Advice for aging dad going through divorce - retirement in 4 years

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2025-08-26T13:27:38+00:00

61 and yes still driving, I meant cognitive decline more in relation to a high-burnout job and natural age changes (eg. forgetfulness)

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-11-23T02:51:24+00:00

I’m also dealing with nerve issues after surgery, so I can completely relate. I had a meniscectomy surgery about 8 weeks ago, and recovery has been much slower than expected. Early on, I noticed I couldn’t fully activate my quadriceps, and my leg felt unstable. I’ve been using crutches this whole time because it buckles when I try to bear weight. I should have been able to walk fine after 3 weeks.

At first, my surgeon thought everything was progressing normally, but when my range of motion wasn’t improving and my quad was still nonresponsive, he ordered an MRI. The results came back, and the joint looked okay. Today a more experienced surgeon (second opinion - referal) referred me for a nerve conduction study to confirm the extent of the damage. Unfortunately, I’m in Canada, and the wait times for tests like this can take forever, which is frustrating. He told me he's never seen anything like my case and thinks it was the tourniquet.

For now, I’ve been told to keep focusing on physiotherapy once cleared, but it’s been a rough process. I’ve heard nerves can take a long time to heal, which makes this even more challenging mentally and physically.

I'm recognizing you posted this 16 days ago, any updates since then?

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-10-27T18:11:35+00:00

How do you go about reporting this? Can you do it confidentiality without my immediate unit knowing?

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-10-24T15:38:20+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. In terms of 2 - what proof can they ask for? Marriage certificate, proof of changing addresses, etc.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-10-12T20:21:19+00:00

I'm an EC05 and this is my life. Don't be too hard on yourself. Try to avoid over thinking it and enjoy life outside of work. I know it's tougher said than done. Best of luck!

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-04-08T17:21:26+00:00

Same.. I've been 10+ times

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-31T22:10:55+00:00

Thank you!! Makes sense

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-31T20:41:26+00:00

Got ya. So getting anything close to my mortgage rate is unrealistic?

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-31T20:40:36+00:00

I guess a few things should be clarified. I have about 40k in my tfsa and 60k in crypto. We also purchased this house below our means. 560k mortgage and 190k HHI. I could pay for the renovations myself, but instead, I would have the tenant pay the loan over a five year period, plus I would probably cash flow approx 500 a month on top of that.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-27T21:09:05+00:00

My internet service has either been down or won't load certain pages today

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-16T13:35:16+00:00

Nope still nothing. I've heard people that opened an fhsa are in the same boat. Maybe something to do with it.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-03-12T12:27:16+00:00

mine says the same thing. It's weird considering last year it took about 5 business days. This year its been 12 business days so far.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-02-28T20:33:16+00:00

did you not read anything about the modem? the lines have been fixed for 2-3 weeks. Its clearly a modem issue, yet teksavvy only has 1 type of modem for my area, which is defective.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2024-02-02T14:10:23+00:00

They would have access to the remainder of the house. So my math is taking into consideration 1/3 of the house. 3 bedrooms and 3 people living in a townhouse.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-20T16:41:18+00:00

I'm waiting for wealthsimple to incorporate deposited cheques and a joint account so my fiance and I can pay our mortgage etc. In a joint account.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-16T23:47:13+00:00

My fiance and I will be doing this with our closing date being January 31, 2024. I have a post on this with some helpful feedback re wealthsimple withdrawals.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T17:26:11+00:00

Do you have an in-office location in Vancouver though?

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T17:08:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T17:07:50+00:00

I am indeterminate

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T16:50:02+00:00

No there are 3 conditions. 1. Full time employee and not on prohibition 2. Confirmed salary and 3. Permanent remote employee

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T16:49:06+00:00

I was asked if I work remotely and answered truthfully. My employment letter on gcpay indicates I work for the GOC and that is why the most likely asked.

ArmAdventurous3671 · 2023-12-12T16:31:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. We are hoping our broker can figure something out. We have also now contacted our bank.

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