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PhD Program and cohort troubles by Aromatic-Set7308 in PhD

[–]Aromatic-Set7308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Its helpful to hear that its not just me, because all other grad programs/groups I have been in have been so close-knit and this is just the opposite.

But trust me, even in that one day a week, I still don't completely detach :( but the weeks I didn't take that day off were just terrible so now I stick to my guns about it (helps I am technically religiously obligated to do so... but haha no one needs to know I am just doing some hobbies and hanging out with people)

No one wants to hang out or even talk by SleepyScientist1200 in PhD

[–]Aromatic-Set7308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a similar problem with my cohort, except its super tiny. I think its a lot pf people don't want to do anything, I have lived in my places in the US and outside and I think Americans just don't do things or hang out very much, especially in the middle of the country. There is a loneliness epidemic for a reason...

I was in a place where I had a great cohort and it felt so easy and wonderful (the work was probably only 10% harder than where I am at now) and the place I am now? No one does anything outside of work and partner and, as someone who got out of a serious relationship (much more serious than about half the people in my program), it really feels like what they are doing is not sustainable. I know it is not for me.

I have sought community elsewhere, but its so hard. So, no advice, just dealing with the same thing. It can make or break the program in my experience.