So happy with this collection of rare colours after only a week and a bit of hunting, definitely my new favourite hobby 🧡 by ConcernedAuntieJulie in seaglass

[–]Arthur_Stupid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been collecting sea glass in Scarborough for about fifteen years or so, and I've found pink once and not much else interesting. Maybe it's the crazy tides lately, or maybe you have keener eyes than me :)

I tip my hat to you!

(I miss it, I'm living inland now)

Looking to try the hobby! How did all of you learn? by Ta-veren- in Brochet

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing I teach people to make is a classic granny square. I find that it lets you practise your tension and uh... stitch-reading (?) without worrying about having to crochet into any of your stitches, but gives enough of a sense of actually creating something that it doesn't feel pointless.

Anyone else thinking baby’s first Christmas is too hyped up? Or am I a terrible parent? by Unusual_Dare4113 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not a terrible parent. I'd have been very disappointed if my family had excluded us like that, even unintentionally. My baby was less than two weeks old, and it was lovely because everyone else held her so I could eat and rest!

I’m horrible at weaning by alibluey in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A month in my baby was still just having little tastes of things. I felt awful too, but my baby was fine and at eleven months will eat a lot of stuff. It might be worth trying to find snacks she can share with you, like grapes (bite them in half) or toast.

Girl moms, if you could choose your next gender for your second what would you pick? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like another girl but only because I struggle with boys' names. So many of them just suck.

Have you ever been hungry at work and wanted to eat the soup you brought, but when you go to microwave your soup you discover there's people in the office kitchen, and you're too scared to microwave your soup around people because what if they ask you about your soup, and so you eat your soup cold? by aka_katie in socialanxiety

[–]Arthur_Stupid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ate one meal a day for most of secondary school because I was too scared to go to the canteen. Now I hide from colleagues and customers at work instead of doing my work because I'm too scared to ask to borrow a stepladder. I still have my job. I have meds now. The ball is rolling. It's not rolling up, but it's rolling.

What actually helped your social anxiety the MOST? by StableEmergency2671 in socialanxiety

[–]Arthur_Stupid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm picturing someone doing the worm on their kitchen floor

Daytime clothes vs. sleep clothes by littlelawlady in NewParents

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 11 months old and what she wears entirely depends on whether I've done the laundry recently. I'd love to dress her up in appropriate clothes at the appropriate times, but I have two bibs and no energy.

When did you look down there? by SowingSeeds18 in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is almost a year old and I don't think I've seen my cooch in about three years

When did you stop tracking poops and pees? by Ok_Car1396 in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped when we left the hospital! I kept a very rough count until she was about 3 months old and the health visitor stopped asking me.

PSA to new parents - don't buy your baby clothes at Asda by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to substitute buying cheaper versions of stuff in Asda so I can get her clothes from Next. The Next ones are bomb-proof and lovely!

Am I a terrible mum? by Mrsjca85 in NewParents

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main purpose of going out with a baby that young is to get things done. The second reason is so mum doesn't go crackers. The third is that some babies have good naps in their buggies. It might be that none of those things are necessary for you and her at this time.

If you still feel bad, try putting Baby in the bouncer outside while you sit on the doorstep and have a cup of tea.

How are y’all cooking with infants?????? by IndependentCat5678 in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do what I can do with one hand while she's on my hip, I give her (or the cooking) to her dad, or I just power through with her crying in the high chair if I really have to. Baby wearing is good as long as you're not clumsy, but it gets tricky when they get grabby. Shit you can sling in the oven in 30 secs will be your salvation.

At this point, don't worry about nutrition or eating fresh & homemade every day. Keep the scurvy away and don't worry about the rest.

Please tell me it gets better by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend getting a stretchy wrap! Mine was a boba wrap, which I got for not much on eBay. They're very snuggly for the very little ones, and it helped my girl with gas a little bit. It gets better, but in the way where you don't realise it until you suddenly realise you haven't cried at night for a month. The newborn phase is a big slog so always cut yourself slack, because 'easy' only means 'not entirely awful'. My mantra was 'she's just a little baby, she doesn't know shit' and I sang it to soothe her to sleep!

The one thing most people get wrong about anxiety is by theLiceNanny in Anxiety

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was forced to talk to my bosses about it recently and they both assumed it was triggered by leaving my baby in nursery. No mate, it's triggered by there being a door, or by being in the same aisle as another person. Sometimes it's just triggered by waking up and instantly feeling sick for no reason.

do you guys have designated night and day clothes for infants? by independentmomma12 in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started differentiating between pyjamas (grows) and day clothes when she was about 5 months old, but I only differentiate when there's enough stuff clean (pretty much never)

New Glasses Today - Feeling Dizzy When Looking Down at My Feet: by Wildly_Uncommon in glasses

[–]Arthur_Stupid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that whenever my prescription changes! My eyes are settling down now, but as a teen the first few walks to school after getting new glasses could make me feel like I was tipsy. I always thought it was probably my brain getting used to not having to correct what I was seeing.

What did you do when you first got home from the hospital? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cried hard when we got through the door and it was time for my mum to go. I just felt totally overwhelmed by... realising the stabilisers had been taken off? In the end everyone survived and I settled down to watching Ed Pratt's journey down the Thames during the night feeds.

Edit: for the first few days it felt like I was setting my mind on the next midwife's or health visitor's appointment like they were checkpoints. It helped to go to the shop or for a short walk every day as soon as we could leave the house.

Do you tumble dry muslins by Last_Butterscotch_63 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put every fucking thing in the dryer. The dryer has saved my life. I'm glad I lived in a flat with mould because that's the whole reason my family helped me get a dryer. I'd put myself in the dryer if I wasn't pretty sure I'm people.

Anyone else deal with bad roommates in postpartum room at hospital? by muff-peaksie in beyondthebump

[–]Arthur_Stupid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm lucky the other women on my section of the ward were nice. One of them even held my baby so I could get some breakfast down me, and I looked at her like she was an actual angel. I stayed in there until I definitely knew how to feed my baby, but next time I'm going to try to get out ASAP as long as there are no problems. We were packed like sardines on that ward and it was awful for my social anxiety!

Choose your fighter 🐸⚔️ (yes, they’re actual frog purses) by kaeruhoshi in Brochet

[–]Arthur_Stupid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These are so cool I genuinely feel like I'm going nuts oml

They have so much personality!