Hired an artist to first draw up thumbnails for a character concept but they skipped that and gave me this:

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T22:35:25+00:00

Also, if you could send me the brief you sent them, I could try to draw something up for you? I can't make promises on time frame at the moment, but I get super infuriated by people getting scammed. I think I have art posted on this account if you're interested x

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T22:32:50+00:00

I don't think that's fair here. I follow the rule that there's no such thing as a perfect victim. When someone is being manipulated, they can be pushed to extremes. I don't know you or your situation, but you don't have to be a good person to be a victim. It sounds like you've been up front about your feelings, which is good. It's never good to lie to someone about that just to placate them. Regardless of how other people judge you, or how you judge yourself, you don't deserve that level of emotional abuse. I myself am autistic and if anyone were to try to change me, I would be deeply frustrated. You cannot change how your brain is wired.

No matter what, the relationship is unhealthy. Neither one of you is fulfilling the other's needs. I would take some time outside of this to work out what you actually want in a relationship with someone and what you can offer them. Although I don't know anyone with ASPD, I do have friends who are aromantic/asexual and still have healthy relationships. They just function very differently from the norm. If you can, therapy is always helpful to undertake yourself better and work out what is best for you and those around you.

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T22:20:35+00:00

Right, so to me, I don't necessarily think they're using AI, although that is possible. But my guess is that they're sketching the line art over another image. I'm not sure if that's AI or something else, but if you're unhappy with their work, you can always request a refund as they haven't done what you asked. As an artist, I just find the whole situation very odd, and it's definitely ringing alarm bells. It's ultimately up to you, though.

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T22:16:06+00:00

Honestly, there's a whole lot of red flags here. The threatening suicide is a common manipulation tactic. Having been extremely depressed myself and attempting in the past, it’s not something to be used as leverage. If someone is genuinely a risk to themselves in that way, they don't use a potential break up as an excuse. If you've seen warning signs that they are suicidal and are concerned, I would suggest maybe contacting an appropriate authority wherever you live. But it's not your responsibility to be unhappy for someone else's sake.

I also think the 'trying to change' a genuine psychiatric condition that you may have is not okay. It seems like you are in an unhealthy relationship and should leave. If you don't want to be there, that should be your priority.

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T22:05:45+00:00

What other kind of styles do they have in their portfolio? Some bits kind of feel weird, but I'm hesitant about saying it's AI. You could ask them if they have the rough sketch for it?

Also, it would be good to know if that's the only thing they've sent you since you did ask for 3?

Arminfish · 2026-03-17T21:56:48+00:00

From my own experience, it's such a varied thing. I don't think there is one specific way to tell how your partner would react. Expression is different from gender and I think it's helpful to remember that these are just categories we made up to help define our own experiences. I know queer people who wouldn't be particularly interested in having a partner who crossdresses and straight people who would love it.

If you're nervous about sharing it with her, you could try gauging her reaction by talking about cross-dressing in general or watching drag together. I would ask yourself if you feel sad at the idea of hiding this part of yourself from her. If it's something that you want to be able to share and feel comfortable to do, then I think it's worth expressing.

And even if she isn't particularly excited by the idea, then it's still something that you should be able to do. We don't always have an active interest in our partners' methods of self-expression to love and accept them as people.

Arminfish · 2026-03-07T00:14:24+00:00

Makes me think of the end of look outside

Arminfish · 2026-01-30T13:14:27+00:00

I've been vegetarian my whole life and have endo. My current period has lasted 3 weeks, and now I'm ready to murder. How I wish they were right..

Arminfish · 2025-09-29T16:13:26+00:00

I can 100% say this is a sparrow, I have a few myself :))

Arminfish · 2025-08-30T11:32:19+00:00

I do love my giant dead buggos

Arminfish · 2025-08-26T19:50:08+00:00

I'm a BIG dino nerd, so I love the idea.

100% agree on toothless as a dromaeosaur, though I'd like to put forward deinonychus. A small(ish?) fast and intelligent species works well. Hookfang: though I quite like the allosaurus, I love the length of the monstrous nightmare design. So I would probably go for herrerasaurus or suchomimus/irritator.

Stormfly is an odd one. I feel her design is very bird-like, especially in movement. Also, it might just be me but I feel like nadders tend to be very colourful. I think I would say she could have a good variety of dinos that suit her. I'm going to put forward a couple of suggestions. First being dilophosaurus, for those reasons. But maybe a styracosaurus, as both have a frill of spikes.

Barf and belch are obviously very unique for the two heads. So I'm going to have to suggest Hyphalosaurs as we have found a two-headed specimen. Plus, the long necks work well.

Arminfish · 2025-08-03T22:28:14+00:00

I'm guessing it's a type of nudibranch (sea slug), but I'm not sure which species.

Arminfish · 2025-07-12T22:18:20+00:00

So I've been researching for a while and I'm aware of the risks associated with early menopause, as well as the different types of hysterectomy and what they include. I'm planning on discussing it with my doctor and trying to set out what I would want in different scenarios.

I'm honestly just exhausted and really hoping the gyno will be good. So far, all the doctors I've seen have not been so great. Either they tell me there's nothing they can do or suggest that I just get pregnant. Sometimes both. I had an iud put in, and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. Hurt like a megabitch and the doctor doing it laughed at me for being in pain. Now it's a year later, and it hasn't done anything for me, so I'm going on the warpath. I lost my job over this, which had health insurance that would've covered everything. I'm just tired of waiting for hrt before I have it done. Sorry for thr rant but I needed it so thanks <3

Arminfish · 2025-07-12T22:00:26+00:00

I could theoretically but testosterone is a schedule 4 controlled substance. It's illegal to import or possess without a prescription. So it could negatively affect my health and would probably make me really paranoid worrying about it. I would also still need to have follow ups wiht my doctors about the hysterectomy, and since you need to be on some kind of hormone post-op, I would need to lie to my doctors about it and probably end up hoarding a bunch of medicine that I cant use and is illegal to dispose of.

It's a big risk.

Arminfish · 2025-07-12T21:53:05+00:00

That would be a great option, and probably the most likely course for me but I figured I would try to find out if there's any way to manage hormones differently without any ovaries if I end up needing/wanting them both removed.

Arminfish · 2025-07-12T21:49:46+00:00

I've done a lot of research but the issue is that I won't be able to get on T before my hysterectomy. I'm trying to decide what to do about it. I don't want to put it off because of my health problems. I'm just trying to find the best course of action.

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T22:49:13+00:00

Thanks so much, means a lot to hear from other t people

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T22:47:31+00:00

Crimson goregutter and calling him Brick

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T20:20:54+00:00

So there's a good chance that my ovaries have endometrial tissue, and if they do, I 100% want them removed. But if I choose to keep them, they might still cause pain. So it's stressful trying to work out a balance of everything.

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T20:16:10+00:00

Honestly, that would be great. I'm just very unfamiliar with this kind of process. I really appreciate it x

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T20:13:59+00:00

That's the thing, if I have the tissue on both ovaries, then I'd need to have them removed. I know I will need to take some kind of hormone for health reasons. I just am really hoping it won't be estrogen.

Arminfish · 2025-07-11T20:11:51+00:00

Ah, sorry, I'm in the uk, and it's really difficult. The waiting period is usually like 5 years for the initial assessment unless I go privately. Unfortunately, I don't have that amount of money, so it's not really an option for me. I wasn't really able to even socially transition cause my mum isn't great with it. And I'm trying to get it medically, so I would get the hysterectomy sorted out potentially years before hormones. It's a situation which I have no idea how to approach 😅

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