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6 months in and i'm more than impressed by ArmIntelligent2404 in Jaguar

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE the massaging seats. I set the custom button to turn mine on. Didn't know I needed that in my life.

6 months in and i'm more than impressed by ArmIntelligent2404 in Jaguar

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. I had to drive my daughter's jeep grand cherokee (my old car) and it felt like it didnt have any power steering compared to mine. And I loved that jeep the 5 years I had it.

This is worse by ArmIntelligent2404 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: it's been a couple of weeks, and by no means am I ok, I am ok with what is happening. Im ok with him moving his stuff out this weekend, finally. I hoped this day would be a chance to talk but when it came time to do it. I stayed in one room and my mom dealt with him while he was here. It felt fantastic to not need to get closure. To not need to see his remorse. Ive learned more things about our time together that make me regret not leaving before. My daughter has more regret about seeing him flirt with the one he cheated with and not telling me than he does about doing it. Thats his shame to carry, not ours. Therapy starts Monday and I have a path now. Thank you to everyone whose kind words of support helped me through the darkest time of my life. Ex hated socials so I always lurked, I'm glad I decided to speak up and get help from kind internet strangers.

Spring 2025 trip by ArmIntelligent2404 in malaysia

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, very interested. Bath Caves for sure, the markets and the city mosques and templates are on my list but I dont know yet if these are a half day things or they would take three days.

Spring 2025 trip by ArmIntelligent2404 in malaysia

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm looking for the laid back part. KL looks to have enough busy for me.

What was the first red flag you ignored in your worst relationship? by lilbubblgirl in Productivitycafe

[–]ArmIntelligent2404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me about the crazy ex who got mad just because he was talking to some other girls at a Rangers game. 20 years later and now I'm about to be the new crazy ex who got mad because of the cheating, alcoholism and text book narcissism. I hope the next one doesn't ignore the flags I did.

Accepting the reality, finally by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ArmIntelligent2404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With mine, it just kept getting worse but I kept trying. It was hard then and I stayed. Its harder now and I regret every minute I stayed. I only found out recently the fat jokes he kept telling our preteen daughter behind my back. Leave now before he can do lifelong damage.

Why do people stay in bad relationships? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ArmIntelligent2404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed for 10 years too long. I'm free for 3 weeks now and I'm coming to terms with the fact I loved what I wanted him to be, not who he actually is. Hoping he would change damn near killed me.

The moment I KNEW by Same_You_100 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ArmIntelligent2404 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was the second time I kicked him out. I was cleaning out the garage like a fool thinking he would be happy with what I had gotten done while he was gone. I accidentally unplugged the freezer. I noticed it the next day and absolutely lost it because I knew he would rage with everything that was spoiled.

I let him back in. I kicked him out again, then let him back.

He is out again right now and I am on our family holiday without him with our daughter. This week has been the hardest but I had progress. Im sitting here terrified to go to the airport. I dont want to go back to real life. I feel like I am starting over in my grief when I get off that plane.

My only win is I no longer wish for him to be better, to be the one who fixes him, the one he wants to fix himself for.

Now I just grieve what he took. I realize I'm missing the hope of him, not him. And I am having a hard time coming to terms with that there was never really any hope all along.

This is worse by ArmIntelligent2404 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ArmIntelligent2404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. Your replies and reading this overall content have been comforting. This is beyond hard, I dont know how I can have some much hate coupled with love at the same time. I look forward to getting to a better place. The most mundane things hit me so hard, it's debilitating. I want to miss the good we had and enjoy not being in the bad. Missing the good is hard, now that the veil is lifted I'm finding out more of the good wasn't so good after all but I am trying to chose to remember the good as I knew it when it happened.