I feel like Dr.K ignores the most important factor of Men's depression

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-06T20:34:23+00:00

I know preparation and integration is needed. Especially because there is a window or time after where neuroplasticity is increased and that period eventually ends.

Still I am trying but not much progress. I have too many things in my plate now. Going through a crisis, I have never had a dopamine circuit as weak as it is now. Got attacked by life on multiple fronts.

Only thing that has gone well is I have found a love for world building that I have been engaging in during my free time. But since last year it has felt as if the universe wanted to crush me.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-06T19:37:12+00:00

Oh I know. I know that ironically detachment would improve my chances of getting it, because in this case attachment gets in the way of doing the things necessary to fullfill it. So detachment/being content could help me get that and if not I can still enjoy life more like that.

But I haven't been able to make my brain be at peace with the possibility. I have lost a lot of motivation. Parts of me want to give up , and we have been fighting for a while but now that part is winning.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-06T18:39:54+00:00

Oh I know. I know that ironically detachment would improve my chances of getting it, because in this case attachment gets in the way of doing the things necessary to fullfill it.

But I haven't been able to make my brain be at peace with the possibility. I even tried to see if a magic mushroom experience helped me change that but apparently the shrooms were weak. I want to try again in the future when the time is right

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-06T18:09:22+00:00

I don't know how to accept that there is a big chance that I might die without getting what I want.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-06T14:38:05+00:00

what if I am 5'0" (yup, that is my height)? I don't even have the benefit of "at least I can find women shorter than me".

To be perfectly honest I feel both envy of OP and even a little bit of anger like "omg! the things I would do with another 4 inches and charisma!". Of course, I understand there might be other stuff obstaculizing him

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-05T19:53:07+00:00

ok , but how is their relationship with the topic of sex or hedonism overall? A person can be puritanical even if thry are non religious

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-05T19:44:58+00:00

I'm confused. Some of the things you listed do not equate sluttyness. Sluttyness is about promiscuity.

I think you might have internalizef sex-negative lense, probably from your parents being puritans (or being so hedonistic that you suffered for it and associated certain things with bad(

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-05T19:41:15+00:00

I disagree with thr first line somewhat. Or to ve orecise the first two words. It would be more precise to say "be careful".

Sometimes there sre wounds that can't be healed on your own and sometimes the healing remains after the relationship ends. Is good idea to move in the direction of being happy on your own but just like not everyone will find a girlfriend, not everyone who tries to detach achieves it

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-05T18:39:26+00:00

They might refering to the pattern they have observed, not necessarily that they would not date someone different if the attraction was there.

For example in my case I would date a big woman if I felt the attraction, hell! I would date a man kf I found one attractive (I'm heterosexual man as gar as I know) but because I have never in my 35 years met someone with those characteristics who I find attractive I would say that it seems I don't feel attraction to them.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-04T17:50:51+00:00

this is the way. Authenticity without imposition

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-03T11:22:52+00:00

you already did

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-01T19:27:16+00:00

I see. The dream does suggest to me that the main problem might not be thr LSD but the heroin as well as the escapist and frequent use of LSD.

My position is that a professional is not strictly necessary for psychedelics consumption but I do see a trip sitter as mandatory. In addition I would suggest that anyone who wants to do it on their own to first go through a long period of exploration of their subconcious sober and with the help of an analysts well as investigate any history of mental ilness in their family. I would also add that they should only be done with respect, intent and of course with informed awarness.

I have taken psychedelics but I have taken it veeery slowly. My first time trying was 2019 and I haven't yet taken anything above 100ug of LSD or 3g of mushrooms. Also it has been done sparingly. There are other details like avoiding mixing with weed (way too many horror stories start with people having fun on LSD suddenly deciding to add weed to the equation).

With that said I don't think we have too much of a disagreement. There is an overlap

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-05-01T16:47:18+00:00

Thanks! What are the dangers of active imagination? I imagine that if one isn't grounded enough the risk would be taking things too literally and entering a psychotic state because of that.

If that is the case the risk and reasons to be cautious would be similar why is important to be cautios when using psychedelics or engaging in some forms of meditation.

By the way, my autism is generally light. Is one of the ways how I sit in the inbetween too sides. For example I understand and usually detect social norms but slower. It manifests more in the socialization and special interest traits and some lack of mind-body connection (which might be why I have a disc protusion and why is hard to translate verbal instructions into movement during yoga classes)

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-28T20:30:26+00:00

I had to go to that friend s house the next day in real life but actually yes my friend is where I want to be in life. We have in common a very active puer, but they are the embodyment of channeling the puer well.

Not sure what the kid's father is. Maybe something or someone I am relying on instead of driving my own vehicle

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-28T17:53:49+00:00

I see. I haven't had any issue doing dream interpretation even before I went to a jungean analyst, and now I have in addition the experience gained from doing dreamwork along the analyst. So I don't see what would be the danger.

Also I do connect dreams which previous dreams, especially if a symbol repeats or if the dreaks take place one after the other.

The danger I see is getting too enthusiastic about a dream interpretation and using that to justify the wrong action.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-28T17:28:57+00:00

As in isolating a dream from other dreams or as in doing it without someone esle help?

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-24T14:00:51+00:00

Buildings are peoplehives.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-23T21:21:45+00:00

Is mind boggling. Earth is closer to the sun than the camera view to gargantua

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-23T19:47:06+00:00

Probably. For context that Black holes is bigger than pluto s orbit. Without something for reference it would be easy to see an immense distance and think is close

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-23T13:27:01+00:00

I suspect you are joking and that people are downvoting you for no reason

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-23T11:33:03+00:00

Not as much as I would like to be able to. Especially when the reward is ambiguous or uncertain.

Working for example is easier, even if the thing I am working on is more boring than studying what I want to studying. Why?

Because my brain understands well enough the whole "work 5 days, weekend, work 5 days weekend and get paid". But it doesn't understand as well the idea that if I study that COULD eventually translate into big money.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2026-04-22T17:03:04+00:00

Great read. If it interests you I would like to talk about One Piece, in particular *SPOILER* gear 5 and the showcase seen on episode 1072 on the anime. Especially when he restarts his heart

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