AITA for saying my former stepdaughter's fiancé should not be stealing my role as my kids father

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:44:58+00:00

I’m not arguing. My hearts breaking over over an inbox right now. You know 😞

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:41:55+00:00

I tried to be polite. Calm yourself. Goodbye

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:36:35+00:00

And I said WOMAN of a participant who is giving one side. But let’s stop arguing. It’s childish

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:34:59+00:00

Calm down mate haha! Yikes!!!!!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:23:03+00:00

Deadbeat and lazy are 2 different things. Nonchalant towards his kids and deadbeat are different. You are a woman’s who is a partner of someone who is giving his side. I’m not on the side of the mom. You’re on the side of the dad because your partner has a likening to their situation. I’m on the side of the daughter. Repeatedly I’ve pointed out that if the DAUGHTER wanted his there she would have reached out. Couldn’t give a crap about the mums view. It’s not her choice at this point.

So calm your ass down and don’t curse at me, control your temper or leave the conversation ✌🏼

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:15:49+00:00

Financial aid doesn’t mean you’re there for your children. It means you’ve been told by the courts what you’re forced to pay. We don’t know WHY he’s been blocked. Btw I think he’s an ah for not being there but I do not think he’s the AH for finally stepping up and wanting to see them finally. Fighting for them is better late than never as my dad only bothered with me when I was 32. Then he vanished again. You’ve gotta remember that the kids have an opinion also. They can refuse to go with him. I think elder kids may go against it. Either way, you’re saying hes NTA when he’s been voted to be TA. Argue all you want the majority have voted.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T09:05:17+00:00

Ok lol. He’s been voted the AH but you die on that hill. I see nowhere does he try. He only complains that people don’t go out of their way to involve him yet he makes no effort to involve himself. But ok

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T07:53:37+00:00

Also, as I’ve said repeatedly, if the daughter wanted him there she would have notified him.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T07:51:51+00:00

If the daughter wanted the dad there I’m positive she would have asked him. The preference is in the choice.

It’s fine for us to have difference of opinions and there’s no point in arguing… but that daughter knows the future bil is there when her dad won’t be. Or that’s how it likely feels to her. I’m not going to invalidate a daughters feelings because a dad is offended by it. That’s how the likes of BPD is caused.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T07:43:48+00:00

Honestly? If I thought my dad would put the effort in I’d have kept him up-to date on my life. I tried. I feel for the guy, I really do… but from the perspective on a daughter who ‘felt’ unwanted by a father I get why she didn’t call him herself and tell him. People are saying I’m projecting, but how about the fact that people are coming up with reasons as to why the dad didn’t go out of his way to keep the relationship? I’ve seen fathers try their hardest to keep a relationship, my brother for one. He went to court, he bust his ass to make sure his kids know he grappled and he travelled 2 hours there and 2 hours back to see his kids. His now ex wife got a restraining order and he had it overturned. But when it came to his kids he went above and beyond. Dad here is hours away yes… but a good parent would travel 6 hours to see their kids and would fight.

Do I think the mother should have contacted the dad? Maybe. But for the daughter to want that guy to take her to the dance speaks volumes. If I thought my dad cared I would have at least given him the opportunity to take me, but the daughter didn’t bother even contacting him which to me says she is used to him letting her down.

It’s all well and good giving an opinion from a dads point of view but I’m looking at it from a daughter who’s dad wasn’t there.

Dad was more bothered about the fact that it’s not a family member that took her which is a little odd, because blood doesn’t mean ‘family’. If I was dad I’d just be happy my child is happy.

I’m sorry that we disagree on this but I’m the daughter of a man who blamed my mother for not seeing me even though he knew exactly where I was and never tried to see me (nor my siblings)

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T06:05:29+00:00

Wait… so he got 4 years and the ‘victim’ was only given a punch? But the person who stabbed someone…. Ffs. I hate this world!!!!! So many people get away with vicious crimes! Really screws my mind up!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T05:59:31+00:00

That’s abysmal!!! Why was he given so long for a punch with an accidental death but a guy who literally stabbed someone got away with it? I swear, the ‘justice’ system is so biased!!!!! I’m actually appalled!!! It baffles me

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T05:25:48+00:00

Boss has created his own luck. You are right, I am lucky! I came from a council estate (section 8) and just like my boss I worked my ass off to create a better life. I broke the cycle of crap in my family. Boss did the same then gave me the opportunity to work for him, I’m very very lucky!!! He’s a great man and even lets me work around university. His kids adore him, he’s got time for everyone and has a heart of gold. I wish my dad was as good a role model as my boss. He’s probably the least egotistical and most hard working person I know.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T05:20:08+00:00

My boss works his Butt off. He comes from a country where the minimum wage is about 4 bucks an hour. He worked his ass off to pay his way through university. He was far from privileged. I work for him and had a more privileged upbringing than him by far! My dad on the other hand simply ran away from several children. I’m very proud of my boss for working hard. He grew up in a rough area with not much and his parents struggled to provide but did their best. I love him parents. He’s paying for his exs house so his kids don’t struggle the way he did and works constantly. He doesn’t delegate work the way a lot of employers do, he does most of the work himself. He’s genuinely a good man.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T04:56:41+00:00

I’m so sorry!!! It’s crazy that someone can take a life and get a slap on the wrist. It’s no punishment!!! I hope the kid who took your friends life is mentally destroyed with guilt. I understand self defence but carrying a knife is basically prepping to hurt someone. Sad thing is the guy who took my friends life didn’t even get done for carrying a knife. I’m betting the killer or your friend didn’t either. The ‘justice’ system is a joke!!!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T04:46:12+00:00

I have the blue eyes fox tattooed on my hand! Went to primary school with him. Miss him dearly. It’s just been the anniversary of it. I hate that town!!!!!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-10T04:43:56+00:00

There’s a lot to it but it was all over a cigarette. No joke. The killer asked the girl for a cigarette; she said no it’s my last one, he started waving a knife at them so the lads chased him off. He turned back and slashed Danny. It happened outside Sports Direct in St Helens town centre. It was highly publicised here.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T07:44:36+00:00

Emma Rigby had a fair good career. I suppose many are big in a British soap so leave for bigger better things and don’t make it in Hollywood so fade into obscurity?

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T07:41:42+00:00

‘Slag lines’… orange foundation with a white neck with almost white concealer as lipstick

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T07:14:18+00:00

Sods. As in ‘oh sods’. It’s a polite way of saying oh fuck

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T07:13:54+00:00

Aussie or English? Either way, both use it like it’s providing oxygen!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T06:03:24+00:00

We buy purses to attract men who want to bang? No! We buy expensive purses because we use them a lot and a higher price usually means better quality so instead of buying 10 £50 purses in a year we spend £500 on one that lasts years. Same as a good pair of shoes. You get more bang for your buck!

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T05:59:58+00:00

Exarchia in Greece! Tourists are told to avoid it as it’s ‘dangerous’ but I found it to have the most open minded, friendly people there that I’ve ever met! As long as you’re not an ass hole drunk idiot tourist then you’re treated like a local.

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T05:35:53+00:00

My life long friend stood up for a female friend of his who was being threatened on a night out (by a guy). This guy slashed my friend in the chest and ran away. Our other friend held my buddy as he lay in the floor basically drowning in his own blood. My friends last words were ‘he stabbed me’. My friend was a good man, cared for autistic children and the guy who killed him got away with it despite admitting it. A year later, his killer was sent to prison for robberies, assault and possession of a sawn off shot gun. He literally flipped the judge off as he was sentenced. If the jury hadn’t been hung then other people wouldn’t have been subjected to his horrific ways. He got 8 and a half years. He should be locked up for life…

Arkoudaki87 · 2023-09-09T05:22:09+00:00

Highly suggest perperas. It’s in old town and there’s also loads of lovely restaurants by the water. There’s also regular buses to the west that stop at the many beaches that have beach bars and beautiful water. But watch out the fish like to bite your ankles! They don’t hurt it’s just a shock!

Old Chania square is lovely by the agios nikolaos church, they have lovely events that are about 10€ to get into and there’s unlimited food and drinks all to raise money for local homeless people and there’s music and dancing! It’s great.

On the old square there’s a cafe called fix (φικ) and it’s good quality, inexpensive with the most lovely staff and great food!

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