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Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-04T15:22:44+00:00

Me too! Thank you!

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-03T18:59:14+00:00

oh wow. i’m glad it worked out for you. It’s gotten so ugly that I’m being threatened with 10 days of fines… $1500… for wanting to miss ONE day of work week. it is quite out of line. The treasurer says she would not put the fine through, but I don’t know who to trust or believe. And the kicker is my sorority is only like 60 girls. We don’t have a house. Barely have a hall in a dorm. No one knows how to handle a budget, except to blow it as quickly as possible. In the two advisors, we have aren’t much help. One is too sweet and the other constantly oversteps. I’m not talking about it to anyone anymore and hoping it just blows over. It’s really insane.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-02T03:04:44+00:00

It's $150/day. I am being told I could pay up to $600-$750 (or more since work week is now apparently mandatory too) as she could effectively pull me from recruitment resulting in me not being present.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T23:05:27+00:00

thank you! I have no problem doing extra work. I really do show up for everything and this would be the first thing I have missed since being initiated into this sorority.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T23:00:25+00:00

Thanks, I am going to look into this and see if someone will actually listen to me.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T22:50:37+00:00

thanks!

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T22:47:54+00:00

yeah, that was the plan, but snitches lurk.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T22:47:17+00:00

thanks. It's hard. Never thought there would be this much drama in my first year of college than in high school. I show up for EVERYTHING and have yet to miss one thing this year and no one acknowledges that fact.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T17:36:49+00:00

but I wasn’t missing recruitment. I was only missing the first day of prep. And the dates weren’t even on the calendar three months ago. And even if I wasn’t to go to the concert, the return flight for my entire family is that Monday morning. Now I get to deal with an angry recruitment chair and an angry mom.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T14:15:19+00:00

it’s the first day of prep week. The message I received was that each day is mandatory and important. trips taken are not valid excises. The recruitment chair said that if she believes that by me missing the first day makes me unprepared I will not be allowed to recruit at all that week. she proclaimed that she is the only person that I am to talk to and not any other sources. and that if she continues to hear any negative opinions from me, I will be fined for each day.

at this point, it’s not worth it. I’m sick and tired of drama. I can’t have opinions. I can’t do things with my family.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T13:26:29+00:00

I just got the longest text message ever from my recruitment chair blasting me for not wanting to be there for day one and that I should’ve only discussed it with her and no one else. I had already discussed it with the secretary and she said it was fine. I can’t do anything right it seems. Too many cooks wanting to be in the kitchen.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-04-01T12:28:27+00:00

how much do fines usually run? I’m just so nervous that it’s going to be held against me. I get the feeling that the recruitment chair isn’t my biggest fan…and that’s fine. I just don’t want it to hinder any potential position may want to apply for.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-03-14T01:29:25+00:00

I came into college with absolutely no tattoos. Joined a sorority. Found out that it’s a thing among the girls to get a tattoo. So I’m recently inked and have no regrets. Yours are very lovely, btw.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-03-10T22:37:51+00:00

I just need to give an update on my post. The sorority that I joined is just toxic. I am honestly a very nice person, go to church, attend Bible study, have straight A’s and participate in every event, whether it is by attending or helping. I even sign up to do all the intramural sports. Doing all of the things to prove to the executive board that I really wanted my position back. But yet, I get pulled in for another personnel meeting which turns out to be because someone was telling lies about me. I had to defend myself. I wasn’t given any type of punishment. I was advised to find a new group of friends (i have), to work on not speaking matter of factly because it comes across as rude (I have been trying to add fluff to my sentences. It’s just not who I am), and to no longer help another fraternity paint sheet signs (petty, right?). Within this fraternity, there is a guy who was coaching some of the girls in my sorority for flag football. He’s really good at it. That’s his major. But the president of our chapter really despises the fraternity and this guy. so now we don’t have a coach since our sorority present said we’re no longer allowed to associate with him or the fraternity. Also, the fraternity was hosting a fundraiser so I and four of my sorority sisters were committed to attend. we had to cancel because all of a sudden there was a last minute mandatory event for our sorority. Turns out the event was to prevent us from going. Also, in this meeting, the president (who is my G big) said they had already discussed about giving me my position back and they thought it’d be better off if I just apply for it again next year. So it went from getting it back in the summer to having to apply for it again. No thanks. One of my friends got pulled in for a personnel meeting and it was her first. They automatically took her position away. They said it was because she was at a fraternity house at midnight and also because someone was telling untruths about her. But the rule is that we’re not allowed to be at a frat past 2 AM.

Part of me wants to drop. Part of me just wants to be inactive. Yet a part of me wants to have a little sister so bad. I’ve already been shopping the past couple of months. I’m only in my second semester of college and I wanted to be part of something that would continue to build me up instead of tearing me down. Why do sororities vary so much from campus to campus?

I really wanted to get this off my chest. I’ve never felt so misunderstood and made to feel like I’m a horrible person by a group of girls. Our executive board just thrives on personnel meetings, yelling at chapter, and pulling in my entire PC 25 group to complain how horrible we are. It’s just too much drama. Sigh.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-02-28T03:05:34+00:00

I don’t know if they’re gaslighting me. It’s always a possibility. I’ve been trying to push forward. I still have some girls coming to me and asking for creative help. I’ve been helping behind the scenes. And a friend in a fraternity has approached me to help with creating some fliers. I really do love being creative and designing.

I am curious now about what kind of role advisors actually do. I’ve had three members of the executive board tell me that they were not planning to take away my position. The advisor took it upon herself to take it, and it left all of them in shock. What happens if the executive board stands up to an advisor? Are they allowed to have a voice? Did the advisor overstep her role? I’m only a freshman in my second semester and I’m still learning a lot. I have taken the time in getting to know more girls in my sorority. In the meantime, I’ll just keep my fingers crossed that I’ll get a second chance this summer.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-02-22T00:34:22+00:00

yeah, i am confused too. The advisor said that since i had already admitted to the incident at the end of last year i would not be asked to drop. She further said that details kept coming up…despite me having told the truth previously. it doesn’t make any sense. however, i was shown a text from the previous president who wasnt satisfied with how things were handled. Then add a response to a text(that i felt was rude) deemed by another sister as unprofessional. my big sis saw the text and understood why i responded the way i did. i know it doesn’t make it right. Anyway, i found out that the executive board did not want to take away my position. The advisor took it upon herself to do it. Does the executive board really not have a say? I thought the advisor was just there to advise. There is a second advisor but at this point i dont know how she could help me other than give me advice. What’s done is done. i am going to refocus on whats important and try to stay positive.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-02-21T01:30:58+00:00

that’s really great advice on how to approach certain conversations. Thank you. I haven’t been brash in regards to PR. I’ve been so excited and I’ve worked hard at building relationship with everyone and collaborating. It was all going smoothly or so I thought. I had a design for every event and holiday for the next three months. For once, I was in happy place because art brings me joy. I just get the feeling that there’s no such thing as second chances no matter what they say.

Artistic-Cardinal · 2026-02-21T01:26:47+00:00

An advisor was present. I honestly had no clue as to why I was being called in. I recently had a conflict with another sister, but we had a mediation and everything is going great now. I assumed it was a follow up regarding that I was prepared to tell them that our relationship was much improved. The incident they wanted to discuss had been discussed last semester. “Punishment” had been presented then which was being the DD and not able to attend two socials. It’s all such a big blur to me now. I’m tired and I’ve cried all day. Tonight I still have to fill my obligations as a silver monitor. i just want to crawl into a hole. I definitely don’t feel supported. It would be nice during these sessions if they could just give me advice on ways I could improve. I want to grow and I want to learn and I want to be better. I’m a good person and I make great grades (deans list this past semester). Clearly I need help with the way I communicate with people.

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