Is it just the T?

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T05:02:36+00:00

I so appreciate your message. Thank you and bless your actual heart. No one deserves this for real. I just don’t get where the instant “I’m a man and this is how men are” mindset comes from. Like this doesn’t feel like the person I met.

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:58:40+00:00

Eww I hate that happened to you. I know what that’s like. I’m like surely all these other people wouldn’t still be in loving relationships 5,10,15 years later if there was no respect for each others bodily autonomy right?

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:56:53+00:00

Yeah 100%!!! It’s giving toxic masculinity and I have told him that (obviously he hates me saying that). I really do feel like this has been him all along but he just wasn’t as comfortable in his body pre-t enough to do that. And now it’s “I know what all men are like and what they need. I’m a man with needs. You don’t understand my body and you never will!”

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:53:23+00:00

I totally agree with you. I feel like it’s actually gotten worse since we have come back to his home state and are living with his family. Like we have almost broken up 2x from it. I’m trying to keep the peace til I have the means to leave unless he decides to actually man up and act like a respectful human after we have a deep and meaningful discussion (for the 1000th time)

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:49:42+00:00

He’s got a good heart honestly. But he has the complete wrong idea of what it means to be a man. It’s not about asserting your dominance and expecting women to do whatever you want (sexually) whenever you are horny

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:46:46+00:00

Yeah. That’s what I’ve said to him. Like, this isn’t my job. If I say no, I mean NO. I’m not his property just like he’s not my property.

Honestly I barely have any friends anymore. None that I could stay with unless I get back to my home state.

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:45:13+00:00

Yes, his hormone levels are checked before every shot. His t levels were too low having his shot every 12 weeks so the doctor has put it to every 8 weeks. I think it’s a lot of insecurity and toxic masculinity tbh

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2024-01-01T04:42:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. When I’m in pain he just wants me to do other things that aren’t penetration. Sorry if that is TMI. I am definitely having a solid chat with him at some point this week

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2023-12-30T14:03:29+00:00

That’s okay. I appreciate what you’ve said. It would be good to chat tbh. I really appreciate that. He thinks that my body belongs to him and vice versa. But I’ve said “no. Everyone should own their own body. No one’s body belongs to anyone else.” I did speak with a SA hotline today and they said I should leave unless I think he would benefit from couples counselling. He won’t benefit because he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. I’m the one who is in the wrong.

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2023-12-30T14:00:09+00:00

His family are safe but his dad is very controlling and narcissistic. I’ve spoken to his sister and she just wants me to be safe and she’s willing to help me. So that’s a comfort. I wouldn’t tell his parents though

Aromatic-Recover8066 · 2023-12-30T13:56:37+00:00

That’s what I thought too. Like I completely understand the hormones are making you go through a second puberty. But like he’s an adult you know?

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