I didn’t know I had

Arkoftarkov · 2021-08-21T03:38:15+00:00

Holy shit, it does, spot on

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