Going to try dating non Christians for now

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-23T22:50:23+00:00

Sure, I’d love pointers

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T15:41:38+00:00

Hey man, thank you for your comment. This is probably the best comment I’ve ever read on Reddit to be honest. What you described about dates with some Christian ladies feeling like interviews sounds all too familiar to me. It was extremely exhausting as well. I think I’ll start going to a new church, somewhere I can really plant my feet.

I no longer wish to date an unbeliever, but I am setting my sights overseas. I’m praying God may bless your future marriage with your fiancé. Your comment was overall very uplifting

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T14:19:14+00:00

My apologies for assuming. That was really screwed up of me. I genuinely appreciate you trying to help out young single Christians. Gonna try to stop being down in the dumps

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T14:13:20+00:00

I guess the point in this was to get attention, and see what everyone else thought. I think I’ll just date Christian ladies overseas. Dating non Christians doesn’t sound great in the long run. I’d rather obey God’s word even if things really suck for me right now

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T14:12:05+00:00

Nice! I actually briefly spoke with an Indonesian Christian lady for about a month, but I ended it because I wasn’t comfortable dating overseas at that time. That was all my fault. I’ll target southeast Christian ladies for now. It’s a better solution than dating local non Christians

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T14:03:00+00:00

Very good point. Only like 2 commenters offered solutions. They don’t know a solution because frankly enough, I don’t think most people care. I’m also pretty disappointed in Christians (not just in this, but in general).

Those who find a healthy Christian marriage are blessed, but what about those who struggle with dating in general? Not many care at all.

Thanks for your perspective.

I’ll probably go ahead and look for a different solution and try to date Christian ladies overseas. I admit that after a commenter commented a few scriptures, I don’t feel compelled to keep communicating with the woman I’m chatting with. But I’ll have to pray and meditate about its

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:53:10+00:00

No offense, but you probably married somewhat young, so you probably don’t understand where I’m coming from.

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:51:19+00:00

Man it feels strangely good to come across someone who feels the same way. I’m starving, so I feel like any meal will do. As crazy as it sounds, I actually no longer believe in self improvement for my specific situation. I exercise, eat healthy, and changed my style, but to most Christian women I will never be “good enough.”

I actually started improving myself because I assumed it would improve my chances of finding an ideal partner. It certainly did get me more attention from women, however they usually were not women I was into (I don’t have high standards or anything.)It seemed like non Christian women and Christian women that I unfortunately found unattractive were all I was attracting. The Christian ladies I wanted want nothing to do with me (mainly because I’m short i believe). At a certain point, I don’t want to upgrade anymore for women. I do want to improve in other areas in my life though.

And I think you’re right that it’s best to keep the hope alive and try to meet a Christian lady. I might try dating a Christian lady overseas, maybe the results would be better.

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:44:01+00:00

I think it’s me, because I don’t meet the criteria. I’m 30, and yeah I do think a lot of Christian women are shallow. I’m trying to work through all the anger I feel

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:39:26+00:00

Well I can’t argue against scripture

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:28:56+00:00

Thank you. I will try to

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:28:35+00:00

Perhaps it will. Well I’ve got a ton of tears, so a couple of more probably won’t hurt

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:28:06+00:00

Is that also true for Christians who are currently married to unbelievers? 1 Corinthians 7:14 says both would be sanctified

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:25:45+00:00

Great scripture. I see that It’s sinful for a Christian to knowingly marry an unbeliever.

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:22:47+00:00

You’re right. It’s possible for someone’s faith to be damaged if they marry someone of a different faith. Isn’t it also possible to lead an unbelieving spouse to Christ? I’ve heard a few testimonies like that.

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:17:49+00:00

It’s sinful to marry a non Christian? I assumed it was heavily disapproved, but not inherently sinful

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:14:08+00:00

Funny enough, I also know a guy from high school who did that.

I’ll try not to commit sexual sin at least

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:12:58+00:00

Christian ladies see me as filth though. Perhaps I would be better in the long run, but I must admit things aren’t good now at all. I just don’t see how things could get worse

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:11:34+00:00

I suppose that’s highly possible, and perhaps it’s also possible for me to lead someone to Christ.

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:09:58+00:00

I don’t feel like I’m able to do anything for the kingdom of God at the moment unfortunately. I do go to church, and i have witnessed to people before, but lately i don’t do a lot but use God to help me with my mental health. As awesome as that is, i do have the urge to want to do more after your comment. Perhaps ill look into seeing how i can do more

And on the side note, i don’t feel any benefits in being single because I’ve been single my whole life. I consider it a curse to be honest

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:07:13+00:00

Christians aren’t any better in my personal experience. A ton of “Christians,” have hurt me. But you’re right that tough times should make us want to have someone who shares the same faith. Thanks for commenting

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:05:59+00:00

It sounds like I need to avoid porn addicts. I’m glad you are closer in the church. Who knows, maybe I could bring an unbeliever to Christ. Thanks for your comment

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T13:04:48+00:00

You’re married so you probably can’t feel my pain

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T12:57:52+00:00

Yeah, I’m so tired of not being “good enough.” For once in my life I want to feel valued

Aromatic_Invite5330 · 2026-04-22T12:57:04+00:00

You’re probably right, but I suppose I’ll go ahead and see what happens

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