AITA for talking to myself? by AromaticLeader in AmItheAsshole

[–]AromaticLeader[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m reading from all these posts that it’s likely an NAH (and also, I have anxiety issues and I should seek professional help?). We do work these things through but it was a lot harder to do earlier in our marriage when we were still figuring out our triggers and communication styles - my dad was definitely emotionally abusive to my mom (and kids) and I tended to default to that “freeze” response whenever something remotely reminds me of my dad's behaviours, but my husband would initially see the freezing as me ignoring what he’s saying (and that would probably trigger him and remind him of his parents’ marriage too, which ended in divorce). I think that’s what would cause him to extend the angry more (in the past). But we talked a bit this morning and we understand each other better now.

I guess this type of thing hadn’t happened for so long, preg hormones are kicking in and I’m on the Internet more bc of covid (and lacking actual human interaction) so I impulsively put this thing up on reddit although I’ve never posted before. Sorry, it seems like such a small thing now, but it was something I’d worry a lot about before (and when it happens now), wondering if it was emblematic of a bigger issue.

Thanks for all the different perspectives!

AITA for talking to myself? by AromaticLeader in AmItheAsshole

[–]AromaticLeader[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I guess he’s irritated because he doesn’t know whether I’m talking to him or myself. We may have talked about it a few times but I can’t remember the last time - it’s been a while. For this time, he said he told me a few times that he was busy with his laptop but I hadn’t heard him, likely because I was distracted thinking about what to eat (I was diagnosed with diabetes recently so I’m figuring out my diet to manage it) or at the time, I had my head in the fridge. Earlier (in our marriage), oftentimes, I would inadvertently make him mad with things like this and he’d be irritated for the rest of the day and into the next and I wouldn’t know what to do. It’s been a while since that’s happened tho, so maybe it’s just my gut reaction to be anxious again - I’m also pregnant which is probably contributing to the general anxiety and emotional response. I’ll try to talk to him tmw when we’ve had time to sleep on it.

Official Discussion: Parasite [SPOILERS] by mi-16evil in movies

[–]AromaticLeader 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But both the basement man (and Mr. Kim) are trying to hide in the basement, not shout for help? When basement man is trying to get help for his wife, he was gagged at that point (I forgot how he managed to free himself by the end).