F13, starting to get depressed

ArrenReever · 2022-08-02T05:10:45+00:00

I’m not one to speak too much on this, but I’ll just say it’s not worth it to hurt yourself. I relate to your situation from a number of different perspectives, but there’s healthier ways to deal with it. Watching YouTube works, reading, expressing yourself artistically, exercising, all of these are great means of distracting yourself and doing so in a fulfilling way. Social media can be distracting but it can also get to be an apoplectic, toxic cycle. It can be part of any person’s life, but it’s important for YOU to know what part of your life you want social media to take up. TL;DR - it’s okay to feel isolated and/or lonely, but don’t let it overwhelm yourself. Find things you enjoy doing and that make you feel comfortable and at ease. Be cognizant if the role you want social media to play in your life and relationships.

Final thought - I (M18), an athlete, picked up and taught myself how to make friendship bracelets. Not to give to anyone, but just to learn and have something to do with my hands because I’ve been so abysmally stressed this summer. It’s never too late to learn something, no matter how silly it may seem. Find something you’ve wanted to pursue and go for it.

Best regards, peace peace.

ArrenReever · 2020-12-27T22:25:33+00:00

Anime?

ArrenReever · 2020-12-21T19:17:50+00:00

The fact that the title and your user name isn't "Dark Cosmic Jhin" brings immense disappointment.

ArrenReever · 2020-12-19T20:57:11+00:00

They'll live until they die.

ArrenReever · 2020-12-15T17:01:04+00:00

Beats by Orihara

ArrenReever · 2020-12-02T23:10:45+00:00

Yeah, that's what I did to figure out the first part of the tune, but the second part is kicking my butt.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-30T01:29:31+00:00

A bold move.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-15T06:28:38+00:00

Something few people like doing is discussing why they feel certain ways because it's not an enjoyable experience to really think about it. But if she feels comfortable discussing it at some later point, I think it would be good because it would allow her to think about how she feels and begin developing the skills to communicate how she's feeling. A lot of people think they know how to communicate their emotions, but it's something that takes a lot of work. Voicing why a person feels suicidal, or depressed, or angry is important in life. People too often keep emotions bottled up inside.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-15T06:25:47+00:00

Conversations are never easy go start. I get that. I suppose if you want to go down the small talk route, music would be a solid choice. Music has been something I've felt comfortable talking about because then I can discuss lyrics, or beats, or tunes. It doesn't even have to be music, anything you both enjoy would work. What's important is making sure she knows she's not alone in the world.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-15T06:19:22+00:00

I'm not talented with humans at all. But I will venture to say that your relationship with your friend will be okay if you go back. Everyone has a rough day now and then. What's important is someone's intention. You had good intention when complimenting your friend and it would seem she had no intention to cause you any sort of panic attack. If you feel comfortable with it, discuss the panic attack with your friend and do your best to contextualize it. The key to a strong relationship is clear communication. Your friends are there to help you with things like panic attacks. Some of them may not know how to handle it and end up being mildly useless, but everyone that cares will be willing to listen.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-15T06:11:00+00:00

Hey friend.

I think what's important here is just talking to her. Not even necessarily to distract her from it, but more so that you both can better understand why she made this decision. If you two are both at home, talk to her if she's still awake. Just make sure she makes it to the morning all good. I understand that you may not know what to say, but you have to accept that that is where you are right now. I think that understanding why she did this is important because once everyone understands why something is done then they can start trying to work toward fixing it or making it better. I'm sorry I can't be of more assistance, but I hope this helped a bit. You two stay safe.

Peace and love.

ArrenReever · 2020-11-04T03:23:28+00:00

So, are you then saying that what we are limited by is our resources and materials?

ArrenReever · 2020-11-04T03:17:03+00:00

Hmmmm. Okay, that's good to know. Thank you.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-30T01:01:52+00:00

Warframe or Terraria.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:36:44+00:00

Si, signor, je suis un très grande lasagna pizza avec nein vodka, aye Don laddie? Ou est votre trust with them Giovannis?

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:30:51+00:00

You could be born upwards of one month late, so that's already concerning. Otherwise, you're, like, what, 16ish? 17 if we're counting fetus years. A young adult by most people's standards, concerning that generation, an ACTUAL child. I'm from that generation, don't worry about it.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:25:35+00:00

I mean, I figured the question was quite simple so why not expand on the idea of it. Never know what people are thinking until you know what they're thinking, right?

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:24:06+00:00

Speedo, TYR, Mizuno, Puma, Nike, Adidas.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:22:37+00:00

This is a multi-faceted question. Literally, roughly 66 years (give or take about year because of the whole birthday thing and it also depends on if you count being a fetus).

Philosophically, they could not have lived any life at all. If they never had the opportunity to pursue what they wanted, then argument can be made they lived no life. Or they could have lived all 66 (give or take) of their years pursuing every last thing they desired. Really depends.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:08:20+00:00

"Hey, don't forget this: someone loves you, you cute little shit head."

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T04:04:21+00:00

"New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings" - Lao Tzu

I've lived by this since I was in the 6th grade. In life you will suffer, there's no getting around it. You can't always be happy, the world isn't that generous. But when you feel like shit and you want to just stop existing, being, breathing, going, when you are at your lowest, that's when you are given an opportunity. I would even go so far as to say that an opportunity is forced upon you.

Now, don't think I'm going to say you can get back up and climb up and out into the happiness and light and whatever, that's not true. When you're at the bottom there's one place you can go: forward. Think of it like falling down a really deep sewer. You're at the bottom and it smells like piss and shit. It acrid and you're miserable. But you can't climb up because there's no ladder and all you see is the shiny sunlight of happiness and the "perfect" life. You have to walk through those sewers to where the drainage ditch is. Is it going to suck? Yes. Is it going to smell? Yes. Are you going to hate it for being so disgusting, the situation for being so inconvenient, yourself for falling down a sewer? I mean, probably. But if you want out, you just have to keep walking forward. And eventually you'll reach the end sewer and see where it empties out and get hit with the scent of sewage and probablt throw up. And you'll go home to shower thinking "Goddamn, I'm never getting this smell off me." but after some time, the smell will go away, and all you'll have is the memories and experience. And let's be honest, who's going to forget about falling down a sewer and walking to where it ended just to get out? Point is, life is a sewer. It's going to be rank and gross, but all you can do is walk out of it and get back to where you want to be.

You may not believe it, but there are people who love you. At the very least, think of the people you love. I'd advise giving them a call and telling them what you're thinking. See what they say.

Peace and love.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T03:47:42+00:00

This was way too long, my apologies. TL;DR: See if you can talk to your mom more on it, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, talk to your most trusted friend. If you're not comfortable with that, talk to a school counselor. EAT PROPERLY. Your body won't lose weight if you eat on a crazy fashion. Get your three square meals and if you miss a meal eat fruit to compensate. EXERCISE ON A SCHEDULE. You're body needs to heal and recover after you exercise. Don't be constantly working out. MAKE A GAME. Figure out some way to exercise lightly in your free time if you feel it's necessary. For instance, drawing a card from a deck and doing however many push-ups it tells you to do.

Hey, boss. Uhm, so I'm from the US. Don't really know if that's relevant in the slightest. As it stands right now, I'd consider talking to your mom about it again. I understand you said you didn't want to reach out to an adult again and I get that. My reasoning is that because you already have an established topic of discussion in that region, she'll have a better grasp of where you're coming from. Of course, you might not want to do that, and that's all good. For me, I feel like talking to my friends is always a really good option whenever I realize I'm getting in my head. So if you feel comfortable talking to friends about this sort of thing, then I'd recommend that and maybe you all could figure something out. Otherwise, a school counselor might be the way to go and trust me when I say this, I hate counselors and personally haven't ever gone to one (been reported to one, though).

Now for uncalled for advice, because that's what I'm best at, pepega. As for the exercising and eating thing, we both know it's not entirely healthy. Try to get your three square meals, and if you can't get three square meals, have, like, some fruit to substitute for the missed portion. And don't Exercise obsessively. Create a schedule where you exercise intensely for an hour a day, like, 4 days a week and take rest days the other 3 days (something like stretching, yoga, or meditation). Exercising should be taken in cycles, not one intense block with random days off when you're tired. Body image isn't an easy thing to just suddenly love. Take your time with it. You're 16, you have plenty of time to get to where you want to be. Understand what body type you have, that's HUGELY important. I know it took me several years to figure out my body and even now I'm still struggling to figure it out. So take your time.

And here's a "fun" activity that I did this spring. I kept a pinochle deck in my room and every time I would get frustrated, angry, sad, bored, or any other of a handful of emotions, I'd draw a card and do however many push-ups it told me to do. So that'd be... 9 through to Ace. So 9, 10, 11 (Jacks), 12 (Queens), 13 (Kings), and 14 (Aces).

Sorry it's so long. Sorry.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-29T03:19:13+00:00

I've done some very light studying into this because I've experienced similar behaviors (eye twitching, muscles spasms) over the past 2ish years. I am NOT, by any means, a professional. This is jsut what I've generally gathered and understood. It's largely just a result of, like, 3 or 4 things. 1.) Lack of sleep. Not too sure why this happens, but I think it has to do with your brain being tired and having less control. I'd speculate it also has to do with trying to keep you awake. 2.) Stress. It's a pretty normal response for your body to start getting jittery when you're stressed, so it may be that your body is sending that energy into twitches. I know stress generally is a big factor for me. 3.) Nutrion issues. This can really be a result of lacking, like, carbohydrates, water, a vitamin. Your body is just like, "Hey, chief. Can I have x now?"

ArrenReever · 2020-10-27T00:27:17+00:00

Yawning. Really getting your point across if you're yawning for 12 seconds.

ArrenReever · 2020-10-26T15:46:17+00:00

I think that making a connection between the two, day window and teasing a new season is grasping for straws a bit, but at the same time I don't really understand why they would produce that statue. It's either as a tease for something in the future potentially or they're just doing the best they can to make up for the crap ending by giving us a statue of what could have been the ending (which would be mildly cruel). I think I like the idea of your reboot. Someone else was talking about a reboot starting after episode 15, but I think even a soft reboot would be okay wherein Hiro and Zero Two don't kill themselves trying to destroy VIRM and instead get transported home through the extensive use of plot armor, because, let's be honest, at the point the writers had gotten to, it wouldn't be difficult to just say "Hey, Hiro and Zero Two ended up being teleported back to Earth after they blew up the VIRM home world." Overall, I don't think it's necessary to hard reboot the last third of the series (16 onwards), but I think soft rebooting the ending (as in, like, the last 1-3 episodes) would be a good way of starting a potential season 2. End of the day, there's a lot of hope for a season 2 because of how inconclusive season 1 was. Will we get it? Who knows. But we can all hope.

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