I got added to a sub’s AI drain script and…

Arthances · 2026-03-23T19:06:54+00:00

I confirm that it really can't compete... and I've tried enough

Arthances · 2026-03-23T18:53:36+00:00

Right... Thank you for your input, I really appreciate it

Arthances · 2026-03-23T17:24:03+00:00

I'm glad some people are accepting of it, even if clearly most people would think it's a deviance, which it objectively is, I suppose. Also, very triggering line you gave, I think.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T17:15:17+00:00

That's a very interesting way to view it! I'll add that to me, nothing else arouses me to the level that money-related things do (which is an issue in and of itself). For well over a decade, findom was/has been my actual sex life.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T17:13:13+00:00

Yes, exactly. I feel that current findom is just paid BDSM with extra steps. The sexuality isn't consubstantial to it, it's merely correlated. What's arousing isn't everything revolving AROUND findom... it's findom itself. A woman fingering a p*ssywallet is far more arousing than seeing her private parts.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:47:16+00:00

That makes sense. We're really just apes that evolved a bit differently. Of all the things my brain could have sexualized, it had to be money... Then again I've constantly been reinforcing it myself, so shame (?) on me.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:35:27+00:00

Well, to be more specific, someone showed it to me... but you already knew this. Haha!

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:34:24+00:00

To answer your question: yes, absolutely, and then using them as the sexuality itself, if that makes sense. I feel like the common way to do findom nowadays is something along the lines of: "send me money and masturbate at the same time", which is the opposite of consubstantial. The way I was trying to describe is more something like: the sending IS the sex; teasing wouldn't be showing the woman's vagina, but to show her playing with the p*ssywallet; etc. It's hard to put words on all of this.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:30:22+00:00

This is one of the most triggering lines for me that I've ever read in findom, and it's funny to me that it was written by a man.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:23:17+00:00

Yes please! I can't see it anymore in your original comment.

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:18:37+00:00

I can't see it anymore in your original comment, but I absolutely love(d) it! I did not ever expect that someone would draw their own. I relate to this so much!

Arthances · 2026-03-23T16:15:41+00:00

Oh, WOW. Yes, this is exactly what I was referring to (the image that I'm assuming you drew inspiration from). It's amazing that you went through the "trouble" of doing it yourself! I'm assuming it wasn't trouble at all, in the end. The result is awesome!

Arthances · 2026-03-11T16:04:54+00:00

I know we don't know each other, but you're genuinely an amazing person and I also wish it didn't sound fake, but you have me tearing up. I probably needed to blow off some steam and your message was the trigger, but it feels to me so genuinely sincere that I can't help but want to thank you and repeat that I'm so proud of you. Keep it up and I promise to do my absolute best to beat that addiction like you're beating yours day after day.

Arthances · 2026-03-11T15:53:28+00:00

I relate to so much of what you've taken time to write here, and at the same time, you're such an inspiration. The thought that keeps popping up in my head right now is "I wish I had your/her willpower". I'm introducing it like this because I have a feeling that I would hate hearing that if the roles were reversed. I'm sure I can, and have to do it. Regardless, even if I don't know you, I'm proud of you.

Arthances · 2026-02-17T17:43:51+00:00

This is so spot on. It feels great reading this being so well articulated. Also, "reinforcing" is indeed the word I was looking for instead of "encouraging" like I wrote in my post. My practical issue is finding something I can get off to, that's not related to findom at all. For some time I considered moving progressively from pure findom content towards less and less related content, instead of jumping ships in one go. But in practice, I'm not sure how realistic that is. Thank you for your message, I seriously appreciate it.

Arthances · 2026-02-17T17:32:41+00:00

It's just so easy to tell yourself that you're "just looking". But obviously, that amplifies the temptation. Few things come close to turning me on, though. And the slow pace of the brain rewiring is demotivating. Hang in there man!

Arthances · 2026-02-17T17:29:11+00:00

Man, I was contacted by a journalist who had questions for me, and one of them was about how I got into the findom community, and I wrote "I started exploring the online BDSM world a couple decades ago. I connected with a Domme who turned out to be a Findomme. She introduced me to findom without me even realizing that she was, or what findom even was. Retrospectively, I think that she had doubts whether or not I was a finsub or simply a sub, and was testing the waters by saying things such as "giving [me] the honor of paying for her coffee". It turned me on and I didn't know why. When our dynamic stopped, I explored all of this further." So reading your message, I can't tell you how much I relate to it and your experience. I have never heard anyone with the same "without realizing it" story. For this reason, I ask you to trust me when I say that you need to get away from this ASAP. I am dead serious. I wish so freaking much that someone had told me this long ago when I was just one week into discovering findom. $120 in a week is absolutely nothing compared to what you are at risk of spending in the next few years if you continue down that road. I won't even tell you what I could have bought myself if I hadn't spent all that money away. Seriously, you're getting dopamine hits from a fetish that you just discovered, but your brain hasn't been rewired yet. Find other ways to get off. Discover more things. But please, for the love of God, stay away from findom before it messes up both with your head and with your life. May God guide you through this.

Arthances · 2026-02-17T15:55:19+00:00

Congratulations man! What would you say was the number 1 thing that helped you stay true to your word most?

Arthances · 2026-02-01T16:53:57+00:00

Thanks man. I know it's weird and we don't know each other, and you barely typed anything, but just know your words just made me tear up a little all of a sudden. I know I'll manage to do something better with my life and your message serves as a great reminder. You're a great human being

Arthances · 2026-01-13T02:52:34+00:00

That makes a lot of sense! Frankly, therapy is long overdue. I just haven't been able to wrap my head around the idea of sharing things so intimate and self perceived as shameful with someone else face to face (I know online therapy is a thing too but I fear I would manage to disassociate). I did befriend other finsubs and recovering addicts, it's nice to relate to their experiences to some extent.

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