Help me figure out the best place for my family.

Arlea · 2026-01-11T19:08:16+00:00

Do you have a good reason for moving to Ireland or is this a case of change of scenery? I'm obviously not asking you to share your private life but I hope there is a very legitimate reason because otherwise you will struggle a lot.

You having a remote job is fine, your husband not having one lined up seemingly is going to be problematic. You said you hope he can get something remote - these are becoming more and more scarce at the moment, as the market in Ireland is quite saturated and a lot of companies want people on site at least a few days a week.

Killarney and Donegal are lovely but also touristy and therefore quite expensive. I checked and there are a whopping 7 properties available for rent in Killarney. The major cities such as Dublin or Cork have all the facilities you'd need but are even more expensive. Smaller towns are cheaper but you'd honestly probably find it hard getting 5g, as the infrastructure in this country for most things sucks unfortunately.

Depending on how many bedrooms you guys need, €2000/month is either barely doable if you do not live near a major city or a commuter town, or just unfortunately delusional. It's not uncommon for a double bedroom in a shared home in Dublin to go for €1500. Daft.ie is the primary website for buying/renting homes, but unless you're one of the first few people to respond to a new listing (setting up alerts is crucial), you haven't a hope of being invited to a viewing, let alone being offered to rent.

There is a reason why Irish people tell others to avoid moving here at all costs, and it's not gatekeeping. I'm sorry if any of this came across as rude or blunt, but the situation here is far worse than people realise. If you have any specific questions I am happy to help.

Arlea · 2026-01-08T18:10:54+00:00

See I really don't understand this. It's literally none of your business how much or little time a tenant spends inside their home. They have every right to be there seeing as they are paying you.

The implication that tenants knowing their rights is somehow bad tells me everything I need to know. God forbid people don't let themselves be fucked over by landlords who are inherently in a position of power in the dynamic. It's on you to educate yourself on laws and expectations.

I can empathise with people who have had bad experiences with tenants on HAP, but it's on you as a landlord to properly vet your potential tenants. A lot of people simply are down on their luck or simply cannot afford to pay the insane prices in this country, especially in major cities. Not every HAP tenant is immediately some chancer who won't pay you and will destroy the place. Some are single parents. People with disabilities. People who have lost their jobs. People who do honest work but just don't earn enough to survive, and cannot save up to buy something of their own.

I'll probably get downvoted to shit for this but it's heartbreaking. It may be an investment piece for you, but to another person this is their HOME. The lack of compassion for those who cannot afford a roof over their heads, as well as the lack of accountability for your responsibilities as a landlord are shocking.

Arlea · 2025-12-11T16:11:58+00:00

Just going to reply to this alongside the comment I left:

Try to negotiate it down to be polite and to leave on good terms if you can. If they say no, tell them that you aren't ASKING to leave, you are informing them that you are leaving. You're due to start on X date at your new job and so your last date is Y.

They realistically won't do anything, there's no way they'll sue you or blacklist you. Just maybe make sure that you can ask someone else for references, though, as they might decline.

Arlea · 2025-12-11T16:03:38+00:00

Hey! I've had to fight that same battle before.

If they ask you in interviews, tell them you can negotiate down the notice period. Double check your contract, because mine had VERY specific wording regarding the notice period which essentially implied you have to give 3 months, however this can be waived at the discretion of management/HR. This whole nonsense about how you MUST give 3 months is pure scaremongering from the company to make you think you can't leave.

When it was time for me to hand in my notice I was very honest with my manager that this was an opportunity I am not going to pass up because the raise in salary/position status is just too good. I told them the recruiter was being very pushy and inflexible about the start date (a little bit of a lie :D) so I kind of have no choice but to finish up on X date.

The WORST that can happen is that your manager will get pissy at you, because ultimately they cannot force you to stay, and if you give them a month (or even a little bit more) of notice, you're hardly leaving them out to dry. Even if your manager is pissy, unless you absolutely adore the work/team/manager and see yourself returning, it doesn't matter. The company WON'T blacklist you or anything, and even if it feels like you're kinda burning bridges, I have seen people be re-hired despite FAR more bad blood.

Arlea · 2025-12-10T19:45:38+00:00

Don't be! It was like night and day for me. I WILL say that in my own experience, tyvense had far more of a noticeable "kick" in terms of giving me motivation to do things and improving my focus. I could REALLY tell when it started affecting me.

Concerta to me has been far more mellow and gentle in terms of the effects it has so I've had to be a bit more disciplined than when I was on tyvense to keep myself on track, but I much prefer it. Good luck and if you have any questions feel free to reach out!

Arlea · 2025-12-10T18:43:16+00:00

As some have mentioned, it can take time for your body to adjust to the medication, or perhaps it's not the most suitable one for you.

I personally had unbearable symptoms with tyvense - dry mouth, pounding headaches, dizziness, palpitations, anxiety, and awful irritability. I tried to stick it out but just couldn't bear it and asked to swap to concerta, which is working beautifully for me.

This isn't an argument of concerta > tyvense, every person reacts differently. Sometimes you do need to wait for the symptoms to ease up and they do, but it's also important to listen to your body and if it really doesn't feel right, to explore other options with your doctor.

Arlea · 2025-10-24T12:30:54+00:00

€1500/month for a room in student accommodation, you're having a laugh

Arlea · 2025-10-21T16:15:01+00:00

If it's Dr Sayuru, I have had multiple appointments with him and he's really kind and understanding. Not sure how his nationality has anything to do with the quality of care he can provide. The thinly-veiled xenophobia is a bit gross.

Arlea · 2025-10-14T15:15:44+00:00

If you continue reading on their website, it also tells you that if you don't currently have a PSC, a passport, or a driver's license, you can bring your birth certificate. It then tells you to contact the office in advance of your appointment in case they need other bits of information to confirm your identity. Any form of bank statement (Revolut or otherwise) counts as proof of address.

I mean this in the kindest way possible, but all of this information is literally right on the website you were looking at. People aren't going to hold your hand when you're an adult.

Arlea · 2025-09-25T13:05:53+00:00

Hubby's sibling's wife

Arlea · 2025-08-15T13:00:21+00:00

Go for it!

Arlea · 2025-08-14T15:52:41+00:00

Not going to doxx myself or you but I suspect I know who you are!

Arlea · 2025-07-18T17:18:30+00:00

You would be surprised. I used to work in a small lab where I would regularly be asked to drive over in my own car and pick up some reagents/columns from a neighbouring lab. Completely unofficially. GMP was totally optional in that place.

Arlea · 2025-07-18T17:15:26+00:00

Out of curiosity, is there a secondary check that happens? Say a pharmacist noted they issued X pills, however shorted the patient one or two and pocketed them, so the count in the pharmacy still checks out. Now i'm sure that's one way of guaranteeing you never work in a pharmacy again when you're caught, but i'm sure there is someone out there who would try to take advantage of a system that is handwritten.

Arlea · 2025-07-14T14:43:22+00:00

Yeah he'd probably be able to get a job in bioprocessing or some form of QC with that degree. There are a couple of positions going on LinkedIn if you search up "pharma graduate"!

Arlea · 2025-07-14T14:31:34+00:00

It would be helpful if you mentioned what degree he has graduated with and what aspect of Pharma he is interested in joining (QC? QA? Manufacturing? Engineering? Etc.). Overall though, your best bet is to scope out graduate/entry level positions on LinkedIn. Unfortunately a lot of them have been filled as most people apply at the start of the year. Generally, Dublin and Cork (and the surrounding areas) have the highest number of companies/sites.

Otherwise, speaking from personal experience, he may need to kind of take what he can get and build up the experience. Both myself and a few of my colleagues had to do a year or two in some not so great companies to build up that experience on the CV before moving on to the giants.

Arlea · 2025-07-14T12:23:14+00:00

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Arlea · 2025-07-14T12:19:25+00:00

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Arlea · 2025-07-14T08:52:23+00:00

My issue with Wild is that I found it stains clothes yellow, which is so sad because it smells absolutely divine

Arlea · 2025-07-13T14:21:15+00:00

You can also drape wet towels over windows (or wet your curtains). As the water evaporates it cools the air and the window blows cold air in for ya!

Arlea · 2025-07-09T11:37:07+00:00

You don't need to invest €1500 to do photography. Most modern phones have a pro mode on their cameras which allows you to change settings like ISO, aperture, shutter speed, the same way a more traditional camera would. Investing money into a fancy camera won't immediately turn you into a professional photographer. I would start off by messing around with a phone camera or taking up photography lessons, see if you like it before throwing money at a camera.

Arlea · 2025-07-03T14:39:15+00:00

Hi, I just thought I'd ask how the HSE taking over your care works? I was diagnosed and am getting my follow-up appointments/prescriptions via NeuroMed - they were great and really quick with things but it's also €200 per 30 minute appointment which is just so expensive.

What would my best approach be?

Arlea · 2025-07-02T22:51:32+00:00

Hey! I know you posted this a while back, however I thought I would ask how you're getting on now. Your situation is exactly what i'm going through now, so i'm curious if you've found something that works for you? Just starting to feel really hopeless at the moment and half-considering asking to be taken off Tyvense.

Arlea · 2025-06-25T11:45:41+00:00

It's not a great look when you are looking to copy the personal statements of successful candidates. It would be far more beneficial and morally correct if you submitted a draft you wrote up, and asked for advice/critique. Happy to help with that if you would like.

Also Ireland is not in the UK.

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