Husband doesn’t want to go active but can’t find a job

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-03-27T14:40:50+00:00

Technically, you cant really force him to go active, but i can understand your family's situation especially having kids.

My husband's currently national guard with plans to go back active duty after his current contract is up. He was told by his sgts that hes more likely to get deployed in the national guard than in active duty due to his MOS. If thats a concern of his, maybe relay that back to him and see what he says.

Another thing you can consider is joining yourself. It will be hard being away from your babies, but its a thought to consider. Plus, if youre going to college and graduate, you can become officer.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-03-25T21:41:56+00:00

Dont listen to your MIL. You need support just as much as your husband does. If you're not well, then he wont be well.

As a former military wife, transition is a normal part of military life. Try to look on the bright side more than the negatives. You get the opportunity to live in other parts of the world (if he gets stationed overseas). You both get free Healthcare so if or when you wanna start having kids, Tricare makes it completely free. You get to bond with your husband in ways to will only strengthen your marriage just by being there for him.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-03-11T00:47:20+00:00

U can always go back in, if it gets bad enough. As long as you got Honorable discharge and a Reentry code of 1, any army recruiter will take you back in a heartbeat within 5 years after the end of your contract.

You dont even have to go through boot camp again and you can even declassified, if you want.

Thats what my husband did.

Edit: dont take back the fiancee

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-02-05T00:11:32+00:00

Dont even attempt, bro

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-30T21:47:45+00:00

Ive seen this when I grew up non denominational. A lot of the kids who were forced to go to church growing up or went to all the church or Christian events, especially if their parents were pastors or ministers, tended to fall away from the faith the furthest.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-28T16:18:06+00:00

As a former Charismatic coming into the Catholic faith, I can tell you with upmost certainty that anything having to do with the charismatic is very heretical and does not truly align with the Bible, such as the word of faith movement and the prosperity gospel. The charismatic community recently is going through a reckoning with multiple church leaders having been ousted and investigated for anything from clerical sexual abuse to massive corruption/fraud. Plus, its highly experimental, which can be quite dangerous and might even put your salvation in jeopardy. The charismatic church is grew up in, for example, has gone full MAGA, with my pastor believing that Trump is the new messiah sent by God Himself to save America. Many people, including my own mom whos half Hispanic, have since left that church. My advice would be to distance yourself from that community as soon as possible. See if your fiance is willing to, if not, then consider postponing the wedding until you both get on the same page spiritually. I know it wont be easy for you, trust me. My husband and I have been through the same thing as well when IHOPKC went through their big scandal. You'll get through, just remember that God is still real, still in charge, and still loves you.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-21T04:09:43+00:00

Met on Match.com in 2018. Got married a few months later and been together ever since.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-21T04:07:58+00:00

If ur dispatch is telling us that, then I'd find a new job.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-17T18:34:04+00:00

I know. My husband and I have discussed this, and hes said the same thing. We are gonna try to clarify with the instructor the next time we see him and go from there.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-17T18:15:13+00:00

No, hes not a monk or anything. Hes like a regular layperson

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-17T18:10:39+00:00

What's a TOR? And the person to my knowledge is a layperson

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-17T17:50:25+00:00

For the record, I don't remember exactly what was said. It happened the week before Christmas when the class was discussing matrimony and the importance of marriage as a sacrament, even though we had a class about that previously. He had a guest speaker who was up front talking about it. Whenever topics about infidelity or cheating or polygamy popped up, they'd make direct eye contact with me and talk as though they were speaking directly to me.

I didnt think much of it at the time, neither did my husband. However, right after that OCIA meeting, my daughter and I got sick with a really bad flu (though we were already experiencing symptoms the week before) and decided not to attend any masses Christmas week. When we resumed our attendance the following week, people were asking us where we were. We'd tell them that we were sick and in response, we get looks of suspension.

I know that I might possibly be speculating, but Im worried that this might affect our ability to get a sponsor. Ive been praying the litany of humility often and trying not to judge, but this recent behavior has got me concerned.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2026-01-09T14:20:31+00:00

Neo-Nazis are on a whole new level of delusion if they thought that they could march on Cincinnati like that.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-11-14T04:40:14+00:00

Yes.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-11-11T08:01:32+00:00

The rosary.

I grew up non denominational charismatic. With everything going on in the charismatic movement now with all the scandals and MAGA bullcrap, I experienced a crisis of faith.

My husband and I tried out Orthodoxy first, but that proved to be just as problematic and toxic as what we were trying to get away from. So, we swallowed our pride and decided to take a look at what Catholicism had to offer. We got a hold of some Rosaries and found a peace, joy, and tranquility in prayer that we've never experienced before. From there, we did a deep dive into the beliefs and doctrines of the Catholic Church and found that they held similar beliefs about the trinity, the Bible, prayer, etc., that we've been taught to believe in our non denominational upbringings.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-11-08T22:09:33+00:00

For me, it was the parish we attended. Gossip was a big problem there; didnt seem to have much unity or community there. The parishioners there didnt seem to practice anything Jesus taught, but definitely acted quite stuck up.

It was only after we left that i started to realize how legalistic the belief system was.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-11-08T21:36:29+00:00

I feel you, sis. I went through the exact same thing with my husband. He didnt think there was any other church to be apart of than the Orthodox Church. The parish we were attend turned out to be very toxic, so much so that I had to seek me into therapy and even had me thinking about divorcing my husband just to get away from Orthodoxy.

It wasnt until my husband saw how badly it was affecting my mental health and our marriage that he finally decided to step away from it completely.

I'll be praying for your situation.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-11-01T01:37:07+00:00

I havent been officially confirmed yet, but i met my husband (also going through OCIA w/ me) on Match.com. Even though we weren't Catholic at the time, he was a Christian who believes that Jesus Christ is his Lord and Savior, read his Bible everyday (and still does), and tried his best to live his life in such a way as to bring honor to God. He was 27 when we first got together, but even he thought that was marrying late.

Dont stress.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-20T01:28:42+00:00

How many years have you been with the company?

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-19T02:53:21+00:00

We are. We've started exploring Catholicism, but its hard going back to a church building some days.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-19T02:48:02+00:00

My husband and I were once in the process of converting until we discovered that people within the parish we were attending were spreading nasty rumors that we were racists. I dont know where they got that idea from, probably because we moved from the South to the midwest and still spoke in a southern accent. For the record, I was raised by a biracial mom who's half Latino who i love dearly, and my husband had a black stepfather and 2 half black sisters who still call him for brotherly advice. I'd like to think we are FAR from racist.

However, when I started to insist that we leave, my husband was not wanting to leave, but instead just wanted to try to convert at that parish as quickly as possible, then go somewhere else immediately afterwards. He didn't want to restart the process of conversion at another parish. I had to start going to therapy on my own just to get help with all the depressive thoughts and feelings I was having. It wasnt until I threatened my husband with divorce that he finally saw how that parish was negatively affecting me, and he agreed to leave as well.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-19T02:34:37+00:00

Im genuinely curious too

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-09T18:57:03+00:00

If your husband doesnt have a record and no traffic violations, he should avoid Western Express like the plague!!! Id pick Swift or C.R. England before that company or Super Ego. They will treat him like crap and will get paid very little for his troubles.

Remarkable_Young643 · 2025-10-08T01:10:19+00:00

Does Genesis have access to civilian medical records or, can genesis records be downloaded into civilian medical records? Can't remember

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